Just found out we are having Baby Boy#3.. Why is everyone saying "Sorry" to me??

[momofdbsdc]

Congratulations on your new baby!!!! Just smile when people make comments!!! We have 6 children, not because we wanted boys or girls, but because we love children!!!! Enjoy your 3 beautiful boys!

 

[Wish I lived in Fl]

Only because you don't get to buy baby girl clothes!

I work at Gymboree. The baby girl clothes are so cute. Customers talk to me about dressing their daughters like having the grown up version of a Barbie doll.

 

[hockeymomoftwo]

I have 2 boys your same ages. If we were to have a 3rd (probably not going to happen) I would want another boy if I could choose.

Congratulations.

I think for us the worst part of having boys was picking names. We had girl names picked out easily but really struggled with boy names.

 

[glass slipper girl]

It's funny to see this here b/c I just posted a big rant about this in my journal on a parenting site I'm a part of. We have 2 sons ages 6 and 4 and we are expecting baby #3 in early November. I have a mass on my ovary and have been having frequent scans since my mother and grandmother both had ovarian cancer. This baby wasn't so much a surprise as a total shock to us since our sons were infertility treatment babies. At the most recent scan (17 weeks) baby had "his" legs and feet crossed so it was hard to tell but the sonographer showed us where she really thinks it is another boy. I'm getting the same sort of reactions from people. "ohhh...I'm so sorry, sweetie." I want to scream WHY?!?!?! Why are you sorry???? We're not! Where is it written that a woman can not be happy unless she produces a daughter?!?!?! We also have people assume that this baby was an attempt for a girl even after we tell them, there was NO attempt, this was a complete surprise! DH was getting a vasectomy in March and I got pregnant in February! We were done! We were content with our family and not feeling like anything was missing b/c we didn't have a daughter so why would that change now??

I just want to slap people sometimes! LOL I've stopped saying "we think it's a boy" and started saying "we're not sure, baby had it's legs crossed at the last ultrasound."

Congrats on your 3rd little man!!!!

 

[virginiamama]

Yep - I don't know why people are so rude and into other peoples business all the time. I'm happy with my 2 boys, and frankly I'm afraid of girls! We haven't decided if we'll try for #3 or not, but I'd be happy with another boy, DH would be disappointed for a little while though. Luckily I have 5 nieces, so I get to buy the princess stuff for them. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy those three precious boys!

 

[mom2bellaandlivi]

I am sorry that people are being negative. I have no advice on boys, I ahve 2 girls. I would love a 3rd depending on my health but I would not care if it was another girl but I get the same thing....oh you want to try for that boy. Get over it. A baby is a blessing no matter what gender they are!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!! Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!

 

[jennafo3]

Same thing happens to me as well... I have 4 girls - we just had our fourth 3 weeks ago and we didn't find out what we were having...while I was pregnant I was sick and tired of everyone asking "oh, gotta try for that boy, huh??" and now that our daughter is born people are saying "oh, another girl, huh?? Yikes!!
we are estatic (sp?) that we have 4 girls!! our girls are 6 1/2, 4 1/2, 2 1/2 and 3 weeks...just doesn't make sense to me why some people think that if you only have children of the same sex, somehow your family is not complete???
Anyway, my husband wants to have 5 kids - we'll see... (let's wait until this one's a bit older before we even consider that ok??
Our girls names are Samantha Victoria, Rachel Elizabeth, Veronica Isabelle, and Alexandra Josephine - so I think we have run out of names as well!!

 

[flipflop]

I'm a mom of triplets g/b/b and you wouldn't (or would based on what you posted) believe the rude things people say or ask me. My favorite being "are they natural?" last time I checked ALL babies are natural. Anyway I digress and am OT- My sons names are Luke Preston and Logan Jeffrey. Middle names are family names. I loved Jack but DH wouldn't have it. Congrats on your pregnancy and enjoy your little boys! It is definetly true that boys are mommy lovers. Try to ignore those who don't think before they speak.

 

[wrldpossibility]

You have gotten so many great responses so far, but I thought I'd add my 2 cents. I am the mom of 3 boys, and couldn't be happier! And yes, we got all the comments too. The third wasn't planned , so it's not like we were trying for a girl. I did feel a bit sad (and shocked, since after conception, I did look at those "scientific" books on conceiving a girl, and it looked as though we happened to follow that) that it wasn't a girl, but I got over that in about an hour. Mostly we just had darn good girl names picked! And yes, you gotta love those girly Gymboree clothes!

But I LOVE having all boys, but you do get a lot of attention for it in public. Either they're behaving wonderfully and you get treated like a goddess for successfully civilizing 3 boys , or they're NOT behaving, and everyone gives you deep sympathy for your rotten luck to have 3 boys . As if girls don't misbehave!

Enjoy your boys, and just acted shocked when someone says they're sorry. Just stare at them and say, "Sorry, WHY?" in a mystified voice. Then they'll have to talk themselves out of that one!

 

[liznboys]

Oh my gosh, I LOVE this thread! I can totally relate to so many of the things posted so far.

Grendalynn, CONGRATULATIONS on your 3rd boy!!! I remember when you posted on here about your pregnancy and asked about having 3 kiddos.

We had our 4th son about 2 months ago...and we couldn't be happier with our group of boys. We never tried for one gender or another with any of ours, we wanted 4 children, and we just happen to be boy-makers!

As far as names, it got harder and harder with each of ours that's for sure! But we've always found that one special name that ended up being perfect. Our boys are: Nicholas (Nick), Alexander (Alex), Benjamin (Ben) and Lucas (Luke).

