Just found out we are having Baby Boy#3.. Why is everyone saying "Sorry" to me??

[belle&beast]

Let me tell you- I have a 4 yo daughter and a 2 yo son, and my son is definitely the easier going of the 2! I feel like we have hit the preteen years already with the opinion on EVERYTHING- clothes, shoes, etc. My DS just goes with the flow, he wears whatever is available, and it is less expensive to clothe him! I have to admit when I found out I was pregnant with him I really wanted another girl so that we could reuse everything we had, but I wouldn't trade my little prince for the world. My DD and DH have that special daddy-daughter bond and my son and I have a special mommy-son bond. As for names our DS is Anthony John and we call him Anthony. Right now nobody calls him Tony (that is DH's name) but his sister started calling him "Ant" and it has stuck.

 

[Sleeping~Beauty]

Congratulations on your pregnancy and your wonderful family!

People that say something like that are basically idiots. Jealousy can be why they say it. They envy what you have.

I currently have two beautiful boys, and people stop me to look at them all the time. I dress them in adorable outfits. We have so much fun, and our love knows no bound.


We would love more children, not worrying about the gender of the child. I like my role as princess of the household. I have all the girly girly things, and I have my little princes. Can't beat that.

 

[runwad]

I think having all of one sex is cool but I have 2 girls and a boy, always wanted 4 but after that last boy no way he wears me out. Mine are all close in age and I always dressed the girls alike and tried to get their brother as close in his outfit to theirs as I could...that was fun and it's sad that they're growing so fast and no longer want to dress alike. But with that being said I kinda do feel that every mother needs a daughter and every father needs a son and am glad that we do have both sexes in our family. But I'd of been tickled pink if I had had 3 girls...then I probably would've had that 4th and got my boy then anyway so it'd of been a win/win for us either way. Congratulations and enjoy and don't worry about what others say.

 

[ENSOCK]

Congrates on your baby! NO matter what the sex is just be happy to have a heathly baby. My oldest son had sleep apnea when he was born (it runs in DH's family) so we were blessed that he outgrew it. Our second son was born without any problems.
Just tell the stupid people who ask if you are disappointed with a 3rd boy, NO, I love them all.

By the way my beautiful boys are Seth Adam and Patrick Joseph. I wanted to name Patrick, Sean but DH shot that down.

Good Luck and God Bless!

 

[glass slipper girl]

Someone mentioned less drama with boys and I had to share this. The day after we found out DS #2 was a boy we went to Chuck E. Cheese for a birthday party. A friend, who has 2 daughters and because of that thinks that I must just not be able to live without the temptation of throwing myself out a window for not having girls myself had been telling me how sorry she was for me and how we should definitely have 3rd and what we should do to "get our girl." We took our kids to the bathroom and in the bathroom there is this girl about maybe 11 or so. She's crying and all her little girlfriends are around her trying to calm her down. Her mother finally comes in and sends the girlfriends out and talks to her DD. Turns out the tears are because this girl had on a skirt and no one else there did so she thought everyone in Chuck E Cheese was looking at her funny b/c she didn't have on jeans and she was just SO MAD at her mother for "ruining her life" because she wouldn't take her down the street to Old Navy to buy new jeans. The Mom is saying "I told you to wear jeans but you insisted on wearing the skirt. You look lovely and if people are looking at you it's either b/c you look so lovely or b/c they think you are acting like a child for crying over not having on jeans!!!!" Mom tells her to turn off the waterworks or they will just go home. They leave the bathroom and I looked at my friend and said "yeah....I'm glad this one is a boy too! I will never have to deal with that sort of situation!"

I also totally get the name thing. We're out of boy names too. :lol My son's are Brandon Richard and Connor Grant. The names on the list for this one include Aidan, Ethan, Matthew, Carson and Alex. Of course DH and I can't agree on names from that list...but that's the list as of now. Just like others have mentioned, if we hear "it's a girl!" at the next sonogram, we have a name for her no problem.

 

[mrsltg]

People are ridiculous. I have 2 dd's and people are constantly asking if we're going to try for a boy. Apparently the lack of male genitalia is something to be dreaded? People actually feel sorry for my dh... We are thinking about another baby, but not so we can have a boy.

All that said, I can understand why you were taken aback at first. I wouldn't have a 4th with the idea of having a girl next time, though. Statistically you are more likely to have another boy (same thing if you have all girls). Babies are wonderful no matter what is in their diaper!!!

