Kids w/Acrylic Nails

[cinmell]

I stopped being shocked by the decisions parents make 5 years ago when a few of my pre-K (4 years old) students started wearing bras.

I have a co-worker that started buying her daughter boy short panties and thongs when she was in 2nd grade.

You can't be serious!?!?!?!?!?

 

[CF'er]

You can't be serious!?!?!?!?!?

Never too early to get that callous started. just kidding

I can't stand to wear them myself I certainly wouldn't want my DD wearing them at that age. Maybe as a punishment. Hey, that could work. LOL

 

[disneyjunkie]

You can't be serious!?!?!?!?!?

Very serious

The bra thing started because I few of the girls had older sisters. One family was bra shopping for the preteen when the preschooler started crying because she wasn't included. The only way the mom could stop the crying was to buy the 4 year old a bra.

The first thing she did came to school wearing it was to pull up her shirt and show the whole class. Of course all the other girls wanted bras. A few idiot parents gave in.

The girl that started it has been getting her nails done since she was 5. She's is in the 4th grade now. I saw her last week and her nails look better than mine.

The thong kid She's constantly running around the building showing off the sexy outfits her mom buys for her. About four months ago she came into my room to show me the lastest outfit.

Child: "Ms.XXX look what my mom bought me, isn't it SEXY" Yes she used
the word sexy.
Me: "How old are you now?"
Child: "10"
Me" "10 year olds aren't suppose to be sexy."

That was the last outfit I saw.

 

[OK!]

Good Lord. I can't imagine them being safe for a child that young! Shoot, I'm over 30 and I hurt myself more often than I care to think about with my short, natural nails.

 

[cinmell]

Very serious

The bra thing started because I few of the girls had older sisters. One family was bra shopping for the preteen when the preschooler started crying because she wasn't included. The only way the mom could stop the crying was to buy the 4 year old a bra.

The first thing she did came to school wearing it was to pull up her shirt and show the whole class. Of course all the other girls wanted bras. A few idiot parents gave in.

The girl that started it has been getting her nails done since she was 5. She's is in the 4th grade now. I saw her last week and her nails look better than mine.

The thong kid She's constantly running around the building showing off the sexy outfits her mom buys for her. About four months ago she came into my room to show me the lastest outfit.

Child: "Ms.XXX look what my mom bought me, isn't it SEXY" Yes she used
the word sexy.
Me: "How old are you now?"
Child: "10"
Me" "10 year olds aren't suppose to be sexy."

That was the last outfit I saw.

Wow, just wow!

 

[lyzziesmom]

Is there any age limit to how long these kids can remain in middle school? I'm just thinking about how in a little over a year, my dd will be entering middle school as an 11 y.o. 6th grader and NO WAY do I want her riding a bus or walking the halls with 17 y.o.'s.

I graduated high school with a "boy" who was just shy of his 22nd birthday. The amount of applause in the theater when he walked across the stage was thunderous. I thought it was just ridiculous -- the guy was still an idiot, but they obviously just wanted him out of the school system.

I stopped being shocked by the decisions parents make 5 years ago when a few of my pre-K (4 years old) students started wearing bras.

I have a co-worker that started buying her daughter boy short panties and thongs when she was in 2nd grade.

Yikes! My 2nd grader has a friend who often wears her mother's clothes which of course just hang off of her. My mom always offers the kid a tank top to wear underneath those shirts, because the neckline is sometimes almost to her waist. The girl calls the tanks a "bra." I tried to get my DD8 to wear the boy shorts, because she complains of wedgies with her normal panties. She was grossed out by the boy shorts. Thongs? Forget it, they completely confuse her. Once she figured out what they are (from seeing them in the store) she thought they were so nasty!!

Of course all the other girls wanted bras. A few idiot parents gave in.

That's just sad. Do the parents really think they are doing their child a favor? What ever happened to, "If XXX's parents let her jump off a cliff, would you want to jump too?" or just a simple "H-e-double-hockey-sticks NO!!"

