Kate is a control freak and I used to be hyper-critical of her. Now I've loosened up and realized alot of that probably was her way of handling the stress of all those kids (and Jon

). I don't agree with some of the ways she's handled things but then again, I've got a few stories of my own when I went all 'Kate'! Jon is passive-aggressive and as several others have said, gave as good as he got. However, that kind of dynamic in a marriage seems to be somewhat uncompatible (sp). Y'all want to feel better about yourselves? Here ya go...a couple of weeks ago I freaked because for the 1 millioneth time my kids had made huge messes of their rooms (toys everywhere, clean clothes in the dirty laundry, etc.). I was screaming and yelling while my kids looked at me in horror! Then my oldest daughter looked me straight in the face and said Mommy, you sound just like Kate!

I actually laughed at that and thought, hmmm, how would I look to the world if I had camera filming me? Probably not so good! Anyhoo, as many others have said, J&K had issues that probably made them both bitter toward one another. I will say that Kate appeared willing to try but Jon appeared ready to move on.