 

[frndofpooh]

OOOHHHH, I hated it when I was pregnant and people would say, "Another boy???" with that hang dog look on their faces. So annoying!!! I have to say, some of my family members were the worst - I caught myself feeling like I neede to apologize to them after the sonogram! I found it utterly disheartening that people would say things like that, especially since my first son had had a lot of health problems at birth. So, when we said, "it doesn't matter what the sex is as long as it is healthy", we felt that sentiment down to our core.

My boys have been such a blessing. By the time I had my second, I felt I knew what I was doing with in terms of raising boys and figured it would be harder to deal with some of the girl "melodrama" that so many of my friends with girls describe. Boys love their moms and have great energy and spirit. They exclude others less (they seem to love roving the neighborhood in packs! ) and seem to accept each other as they are. I love being a boy mom, and wouldn't trade a minute of it. My sister and cousin have each had 2 and 3 boys, respectively, and when they get together it's just one wonderful mass of testosterone DH is excited about not having to pay for weddings (makes for more WDW vacations )!

I do, on occasion, feed my need for pink or purple clothing and cute hairbows by presenting gifts to my friends' girls. I swear, one of my girlfriends must think I am a hairbow junkie!

Just think, you may be able to skip the CRT ressie! Or, you can make one and be escorted by your lovely princes and you can be queen for the day! Enjoy your little man

 

[Wackiemommy]

I can relate as well. I have 3 boys (11,8,& 4). We never "tried" for a girl just a baby. I think my DH was a little dissappointed that DS3 wasn't a girl but you could never tell now. I was glad to have a 3rd boy because I "knew" how to handle boys. My oldest and youngest are the closer to each other but all my boys get along great! People are stupid but as my husband always says "Stupid people have to live too." Enjoy your boys and congratulations!!!

 

[vellamint]

Well I had 3 boys and decided that we wanted to "try" for a girl.....

We were going to be happy no matter what it was or we wouldnt have become pregnant in the first place - I certainly would not had another if I wasnt going to be happy about boy OR girl!!!

Lots of people said things to us during the pregnancy about whether we would be upset if it was another boy....I chose to ignore them...it is none of their business and a little rude (well maybe if it was my sister that asked but I dont have a sister anyway).

 

[JoyG]

I was briefly bummed when I found out one of my twins wasn't going to be a girl. But I was totally happy when I found out a few years later that I was having a third boy. I thought it would be soooo much easier. I wouldn't have to change the nursery to girl colors, I wouldn't have to buy all new bedding or clothes.

I love being a mom to 3 sons. I have no interest in trying for a girl. I sometimes wonder if I will be as happy with only boys when I'm older....I might miss shopping for prom dresses, wedding dresses, all those girlie girl things.

And I hope the saying "A daughter's a daughter her whole life, A son is a son until he gets a wife" is not true. I'm sure I have nothing to worry about. If DH is any indication of how his sons will turn out...we're raising mama's boys.

 

[dizneydiva2005]

Congrats on # 3 I'd have a house full of little boys... I do have 2 boys and a girl.

My sil had 3 boys and she wasn't happy. She cried by the time the 3rd one was a boy. To make matters worse we were pregnant together and I having a girl. All she wanted was a little girl. She never did have # 4. She divorced so much for that. LOL

My cousin has 3 boys and really wants a girl. She says she'll keep going until she has a girl. I guess it's a good thing she's only in her early 20's.

 

[PaulaSue]

Congrats!

I have 3 princesses and I had everyone doing the same for me and asking when I am trying for a boy.

 

[Bird-Mom]

Congratulations! I think people just feel like they have to say something. There is some unwritten rule that makes people think they have to make one of three comments to pregnant mamas-something about the gender, something about the name you have chosen, or telling some very scary birth story. Drives me crazy! Couldn't they think of something a little more positive to say? Every baby is a wonderful blessing and deserves positive feedback.

We are thinking about a third, and I hear a lot of "trying for a boy?" No, a baby I say!

I also never had an ultrasound when I was pregnant, so when strangers asked me "What are you having?" I would always say, "We are hoping for a baby, but we will be excited if it turns out to be a puppy."

Enjoy your little boys!

 

[Bird-Mom]

And I hope the saying "A daughter's a daughter her whole life, A son is a son until he gets a wife" is not true. I'm sure I have nothing to worry about. If DH is any indication of how his sons will turn out...we're raising mama's boys.

My brother calls my mom at least 3 times/day. He is 34 and has been married for a few years, but he has been like that his whole life. Definitely a mama's boy.

 

[bartleby1]

Don't let people get to you. I think people just say dumb things sometimes, lol! I don't think that people even mean anything by the comments, they just come out,

I had a girl and then a boy. I can't tell you how many people told me I was lucky because I had one of each and how I had the perfect family and could stop now. Well, you should have heard some of the comments when we announced that we were having a third, lol! According to some people, we should have stopped at two because we had one of each! Well, for us, our family wasn't complete until we had our third child, which turned out to be a girl. NOW, we are done.

So, you see, I think no matter what your family size or genders are, people just make comments. Maybe they think it is small talk. I don't quite know. Just try to take it lightly and not let it bother you.

Congrats on your third child! All children are a blessing!

 

[justhat]

I'm sorry to hear about the comments you're getting. I currently just have a daughter and am pregnant with a little boy and everyone I meet says "Oh, so now you'll have one of each so you don't need anymore kids." Well, I want 4 of them regardless of what they are so no, I'm not done despite the fact that we'll have a girl and a boy.

Honestly, though everyone seems to think I really wanted a boy this time, I really had no preference for what gender this baby was. I already have a girl so another would have been nice (especially since they'll be sharing a room for the next 4 years!) but I wanted a son eventually too so now's just as good a time for him to join the family. Some people just can't understand things like that though. In fact an old lady at the retirement home my husband's grandmother just moved to saw me with my daughter and 4yo niece and said "I bet you're hoping this one is a boy!" Like 3 girls would have been the end of the world!