Last one to post........... Part 19

[eeyoresmountainpals]

The snow is melting....fast. It's supposed to go up to 40 today and it's nice and sunny out. DH just stopped by, he's on day-shift. He said that our end of the county got more snow than the rest of the county. People of the eastern end of the county got nothing and they're trying to figure out why there's no school!

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

I think I'm gonna have to force myself to go take care of some laundry! Be back later.

 

[trappednabox]

The snow is melting....fast. It's supposed to go up to 40 today and it's nice and sunny out. DH just stopped by, he's on day-shift. He said that our end of the county got more snow than the rest of the county. People of the eastern end of the county got nothing and they're trying to figure out why there's no school!

see ya Kathy! Have fun with the laundry

 

[kimmar067]

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[eeyoresmountainpals]

That load of laudry's done. Except for pairing the socks and I'll do that during Days of Our Lives. I swear there has got to be two hundred socks piled on the couch right now!

 

[trappednabox]

That load of laudry's done. Except for pairing the socks and I'll do that during Days of Our Lives. I swear there has got to be two hundred socks piled on the couch right now!

ugh! the dreaded socks

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

ugh! the dreaded socks

I swear they multiply in the laundry! They're worse than rabbits!

And think of me with four guys in the house. All the socks look about the same except for sizes!

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

I didn't get a chance to tell you what DD pulled yesterday!...

First, she calls home about 15 minutes after I got home from work. She knows I hate work on Mondays, she knows I have to walk in the door and get dinner ready and deal with the boys. If DH works on Mondays then the boys have to come in and get started on homework and everything alone, so when I get home they're ready to tell me about their day. So DD knows this is not the best time to call.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

So then she proceeds to ask if she can borrow some money. Before I even asked why I had to tell her that right now is not a good time because our budget is really tight right now. So she says, well remember when you guys went to WDW last October and I wasn't invited? (Okay, lay on the guilt!) Remember you said you would help me if I wanted to go somewhere over spring break. I said, no, I remember saying that we would help if she wanted to go see her friend in FL over spring break. I ask if she wants to go see her friend. No, she wants to go to Gatlinburg...

with her boyfriend (that we don't approve of)....

and wants to stay at the hotel that we always stay at....

and wants me to help finance this!

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

And she can't understand why I'm having a problem with this.

1. I'm not naive, I don't have a problem with the idea that she's going away with her boyfriend. She's old enough to make that decision.

2. How could she even think to go to the hotel we always stay at. This is the hotel that DH and I honeymooned at almost 23 years ago. This is where our kids have grown up going on vacations. This is "OUR" hotel. And she thinks we won't have a problem with her bringing her boyfriend there. I could see it if there were no hard feelings as far as this guy goes but DH can't even say this guys name. He only refers to him by a name I can't put on here! Doesn't she see that if she goes there with her boyfriend it'll never be the same for our family going there again. Am I wrong??

3. And how could she expect me to help her finance this?

And it's not like she was calling to start planning the trip and see if I could help. They wanted to leave last night 'cause she suddenly has time off from work. (Yeah, suddenly has 4 days off because she was suspended from work for being late....again!)

 

[Lyn5]

sorry-I had to finish before it got to late-sorry to hear she didn't enjoy the dance class-but it may be for the better-have you thought of your DD joining TaeKwonDo too???? my DD was thinking about it,but since she already does piano,BB,soccer it was too much for me to handle

Where are thinking of signing her up when she is DSes age...she is still only 3 (almost 4), and we decided we would try soccer (which we think she would enjoy) when she is old enough and maybe swimming again this summer if I can find a better class than last summer...I think she is not ready for a structured class yet...which is fine. I believe in giving opportunities, but not forcing them to enjoy it so, we will try something else later.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

So there's my saga!

DD called back last night to tell me they were on their way to the beach. They decided against Gatlinburg. At least that's good. But she's still going away with #&%#&%#!

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Where are thinking of signing her up when she is DSes age...she is still only 3 (almost 4), and we decided we would try soccer (which we think she would enjoy) when she is old enough and maybe swimming again this summer if I can find a better class than last summer...I think she is not ready for a structured class yet...which is fine. I believe in giving opportunities, but not forcing them to enjoy it so, we will try something else later.

