Kinda Bummed

[JimFitz]

I am feeling kinda down. My wife and I have 3 boys, 3 yr old twins and a 2 yr old. Well tonight they were being really bad.....crying, fighting, not listening at all. I really laid into the twins and put them to bed early. Lots of yelling on my part, and I feel bad now.

Now, I come on the computer and find a home video of when the twins were 2 and we were playing in the house and I can't believe how much they have changed, and I am a little sad that they are growing up.

I guess I just feel bad that I yelled at them......my wife says that today was the worst they ever were.

 

[ntburns22]

Is it a full moon? My 3 year old was a real piece of work today.
Here's to a better tomorrow.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Awwww you're a good dad to be so sensitive.

 

[MidgeD79]

haang in there

 

[luvdzne]

Don't worry there are worse days ahead!

Tomorrow give them all big hugs and tell them you love them.

My dds both sometimes get on my last nerves such as today. I hope none of our neighbors were home cause there was a lot of yelling going on. After I had time to calm down I told them that I was sorry that I yelled at them like that. I let them know that I love them very much.

 

[Jeanny]

um, I hate to tell you this, but there are more days like today to come.

 

[2xcited2slp]

Hi Jim,

I am sorry you are feeling down about what happened and the fact that they are growing up so quickly.

I would go into their bedroom, if they are awake, sit down and talk to them, apologize that daddy lost his temper but explain why you did not find their behavior acceptable. If they are sleeping, give them a kiss on the forehead and address it in the morning. "Clear the air" so to speak but make sure they understand why this happened. Then, go out and play ball or something. Show them the fun daddy. Don't feel bad, you were just reacting like any normal parent. Enjoy every moment, because yes, time flies and you cannot turn it back.

Wow, advice from someone who doesn't even have children but knows how it feels, somehow. Maybe I'm totally off here, but this is just how I feel.

 

[luvdzne]

Hi Jim,

I am sorry you are feeling down about what happened and the fact that they are growing up so quickly.

I would go into their bedroom, if they are awake, sit down and talk to them, apologize that daddy lost his temper but explain why you did not find their behavior acceptable. If they are sleeping, give them a kiss on the forehead and address it in the morning. "Clear the air" so to speak but make sure they understand why this happened. Then, go out and play ball or something. Show them the fun daddy. Don't feel bad, you were just reacting like any normal parent. Enjoy every moment, because yes, time flies and you cannot turn it back.

Wow, advice from someone who doesn't even have children but knows how it feels, somehow. Maybe I'm totally off here, but this is just how I feel.

Great advice!

 

[Cool-Beans]

What on Earth could a two or three year old that you would have to yell at them? I honestly don't remember yelling at the kids when they were that little. But it has been a loooong time.

 

[momrek06]

Hi Jim,

I am sorry you are feeling down about what happened and the fact that they are growing up so quickly.

I would go into their bedroom, if they are awake, sit down and talk to them, apologize that daddy lost his temper but explain why you did not find their behavior acceptable. If they are sleeping, give them a kiss on the forehead and address it in the morning. "Clear the air" so to speak but make sure they understand why this happened. Then, go out and play ball or something. Show them the fun daddy. Don't feel bad, you were just reacting like any normal parent. Enjoy every moment, because yes, time flies and you cannot turn it back.

Wow, advice from someone who doesn't even have children but knows how it feels, somehow. Maybe I'm totally off here, but this is just how I feel.

FABULOUS...I ditto this big time, Jim!!! I can so tell you are an awesome dad because of the fact this is bothering you so much and enough to come on here and tell us and VENT!!!

My mom used to tell me, take a deep breathe because just when you think you cannot take it anymore THEY CHANGE!!!

Biggest challenge of our lives...RAISING CHILDREN!!!

Some days we can't live with them and EVERYDAY we can't live WITHOUT them!!!

Ahhh...Jim, hug them daily, hug them 24/7. I have two DS' and they are all grown up (24&20) and I miss them being little every single day. They call me 24/7 and NEVER EVER end a phone conversation with out saying..."I love you, Mom"...amazes me daily...I figured DH & I must have done some good!!!

Keep video-taping them, and great idea to reach for a video when you have had some trying days...it will remind you just how fabulous they really are!!!

And to: 2xcited2slp: WOW, great, great advice...for someone with no children you are "right on the money"!!!

 

[rascalmom]

They grow up so quickly don't they!

Kids are resilient & usually know when they are being brats. Give 'em a hug & kiss and let everyone get a good night's rest (sound like you & Mommy need it). Hope everyone has a happy weekend!

 

[pearlieq]

What on Earth could a two or three year old that you would have to yell at them?

Are you kidding?!?

