I'm so sorry that happened to you!!! Some people!
I had a similar thing happen, but it wasn't family.
I made a custom appliqued set, shirt & pants, for a little boy (his dad & my DH have worked together for the last 7+ years and our oldest children are both 5yrs old and a mere 4 months apart). I stayed up all night making it, at the last minute & it turned out great! ...
At the party the next day, as he opened it & totally went ga-gaa over it = his grandmother said to the person NEXT TO ME, "what?! they couldn't find something store-bought to give to him! Geez!" ... She didn't know it was ME, standing 2.5 feet from her, that had made it, especially for him. And I'd be willing to bet money, that she does not sew, nor is crafty, so has no idea what went into making it.
oh well. At least the little boy & his mom loved it!
I don't really have an extended family, so the FAMILY I made is reeeeally important to me. ... I've watched my friends' & co-worker's bigger families over the years = I've been dumbfounded that people treat each other/relatives the way they do sometimes. Sometimes, they treat strangers better than they do their own blood. ... I'm not sure anymore, what's worse, having a big family or not. ... I HOPE by my growing up without much of a family, I can impress upon my girls, the importance of loving the family they do have