As for the kids who want to look sexy, I'd bet dollars to donuts that most of those kids don't even know the meaning of the word. They are just copying behaviors that they see/hear at home. If I tell my DD8 she looks sexy (a shoulder strap slipping down or something simple) she will do the "EEewwww, Maaaah-aaaaaahhhhm!" eye roll and immediately change her clothes.

 

[CF'er]

Good Lord. I can't imagine them being safe for a child that young! Shoot, I'm over 30 and I hurt myself more often than I care to think about with my short, natural nails.

Until I read those words I thought you were talking about thongs.

 

[sha_lyn]

I don't understand the outrage at "bras". I'm assuming you are taking about just plain flat training type bras that aren't really more than 1/2 an undershirt.
My 9 DD has been wearing that type of "bras" instead of an undershirt for about 4 yrs. She wears them for Martial arts mostly(or as an under layer of clothing in cold weather), or had you rather she flash a nipple if her dobok top gaps open during class or competition.

It's not like you are talking about them wearing bras with cups and stuffing them

 

[sha_lyn]

oh and what is wrong with boy-short style underwear?

 

[goofinoff]

I work at a makeup counter and you would be shocked at how many mothers stop by with thier 7, 8, 9 year old daughters and want them to have a full face of makeup....foundation and everything. I asked one woman if it was for a pagent or a show and she said "No, it's for school...do you have a problem putting it on her?" I told her it was her decision but her daugter had beautiful (8 year old) skin that didn't really need foundation. She insisted that she have it. I couldn't believe it! Childhood is too short to be rushing them into adulthood!

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I never had a manicure until my senior prom...I wasn't allowed to wear make-up or paint my nails until I was 15....my mom flipped out when I got my belly button peirced when I was 21 and not living at home anymore.

I personally cannot stand seeing little girls all made up to look like they are teenagers or older....the sight of a bikini in toddler sizes????? SICK. My mom and I have our own word for them--prostitots.

 

[Mickeyluver37]

This reminds me of a conversation I had recently with another (15 years older than me) mom. Our dd's are the same age, but she has an 8th grader. She was appalled at the kids that were wearing make up and shaving their legs in middle school, as she doesn't allow it. I thought it sounded typical, from what I remember. I understand that the caked on make-up can be too much, but I certainly can't have imagined waiting until HS to shave my legs.

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

Very serious

The bra thing started because I few of the girls had older sisters. One family was bra shopping for the preteen when the preschooler started crying because she wasn't included. The only way the mom could stop the crying was to buy the 4 year old a bra.

The first thing she did came to school wearing it was to pull up her shirt and show the whole class. Of course all the other girls wanted bras. A few idiot parents gave in.

The girl that started it has been getting her nails done since she was 5. She's is in the 4th grade now. I saw her last week and her nails look better than mine.

The thong kid She's constantly running around the building showing off the sexy outfits her mom buys for her. About four months ago she came into my room to show me the lastest outfit.

Child: "Ms.XXX look what my mom bought me, isn't it SEXY" Yes she used
the word sexy.
Me: "How old are you now?"
Child: "10"
Me" "10 year olds aren't suppose to be sexy."

That was the last outfit I saw.

Amen!

When I graduated 8th grade, I got my first manicure - French.

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

This reminds me of a conversation I had recently with another (15 years older than me) mom. Our dd's are the same age, but she has an 8th grader. She was appalled at the kids that were wearing make up and shaving their legs in middle school, as she doesn't allow it. I thought it sounded typical, from what I remember. I understand that the caked on make-up can be too much, but I certainly can't have imagined waiting until HS to shave my legs.

As soon as you have underarm hair, you have the right to shave if you want to - (JMO). I started in 6th/7th grade, whenever that stuff appeared, I did my legs along with it.

I was allowed to use any make up I wanted, but had to leave the house without it. In Catholic school, a light coat of brown mascara, translucent powder and Bonne Bell lip sheers went unnoticed, but girls were routinely made to scrub their faces of anything with noticeable color.

