Kinda bummed

[photobob]

As many of you know I decided to sell my DVC contract due to my wife's health. This weekend would have been the time we would have normally made our annual trip. Our closest friends that are also DVC members are headed down this Sunday and taking my DD along with them. I'm happy my DD is getting to make the trip, she just finished her freshman year in college.

I'd being lying if I said I wasn't sad that DW and I aren't going, we have such great memories from our trips. I miss the anticipation. I keep a happy face for DW, I don't want her knowing of my disappointment, she would feel like it was her fault. (she doesn't read these boards) Excuse my pity party, I just know there are people here who understand!

 

[jekjones1558]

I hear you. Health issues may put me in this position someday too. For me having a trip to anticipate is so important. When DVC is part of your life you cannot expect to just walk away without feeling loss. God bless.

 

[dianeschlicht]

Pine away...Yes, we do understand.

 

[Sammie]

Understand completely and prayers that your wife will get to go again at some point when it is much cooler. Now that your daughter is in college, you will have more flexibility to go in the cooler months.

Come visit with us here anytime.

 

[Granny]

Completely understand...my new job kept me from being able to join DW and DD's a few weeks ago for a trip and I was happy for them but bummed not to be there. But be assured that WDW isn't going anywhere and you are where you need to be.

Besides, it's not like you don't have any pictures from your trips!

Seriously, I feel for you and hope that all goes as well as possible for you and your wife. Best wishes.

 

[photobob]

Thanks guys and gals!

 

[jekjones1558]

Do you think your DW's health might stabilize to the point that you could go sometime in the future? Maybe with less park time and more resort time?

 

[wildernessDad]

photobob, I am sorry to hear about your wife's MS. My wife also has MS, and it has gotten progressively worse over the years. MS conditions vary with some having a relatively milder form and some having acute MS. In our case, we purchased a wheelchair which we take when we are on vacation. I push the chair and load it onto the busses as necessary and the wife gets to sit or use it as a walker as needed. It's worked out well for us, I think. I don't know your specific situation, but perhaps a wheelchair or ECV would work and allow you and your family to continue your DVC vacations. If heat is a concern, you could go during milder times or tour the parks during the morning hours. At any rate, all the best to you and yours.

 

[BEASLYBOO]

I think anyone in your shoes would feel the same! It's hard giving up something that has brought you so much joy and wonderful memories. For me, the anticipation of a trip is a big part of the whole experience, something to look forward to.

I hope you and your family will have future opportunities to go back to Disney even without DVC, who knows what wonderful things the future holds! Good Luck and don't beat yourself up!

 

[dclfun]

Awww....sending {{{hugs}}} to you and I DO understand. You may remember that I sold all but one of my contracts too due to medical reasons. I live very close though to WDW so I can always go for a day visit and I save my points for when my grandkids come down. I'm also hoping you can visit when it's cooler and that your wife will be able to get around if she's comfortable using an ECV or even a power wheelchair. I use one and it's easy to get around WDW- one of the most accessible places in the world. Even though there are attractions I can't enjoy any more, I just love being there and still being able to go down Main Street. I hope the same for your DW and of course for you to be able to return also.

 

[photobob]

Thanks for all the nice comments! We definitely will look a going again in the future, maybe even this winter when temps are cooler! One of my reasons for selling was to relieve pressure she might feel that we MUST go every year. We cancelled two trips and she got so upset thinking I would be disappointed.

We will definitely go at a new pace which will not at all be a problem, I'll enjoy just being there with her! We had already started slowing down and smelling the roses more anyway (DVC will do that to you) and it's not like we haven't done everything 10 times.

The trip last year at this time is what I think really kicked her MS into a higher gear. She hadn't been diagnosed yet, but she knew something was wrong, unbeknownst to me. We are learning more to live within the new reality and travel will be another step. We made a short one night trip to Callaway Gardens in Georgia and managed quite well using the manual wheelchair a couple months ago. She is still self-conscience using the chair but she is getting a little more used to it.

Thanks again for your thoughts and comments and may God bless you all.

 

[job09]

We went through something similar with MIL. She always went with us on our Disney trips, one of the reasons we bought DVC--room to bring her. 10 years ago she was diagnosed with cancer. It has been an up and down journey--some days were good some not. She has been able to go with us almost every year, even after several surgeries (we drive and bring the electric wheel chair). This past spring break was the first time she couldn't come and she cried, it broke my heart. I empathize with what you are going through PhotoBob but I encourage you to go again, Disney is very accomodating and hopefully things will get easier as you both begin to adjust. Take care of yourself too!

 

[DiznyDi]

So sorry to read of your situation. We all understand the disappointment you feel. May you and your wife find comfort in each other as you face this new challenge in your lives.

 

[Cee]

Oh Bob, I completely understand your disappointment. And it's healthy for you to be able to express it because that does help. Especially when you are trying to keep a brave face for your wife. It shows your love and devotion to her that you are being this sensitive to her feelings. But you have feelings too and I know they are hurt watching others enjoy something you miss so much.

Here is some and a big

 

[SamSam]

Understand completely. Of course you feel a sense of disappoinment at not being able to go right now, I think each of us would too.

I hope that with a change in time of year and slowing down, that future trips will be possible for you and your wife.

 

[daisyduck123]

We absolutely understand here Bob. The DVC forum here on the DIS is a great place to vent, isn't it?

I am so glad to hear that your DD gets to go. I also have a DD who just completed here freshman year of college (came home on Thursday). She loves WDW as much as DH & I do.

Keeping you & your DW in my prayers. Take care.

 

[dclfun]

Me again- if you haven't visited the DISabilities section here, you might want to join in and ask any questions about touring WDW with MS. There are several posters who have MS and have found ways to enjoy their trips. Some use cooling vests and like your wife, have had to get used to using some kind of mobility device. Tell your DW I'll race her when she comes down again!

 

[AllieV]

I get it to a smaller degree. I planned our December 2011 trip in the spring of 2011, but in the fall of 2011 my dad was diagnosed with cancer and immediately needed a feeding tube just to get nutrition. I was the only one around to take care of him and did so daily. I debated back and forth whether to cancel but in the end hired three different people to look after him and his dog for the 5 days we were gone (we had rented points, which made it harder to decide). It was a rough 5 days for all of us.

I've recently been bidding on contracts. One I bid on was hard to get a response. The agent said that they'd sold other contracts for these owners, who could no longer go to Disney, but that the sellers were very sad and hesitant to let them go. I couldn't imagine (other than moving out of the country) what those circumstances could be. But it may have been something just like this. Sorry to hear you are going though it.

 

[312.Duck]

I get it to a smaller degree. I planned our December 2011 trip in the spring of 2011, but in the fall of 2011 my dad was diagnosed with cancer and immediately needed a feeding tube just to get nutrition. I was the only one around to take care of him and did so daily. I debated back and forth whether to cancel but in the end hired three different people to look after him and his dog for the 5 days we were gone (we had rented points, which made it harder to decide). It was a rough 5 days for all of us.

Man, that's rough Allie. I was in a similar situation in '09, debating whether to cancel; we still went on our trip. Ours wasn't as quite as crazy as yours, I'm sure, since the person (my mom) passed before the trip, but it was an emotional roller coaster for me. I'm glad I went, though, and Disney was very accommodating in canceling my parents' reservations without severe penalties.