 

[Grendalynn]

Thank you to everyone for all of the great feedback! I am so happy and extatic with the feed back and stories I have recieved! I have related and sympathuzed with so many of the things I have read on here that I realize that I am not alone...

I thank my lucky stars everyday that we are lucky enough to have 2 children already and one on the way. And as many have said - our family was not complete with two. A girl would have been great for the third, but a boy will fit right in! We actually realized when we were at Disney in October that our family was not complete, we were going to try for #3. Things were put into perspective and away we went. We didn't get a Disney Cruise souviner, but Thats the Disney feeling for ya!

I coach 2 seasons of sports at the junior high, Girls field hockey and Softball, and while I will miss out on the girl sports, pink things and having that mother-daughter bond, I am also relieved that I will not have to deal with the hormones and boy issues, puberty, cloths fettishes, and Wedding payments to name a few... But I will have to deal with Baseball moms and psycho sports dads (don't get offended by that comment - most parents are great during their kids sporting events, but I have seen my fair share of crazies). I guess I will just have to join the crowd as they say....

Well, on that note - I will be sure to check as more posts are posted, or so I hope more will be. The boys are chomping at the bit to go out on the 4 wheeler and go to Daddy's truck shop.

PS-> I think that we may have settled on a baby name - as of this morning: Gabriel James... "Gabe" for short and James is my Dad's name.... What do you all think? I also really like Wilder, but DH thinks of Van Wilder and I think people will say, "Oh - the more they come, the WILDER they get!?" ha ha
A previous poster had mentioned that whole name association thing... You come up with an great name, then someone says - Oh I know a --- who is ---..... And having a mom and sister who are teachers, I work in the School System myself and coach, there is alwasy some isssue with every name! It stinks!! But we don't know any Gabes, but Wilder isnt in any Baby Books ... Time will tell....

The other names on our list are: Callum, Jameson, Wilder, Carter, Ryder and Logan and a few other but these are the best. DS7 is (Walter) Henry IV ((think we had a little family pressure there or what?? but now I can't see him as anything else but "Henry")) and DS3 is Brayden "Brady' Owen, which are rare names in our area, and I like it that way. Despite the New England Patriots and all. However I have found Logan to be more common that I had realized!

 

[3PRINCESSMOM]

Long story...short:
We got all of the same reactions when we had our 3rd girl (we hadn't found out ahead of time). I couldn't believe what some of our closest family and friends had to say. I was really shocked at the time, and it has definitely effected our relationship with some of them.

However, people were as insensitive with their remarks when we found out ahead of time that baby #4 was in fact a boy. In front of my girls they would say things like, "you must be so relieved" or "can you imagine 4 girls? Oh my God!" "Thank God its a boy" I would do my best to respond in a way that clearly showed how offended I was. "We thank god for blessing us and we'll thank him again when we count 10 fingers and 10 toes." Amazing, isn't it? I believe some people are born without the proper filters!

Congratulations! I am always glad to hear about a family of boys to balance out all of the girls we have.

 

[grlzmom]

Congratulations on the expecting DS #3.

Your boys will love having each other to play with. I LOVE all the possible names you have picked out.

I know all too well the comments people make, opening their mouths and speaking before a thought enters their heads

We are parents to 6 dds and 1 ds, and ds happens to be the youngest (by two minutes, his dd twin is older), and we CONSTANTLY get comments.

We cant go out in public without several people commenting on whether they are all mine or not, and how they feel sorry for poor dh, and now how they feel sorry for poor ds and of course how we must have been trying for a boy. Ugh. Now its gotten so bad, that when dd16 and dd15 take the twins out (3 yo but very small), people have actually asked if they are THEIR children and have made comments about teen pregnancy.

I have given up trying to respond and simply smile and think evil thoughts in my head.

I do think that most people have good intentions and really simply dont think before opening their mouths.

Suprisingly, we have gotten many nice comments from elderly ladies who like to tell us stories of their big families and many siblings and how they grew up.

Hope the rest of your pregnancy is enjoyable and easy!!

 

[Jules123]

I know exactly how you feel! When I found out my third was ANOTHER boy, I was floored. Everyone kept telling me - oh, you poor thing - you need a girl. Each of my boys is special and unique in their own way. I wouldn't trade them in on any PINK! Now people comment on how sweet it is when I'm out with my three blond haired, blue eyed boys. Enjoy your boys!