 

[LucyStorm]

I had my daughter's nails done with acrylic when she was about in 3rd grade. Why you ask? Because she was a nail biter, and it was an attempt to allow her nails to grow and get her out of the habit. But it didn't work, it took her a little longer, but she bit off the acrylic nails too. Hasn't had them since.....

Just another perspective on why a 3rd grader might have acrylic nails.

 

[lyzziesmom]

I had my daughter's nails done with acrylic when she was about in 3rd grade. Why you ask? Because she was a nail biter, and it was an attempt to allow her nails to grow and get her out of the habit. But it didn't work, it took her a little longer, but she bit off the acrylic nails too. Hasn't had them since.....

Just another perspective on why a 3rd grader might have acrylic nails.

Acrylic nails are a heck of a lot worse for natural nails than biting them are. There is a product called Thum that you can just paint on the nails, it dries in 5 seconds, doesn't peel off and tastes awful. Of course some kids learn to like the taste. But I just can't imagine thinking acrylics would be better for the nails than biting them!

I had a friend who was not allowed to shave her legs or underarms until she turned 16 - she would have been in the 12th grade by then. Her family was from Russia, and I guess it was a cultural thing with them? But her mom told her no way, no how. The poor girl was very hairy and her leg hair was dark and thick by the time she was 13, she was so embarrassed that she never wore shorts or skirts and we lived in Ft. Lauderdale. She was so beautiful too, but she was socially shunned because of her body hair when anyone did see her legs. But shaving is a completely different issue, IMO, than things like acrylic nails, tattoos, piercings and heavy makeup use. Almost ALL American girls will eventually start shaving... not all will end up with fake nails, tattoos, piercings and/or wearing tarty makeup.

 

[poohandwendy]

LOL, how did I miss this thread?

As a licensed manicurist, there is NO WAY I would put acrylic on a young child. For a few reasons and none of them have to do with my personal opinion of whether or not it's the 'right' moral decision.

a) Acrylic nails damage your natural nails, there is no way around that fact. Not permanently, in most cases, but at least temporarily. They definitely would not curb a nail biting problem (as a manicurist should have advised the previous poster who mentioned it) If anything, they give a nail biter more to bite- and obviously less healthy if they ingest the acrylic) And then, when you remove the acrylic they have damaged, brittle, weak nails that are ragged and more likely to be bitten.

b) Would not take the risk that a young child would develop an allergy to the chemicals, which is not uncommon even with adults.

c) Most young kids have nail beds that are very small and would be difficult applying the acrylic and all of the filing/buffing involved.

d) Most young kids don't have the patience to sit still long enough for the application (even with a mini-manicure, most young kids are fidgety).

e) Young kids usually have very thin, moist nail beds, acrylic just does not adhere well in that environment. It's likely they would pop off easily or at least lift. Not only that, some of the general filing needed may bother them because their nails are so thin to begin with.


I wouldn't take the liability and I wouldn't waste mine or their time (and the parents money) applying acrylic on a pre-puberty aged child. The youngest I did was 15 or 16, IIRC. I turned down many parents when they asked me to put 'fake nails' on their kids. I think some of them 'got it' when I explained why and I think others thought I was making excuses based on a moral judgement call, even when I wasn't.

 

[TexasCourt]

Acrylic nails on a child = absolutely ridiculous. Hands down.

 

[ducklite]

A friend of mine is a nail tech. She has been asked many times to work on the artificial nails that were on young girls. (She doesn't apply artificial nails herself for a variety of reasons, the chemicals being #1) She finds it appalling that girls as young as eight years old have had full sets of acrylics. I agree with her.

IMHO until a girl is well into her teens, a plain manicure is quite enough, with maybe a coat of a light pink or clear polish.

Anne

 

[lyeag]

I think it is crazy and, ahem, trashy. Let little girls be little. Lord knows the world is pushing them to grow up too fast as it is.