Although what I am really craving is a cherry danish from the MK bakery!
Hi Angie! I know exactly how you feel.
The fat, shy girl here. Hi, Im Sara. Ive been on the boards since 2005 and have posted lots but can be shy. I always seem to miss the chat's online. I love the podcasts and am trying to post more
Oh, you all can find me on Facebook, Im Sara McWhirter.
This "not fitting in" stuff comes up from time to time. The folks who have been the most cliquey and exclusive know who they are and they'll knock themselves out welcoming everyone to their little group for about a week or two (they don't want to appear cliquey and exclusive) and then it goes back to business as usual with the thread hijackings, inside jokes, in-banter and ignoring anyone who isn't in their little club.
I'm not anti-clique. I'm pro-clique. I see nothing wrong with it. People make friends on the internet, but they aren't friends with every member of the board. How can they be?
Eventually, the clique either implodes with members fighting with each other or they just get sick of each other...and a new clique starts up. Very often the new clique is started by someone saying, "I'm left out" and all the other left-outers join them. Then they're the cool group until it all comes full circle.
If you aren't part of the clique, don't feel bad. Start your own. Seriously. Just start a thread titled, "I'm not part of the club" or "I'm not popular here" or whatever and then ask if there is anyone else like that...soon, you'll have your own little band of merry DISers.
Just as in high school, the cliques aren't all they're cracked up to be. And just like in high school, most of the people there aren't in the in-club. And many of them don't want to be - find those folks, they're everywhere!
LOL, I'm a pie girl myself.
I know exactly how you feel about not fitting in at school, I had a big target on my forehead it seemed, and my caring about other people left me vulnerable. I can't wait 'till I can do a big Dis event and meet lots more people!
I'm single, love to travel, be outdoors, to cook crazy new concoctions (made a fun one today lol), and talk about Disney! Started listening to the podcast last summer and have listend to all the shows since July and am now making my way through from the beginning. Look forward to talking to all of you more
Hello all!
I was going to start the same kind of thread today to say hello to everyone after listening to the show today on my walk! My name is Susan, I'm 38, from NJ, and a special ed teacher. Have been teaching autistic kids for 16 years and love love love my job. I'm a DVC member and also love love love Disney
This "not fitting in" stuff comes up from time to time. The folks who have been the most cliquey and exclusive know who they are and they'll knock themselves out welcoming everyone to their little group for about a week or two (they don't want to appear cliquey and exclusive) and then it goes back to business as usual with the thread hijackings, inside jokes, in-banter and ignoring anyone who isn't in their little club.
I'm not anti-clique. I'm pro-clique. I see nothing wrong with it. People make friends on the internet, but they aren't friends with every member of the board. How can they be?
Eventually, the clique either implodes with members fighting with each other or they just get sick of each other...and a new clique starts up. Very often the new clique is started by someone saying, "I'm left out" and all the other left-outers join them. Then they're the cool group until it all comes full circle.
If you aren't part of the clique, don't feel bad. Start your own. Seriously. Just start a thread titled, "I'm not part of the club" or "I'm not popular here" or whatever and then ask if there is anyone else like that...soon, you'll have your own little band of merry DISers.
Just as in high school, the cliques aren't all they're cracked up to be. And just like in high school, most of the people there aren't in the in-club. And many of them don't want to be - find those folks, they're everywhere!
LOL, I'm a pie girl myself.
I'm not targeting anyone here. Or trying to start issues. It's more of a DIS history re: cliques, for newbies who feel left-out. I don't even know who the clique people are now or who the people are that feel left out.
I just have seen this before - a bunch of times - on the DIS.
I think it is great that people make friends and have their cliques. It's a lot of fun for them and they don't generally even realize that other people have been ignored/excluded until it is brought to their attention, at which point they knock themselves out trying to be non-cliquey. But they soon realize they can't be BFFs with everyone and hang with their pals. Eventually, they all get sick of each other or there is a falling out and a new clique becomes the hijacking, in-joke crowd.
And Lord knows there can be more than one clique! So anyone who is left out and doesn't understand the jokes, etc. can start their own.
Nothing wrong with any of it.