 

[sara74]

My vote for names is Jamison! It is DH's name and I love it but he doesn't want a son to share his name so we aren't using it. Maybe a grandchild will have it someday...

We are expecting child #3 and our kids are DD4 and DS2, this will be another DS. I'll admit that I did want another daughter but it was for all the cute clothing!!!! I will save so much on Gymboree that it is nuts!!!! DS is so sweet and cuddly and DD is a wonder herself, so I feel blessed with all of them. I have to say that I am glad to have the same sex kids be close in age as I think they will have more in common - having sons 6 and 4 for example, than daughters 8 and 4. Here I sit with a huge PG belly with #3 and I keep talking to DH about a fourth! At this point I would want another DS I think, but of course we would be happy just to have another healthy child if we decided to take that plunge!

Go for Jamison! And go for a fourth if you want a baby, not for one or the other!

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

Hello all Disney Families!

We just found out last Tuesday that we are expecting Baby Boy #3 in October! While it has taken me a week or so to come to terms with this, as horrible as it sounds, I am looking for some insight as to what life will be like with 3 boys.

I am tickled to think that I will have a great bunch of little boys in my life, I also think that we yearn for that pink stuff - DH mostly. Everyone kept saying to us when we first found out that were were pregnant, "Oh - trying for a little girl, eh?" Well, Yes and No, I thought. "Doesn't matter, as long as its healthy" is all we always said. But now I am not sure what to think. Was I kind of disappointed that is a boy?? Should we try for #4 being a girl later down the road or stick with our 3 kid limit???

I have had so many peple act like they are disappointend for us or that I should be disappointed that we are having anther little boy. They are like, "aww, really?" or "are you OK with that?" Well, the higher power was ok with giving us another little boy, so I guess I should be too!! Not to sound super spiritual or anything, but what can I say?

I am sure this sounds so selfish as there are many great people out there that would do most anything to have a child of their own, be it a boy or a girl. Please don't flame me, I am just looking for a little insight, advice or whatever anyone wants to throw at me, rescpecfully and nicely of course!!

I am the 4th of the 5 girls in my family (no brothers), so I guess its only natural that I get DS#3. I could take after my parents and keep trying for the Girl, but I don't think 5 kids are in the cards for us. Not to mention I never had a brother, so a boy wasn't in my parents cards either. I already have the blue stuff from our first 2 boys, all the boys toys, can understand their mentality and such. Not sure if I would know what to do with a girl at this rate??!! LOL Thank goodness I have 4 nieces that I can get my girl/pink fix with them, then send them home.... ha ha .... Junior High should be easier for us, or so I hope. I rememeber what my sisters and I put our parents throgh. My poor dad - no wonder he was so grey haired so early!

I am not really sure what I am looking for here, except maybe a little insight, advice or stories or what not. I have accepted that we will have another darling little boy. But whats with everyone thinking I should be upset by this? Its healthy and thats should be all that matters .....

Does anyone have any great site out there for Baby names? Now I know what kind of name I am looking for!!

Congratulations!!!

As to the question I highlighted- my parents had three boys in the late 60's and in 1979, when the boys were 12-17 years old, I came along- a surprise, I may add.

So, I say- have a fourth if you want to! I think I'm fun to have around.

My mom would probably say- be careful what you wish for!

Good luck with the new baby and with everything else!

 

[trulygoofy]

PS-> I think that we may have settled on a baby name - as of this morning: Gabriel James... "Gabe" for short and James is my Dad's name.... What do you all think?

I was excited to see you like the name Gabriel. It is my favorite boy name. I was going to post it as a suggestion after I had finished reading all of the posts. My son's middle name is Gabriel, and sometimes I wish we used it as his first name. Gabe is cute too. His grandfather was called Gabe. He is our 4th, and when we had #5 I was worried that I could not come up with another boy name.

We have 3 boys and 2 girls and everyone says we should even it out. I think everyone just wants to make conversation, and most people don't mean to be rude. When I was pregnant with #4 and with #5 people would ask me "Don't you know what causes that?", and I liked to respond, "No, what?" with a straight face. The other person never knew what to say. People also ask "Are they all yours?". I don't mind because that is the first thing I think when I see someone with 5 kids, but I know it drives some people crazy to be asked that.

All of my kids are close, but the boys tend to stick together and the girls tend to stick together. I bet when your boys grow up, they will be glad they have two other brothers to hang out with.