It's so good that you don't want to force the opportunities. You mentioned before that you'll go back to cooking and baking with her. I bet she really enjoys that! And the important thing is that you're doing something that she enjoys!!

 

[Mom2Ashli]

So there's my saga!

DD called back last night to tell me they were on their way to the beach. They decided against Gatlinburg. At least that's good. But she's still going away with #&%#&%#!

Yikes! Why do they have to grow up?

Sorry to hear she put you thru all of that.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Where are thinking of signing her up when she is DSes age...she is still only 3 (almost 4), and we decided we would try soccer (which we think she would enjoy) when she is old enough and maybe swimming again this summer if I can find a better class than last summer...I think she is not ready for a structured class yet...which is fine. I believe in giving opportunities, but not forcing them to enjoy it so, we will try something else later.

Lyn honestly that is the best way. DD does dance because she wants to. I support her 100%. The only thing that I make sure every month is that she still wants to do it before I make the committment with funds.

If she didn't want to, no big deal. We could find something else to do.

But if I pay for the month I do expect her to finish it out.

My neighbor used to pay 100's of dollars for her kids to do diving and cheerleading for them to do it one or two times and than quit. And they are teenagers now and have NO responsibiliies what so ever. They expect everything to be handed to them with NO strings attached. Very sad.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Yikes! Why do they have to grow up?

Sorry to hear she put you thru all of that.

Seems like every time I start to see hope that she's moving away from her boyfriend she pulls something like this. It's so hard. I try not to say much about him but when it comes to something like this I can't just keep my mouth shut. I'm glad that they decided not to go to Gatlinburg because I really feel that it would have changed our feelings as far as it being "OUR" place! But I wish she would just lose the boyfriend. She's been with him 3 years now! UUUUGGGGHHHHHH!~

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Lyn honestly that is the best way. DD does dance because she wants to. I support her 100%. The only thing that I make sure every month that I pay is that she still wants to do it before I make the committment with funds.

If she didn't want to, no big deal. We could find something else to do.

But if I pay for the month I do expect her to finish it out.

My neighbor used to pay 100's of dollars for her kids to do diving and cheerleading for them to do it one or two times and than quit. And they are teenagers now and have NO responsibiliies what so ever. They expect everything to be handed to them with NO strings attached. Very sad.

I agree completely. We don't force our kids to do anything but if they want to do something and we make a financially committment then we expect them to follow through until we're no longer financially committed to it.

Of course, a three year old probably doesn't understand the idea of the financial committment yet!

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Seems like every time I start to see hope that she's moving away from her boyfriend she pulls something like this. It's so hard. I try not to say much about him but when it comes to something like this I can't just keep my mouth shut. I'm glad that they decided not to go to Gatlinburg because I really feel that it would have changed our feelings as far as it being "OUR" place! But I wish she would just lose the boyfriend. She's been with him 3 years now! UUUUGGGGHHHHHH!~

I am really not looking forward to his with DD.

You are at a Darned if you do and darned if you don't situation. You say something about @#$%^$# and she runs and gets closer to him. Or you just let it ride and she stays with @#$%^. Hopefully she will see the light soon or find someone really speical.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

I agree completely. We don't force our kids to do anything but if they want to do something and we make a financially committment then we expect them to follow through until we're no longer financially committed to it.

Of course, a three year old probably doesn't understand the idea of the financial committment yet!

I agree they don't understand that, but DD has been taking dance since she was 3 and I would just ask her if she still wanted to do it. And as long as she did I would pay for the month. But if she didn't it was no big deal.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

I am really not looking forward to his with DD.

You are at a Darned if you do and darned if you don't situation. You say something about @#$%^$# and she runs and gets closer to him. Or you just let it ride and she stays with @#$%^. Hopefully she will see the light soon or find someone really speical.

The whole thing is the hardest thing I've gone through. It really tears at the whole family. I try not to say anything 'cause I know she'll just run to him to rebel. But on the other hand it's so hard not to say anything 'cause of the situation. I can't win!