Between the running wild, yelling, screaming, climbing over everything and everyone, the constant "no!" and "mine!", and temper tantrums, and throwing food, hitting, kicking, biting, sassing back, refusing to eat, coloring on the walls, flushing the remote down the toilet, cutting the dog's hair, cutting YOUR hair you've never found anything to yell at a toddler about???



OP: Sorry you've had a rough day. I'm sure their behavior was unacceptable, but you're still human and it's still irritating. I think clearing the air over breakfast tomorrow is a good idea. Hope you get some time to relax tonight!

 

[momrek06]

Between the running wild, yelling, screaming, climbing over everything and everyone, the constant "no!" and "mine!", and temper tantrums, and throwing food, hitting, kicking, biting, sassing back, refusing to eat, coloring on the walls, flushing the remote down the toilet, cutting the dog's hair, cutting YOUR hair you've never found anything to yell at a toddler about???

YUP, Pearlieq: That about covers everything!!!!

 

[Blondy876]

We had the same kind of day. My 7 year old was banned from going to the pool and sent to bed early because she has just been full of nasty attitude. My dh took our youngest to the pool, the oldest went to her room and I sat down with a glass of wine to Dis. It breaks my heart to have these kinds of days (they are thankfully few and far between) but I know that if we don't deal with the attitude now it's only going to get worse. Ugh, what a day. But we have to do our job as parents even when it sucks. And the kids will be all the better for having boundries.

Tomorrow has to be better. I always tell my oldest that each day is brand new, there are no bad choices or mistakes yet, it's up to her to decide how the day will go.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Are you kidding?!?

Between the running wild, yelling, screaming, climbing over everything and everyone, the constant "no!" and "mine!", and temper tantrums, and throwing food, hitting, kicking, biting, sassing back, refusing to eat, coloring on the walls, flushing the remote down the toilet, cutting the dog's hair, cutting YOUR hair you've never found anything to yell at a toddler about???

I never left a toddler alone with a pair of scissors. Matter of fact, none of my kids could use them at two or three. And none of my kids were sassing back as toddlers.

The rest of it, no, I wouldn't be yelling about any of that. Firm-voiced reprimands with stern, disapproving looks...but not so angry that I'm yelling. Guess I'm the oddball.

 

[pearlieq]

I never left a toddler alone with a pair of scissors. Matter of fact, none of my kids could use them at two or three. And none of my kids were sassing back as toddlers.

The rest of it, no, I wouldn't be yelling about any of that. Firm-voiced reprimands with stern, disapproving looks...but not so angry that I'm yelling. Guess I'm the oddball.

My little godson once got his hands on his Daddy's electric razor. A few minutes later, the dog was missing a stripe!

Any one of those wouldn't get me yelling--it's all of them and over an extended period of time. Sometimes even the best of us get worn down. Heck--even my CATS can make me want to scream when they go on a long campaign of acting up!

I admire that you were able to keep your cool when the kids got trying, but I'm willing to give a harried parent the benefit of the doubt from time to time! Kids are good at pushing your buttons!

 

[Cool-Beans]

I admire that you were able to keep your cool when the kids got trying, but I'm willing to give a harried parent the benefit of the doubt from time to time! Kids are good at pushing your buttons!

I'm not slamming the OP for yelling, I just thought perhaps since the OP said he did "lots of yelling" that the kids had something extraordinary...like the poster whose kid peed on the floor when she was mad at mommy! That was funny (to me, probably not so much to the mom.)

Everyone can yell at their kids all day, every day for all I care. Sorry it sounded like I was slamming the OP. That wasn't my intention.

 

[pearlieq]

Everyone can yell at their kids all day, every day for all I care. Sorry it sounded like I was slamming the OP. That wasn't my intention.

I totally didn't mean to imply you were!

Some people just have longer fuses than others. You could knock my DH over and steal his lunch money and he'd remind you to buy something healthy with it. Me, I get wound a little faster...

 

[Planogirl]

I think that MOST of us have had our moments of yelling. Kids at that age can try anyone's patience IMO. Besides well-placed yelling can get their attention as someone I know once said.

 

[Serena]

Hi Jim,

I am sorry you are feeling down about what happened and the fact that they are growing up so quickly.

I would go into their bedroom, if they are awake, sit down and talk to them, apologize that daddy lost his temper but explain why you did not find their behavior acceptable. If they are sleeping, give them a kiss on the forehead and address it in the morning. "Clear the air" so to speak but make sure they understand why this happened. Then, go out and play ball or something. Show them the fun daddy. Don't feel bad, you were just reacting like any normal parent. Enjoy every moment, because yes, time flies and you cannot turn it back.

Wow, advice from someone who doesn't even have children but knows how it feels, somehow. Maybe I'm totally off here, but this is just how I feel.

Again, great advice. We all lose our tempers now and then.