 

[KathyRN137]

Congratulations!!

I am the oldest of six girls. My parents used to get all kinds of comments from family, friends, and even strangers!

They weren't planning on this. The most common comment was about "trying and trying for a boy", but they just "took what God gave them"!

God has given you another precious gift; I am so happy for you!

 

[PracPerfPatricia]

Congrats! you are going to have another beautiful son and that is a blessing! One of my best friends has 4 sons all two years apart and it is one of the most joyful households I know.

I have no idea where this idea of one of each came from-historically women who produced sons were revered!!!! So historically you are something of a goddess...

I adore my two children, girl and boy and they are loved for who they are not because they are a girl or a boy. (I also had several miscarriages and would have loved those babies regardless of what sex they were.)

I think someone who says somethings so ridiculous should just be fixed with a cold hard stare or play stupid and ask, "I'm sorry why is it you're sorry-I don't understand?"

Best of luck,

Patricia

 

[3princesses+aprince]

There is nothing wrong with 3 Boys. I have 3 Girls and that was all I heard the entire time I was pregant with baby #3. Oh MY, 3 Girls!!! Sure, I was really hoping it was going to be a boy, but I really didn't think it was a bad thing to have children all the same sex. A previous poster said you can hand things down like clothes, which works out great!

If one of my girls were a boy their name would have been Joseph"Joey" I love that name.
I also like
Anthony
Jonathon
Michael
Jacob
Dante Good Luck with all your boys, I know there is
nothing better in the world than my 3 Girls!!
They are the loves of my life!!

 

[GoofyGolferGirl]

Congratulations!
Children are a blessing I would have more if I were you, they keep you young!lol Wish DH and I could have had more than one!

 

[babiesX2]

Dh and I thought we wanted a boy. Instead we got identical twin girls! Neither one of us would do it any different.

 

[babiesX2]

We cant go out in public without several people commenting on whether they are all mine or not, and how they feel sorry for poor dh, and now how they feel sorry for poor ds and of course how we must have been trying for a boy. Ugh. Now its gotten so bad, that when dd16 and dd15 take the twins out (3 yo but very small), people have actually asked if they are THEIR children and have made comments about teen pregnancy.

My oldest DD is 13 and then I have the 15 month twins. DD13 likes to help out and push their stroller or hold them, etc. One day we walked into a waiting room and I went to find a magazine. A man got up in a huff grabbing his wife and said, "Ugghh, I can't sit here and look at this in front of me, a baby having babies!"

 

[mommy*RN]

Your post really touched me! I always wanted a little girl, but then DS was born and I was like...hmm, I really like this boy thing! When I was pg with DD I didn't find out the sex (I didn't with my first either), but I hoped it was another boy. I figured I had the boy thing down and I wanted to stick with what I knew! Well, it was a huge adjustment for me to have a girl. I felt bad for DS because I remembered how close my sister and I were as children. I am now the happy mom of a 9mo old DD and 3 yr old DS. My issue is now that I have one of each everyone assumes we are finished. NOPE! I want one more, boy or girl...

When I compare boys to girls I always think girls come out more expensive throughout the years! I haven't made a comprehensive list, but I was talking to a friend about it. Here is what we came up with...GIRLS: hair accessories, bras, fancier (thus more expensive) clothes, feminine products, hair products, fanicer clothings for school dances (vs renting a tux for a boy!), parents incur most of the wedding costs, undergarments, etc. I am sure there are a million other things, but my DD is still pretty young...

Ignore the comments as best you can, and my advice is to come up with a zinger. I got sooooo sick of hearing comments about my pregnancy that when people used to ask..."Oh, do you know if it is a boy or girl", I would answer..."Well, we're thinking kittens, but we're not sure...it could be puppies". I know its snotty, but I usually only pulled that one out when the same person asked me the baby's sex for the 100th time. Maybe if I were in your shoes and someone said, "Oh are you disappointed", I MIGHT say with a grin..."Oh no! I just hope it's my husbands and not the mailmans!" or something as lame for the shock value!

I know this isn't really helpful...I'm sorry about that. As for trying for #4, I always judge how I feel about my family. I always wanted 3, but after DD was born I had to think how I felt. Did I feel my family was complete? Did I want to go through another pregnancy? I can happily say I've answered both questions with a big fat YES...so God willing we will have another in the future.

Best of luck to you and.....

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! ​