Just needing to vent :-(

[karentan]

Bit of back story, it's my 30th birthday on Monday and we were planning on driving from essex to Glasgow on the Thursday to have a few days staying with gary's parents then a night out in Aberdeen on Saturday to celebrate my birthday.
Well I'm at work Monday and I get a call from Gary to say his dad's been taken into hospital with a suspected stroke. I managed to get tuesday and Wednesday off work and we drove up to Glasgow 1am tuesday morning.
After a load of tests the hospital says it's not a stroke but he's got a brain tumour. They won't know how bad it is till they do more tests after the weekend but fingers crossed it's not spread and that they can treat it somehow.
Obviously it's shaken Gary and his mum up pretty bad but I've been trying to stay objective,level headed and supportive, driving them to the hospital and taking his mum shopping etc.
Gary's obviously having to stay up here for the time being to help his mum out and I'm now going to be driving back down Monday on my own because I need to go back to work
Basically what this is all getting at is that I've been trying to stay strong for them, but I've just woken up and am really upset *** its just hit me that I'm going to be spending my 30th alone and in the car on my own all day. Please don't think I'm being selfish by saying that given the bigger picture, but I think I've been so preoccupied with everything over the last few days, that I'm just kinda upset that I'm basically on my own for the indefinite future and what was supposed to be a great celebratory weekend has turned into verging on a nightmare.
Sorry but I just needed to get that out and vent a bit, just really upset at the mo and got nobody else to talk to.

 

[pixiepower04]

So sorry to hear about Gary's dad and you're right to stay strong and be positive for them. I'm sorry you'll be alone for your birthday but i'm sure Gary will, if nothing else, at least wish you a happy birthday.

When things have calmed down a bit and if everything goes okay with his dad maybe you can have a belated birthday bash.

I used to work in London and people used to moan about having to work the weekend, my answer was always 'this is London - any day is a weekend', my point being that the celebration can happen any time, any where just as long as you're with the people you care most about.

Keep your chin up hun, I had a similar experience with my mum when she passed and DH being my rock got me through it, i'm sure Gary & co will be so grateful for your love and strength.

Happy birthday for Monday

 

[jackieleanne]

So sorry to here about your father in law and about your horrible week.

As previously said you celebrate your birthday when everything's back and when thing's get a little better. An happy birthday for Monday. x

 

[mandymouse]

So sorry to hear about Gary's dad, and you have done the right thing by staying strong for both him and his mum

Sorry that your birthday celebrations have been put on hold for a while, I know it sucks, but I hope Gary is home soon so that you can celebrate a belated birthday

Hugs to you all, and I hope you still have a lovely birthday hun x

 

[Dollyrar]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this terrible ordeal

It's ok to feel the way you feel, you're not being selfish in my opinion. It's always the unknown about these situations that causes the most upset, I feel
I am sure if it was the other way around, your partner would be feeling the same way. I guess all you can do is just accept that celebrations are going to be have to put on hold for your birthday. I am sure that when the time comes to celebrate though, it will be all the better.
Take care x

 

[alisonbestford]

xx

 

[mark&sue]

sorry to hear your family's bad news. I hope you have a safe journey and can look ahead to celebrate your birthday fairly soon.

It must be miserable to drive such a long way on your own especially on your birthday.

Stay strong and take care


susan

 

[PJB71]

Happy Birthday Karen, hope you manage to have a reasonable day under the circumstances

 

[Ware Bears]

Don't think you're selfish at all, if you can't vent with your DIS friends then where can you.

Hope you had a safe journey home today and sending for you, Gary, his Mum and his Dad.