Jealousy Rant!

[gemmybear83]

Anyone who is meant to be a friend and makes me feel like that, I simply no longer consider a friend. It should not matter how much you earn etc how you spend your money is up to you and no one elses business

I always say I would rather have an addiction to disney than drugs or alcohol!

I think they are the one's being immature and childish

 

[torsie24]

I know Gemma will agree with me here too -

Tell people you're having a Disney wedding - then you'll get it even worse!

I think you do sort of get immune to it though, I figure the more people think that Disney is a crap holiday and just for kids, the less people I have to queue behind to get on TSM!

 

[2Tiggies]

Hope you're feeling better Jackie. I can really sympathise with you on this one after being stunned by a co-worker spewing out an inventory of 'issues' they have/had with me, not least of all, the holiday I have booked for this year ..... It was like a venomous inventory! Not often I am lost for words but I was speechless for over an hour. I couldn't even utter a response.

A lot of the time it is not simply jealousy but a case of the other person/s having absolutely no clue .... They just don't get it. Take a silly example: Making ADRs 6 months out from your trip. I admire those with the courage to mention it at work - I know better than to bother

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Instead I choose Disney - and I'm the bad one of the two of us!

It is hurtful, and she has a knack of making me feel guilty, but when you look at it on paper I have no reason to. I think it's just because I know she'd love to take her kids there, but she's got herself into a situation where it just isn't on the cards.

Torsie, this looks like a situation where someone is struggling with her own sense of failure and 'what ifs'. I doubt she really thinks what she says about you. It is more likely a case of projecting her own frustrations and disappointments onto you. Possibly time to move her from now from your list of friends to your list of acquaintances.

And to everyone here, we ALL make sacrifices to get to Disney. I can think of worse addictions, but to sacrifice things you would like for something you love - I say that is worthy of a pat on the back and well deserving of many more wonderful trips.

 

[joolz1910]

I, as well as many others on here, have been subjected to the comment about 'always going to Disney'
I received an email from a so called friend a little while ago on a totally unrelated subject, and about half way through he suddenly got on a rant about how we pretend that we go to Disney for the kids when really it's us that enjoy it and we need to grow up.
Needless to say I responded in kind, explaining that not once have I said we do it for the kids, that we love it just as much as them and that we never feel closer to them than when we are in The World acting more our kids ages than our own.
Let them get on with their 'life' (such that it is) while you continue to enjoy yours - it sounds like you have earned that right.

I have had a couple of people react like this when I say we are saving for WDW. I never pretend that I am only doing it for the kids! We all want to go. I think it's because some people force themselves to do things as a family, whereas some of us like doing things as a family.

 

[jackieleanne]

Thank you everyone feeling a lot more positive about everything now. I'm no longer calling them friends, it's been pretty much constant that they upset me so I'm just not going to speak to them that way I can't get upset.

 

[kizzy212]

Don't let it upset you

I find people like to tell me I must have loads of money if we can go to Disney and this winds me up.....because we haven't.....we can afford to go every other year, but its a push and we don't have spare money to flash arround. Some of my friends go out every weekend and spent at least £100...we don't, we choose to save this money for disney...

....sorry getting carried away with my own rant

I totally agree..... we also can only afford to go every 2 years, and we save dame hard.... we dont smoke, hardly drink, and make our own family entaiment, we have small house enough for us 4, have 2 older car's...

we dont have any form of finance or debt....

sometimes when i hear these same words.." you must be rolling in it" " its alright for some" " look at them with their fancy holidays" i secret feel like shouting.....

if you didnt smoke, drink, or eat 4 take aways a week... you to could save and take your children to disney.

thats my rant!!

 

[Lizzybear]

I think holidays seem to set off people's opinions more than most luxuries, maybe because it's one big one rather than several smaller... I know someone really into conventions (film and TV stuff, mostly sci-fi) She goes to several a year which must come to £2-300 a time as they're over multiple days (hotel, travel, food etc) Easily 2 grand a year, yet she'd always talk about my one holiday to the US a year like it was the most extravagant thing in the world. Same with people I know who have loads of meals/nights out, takeaways, drink loads etc... Never seems to compute that all those 'small' amounts can easily add up to the cost of a holiday! I haven't had a proper holiday this year and i'm not likely to but i'm already saving for two next year to make up for it

 

[tinks_1989]

We had friends round a few nights ago and asked how much we spent on this holiday I was honest and they said they were shocked we would spend that much and this is exactly what they said "because we don't ever go out!" I didn't say anything as its Dave's friend and girlfriend. But they think because we aren't out every Friday and Saturday we have no money I know what I would rather have two hangovers every week or 2 weeks in WDW

 

[jackieleanne]

We had friends round a few nights ago and asked how much we spent on this holiday I was honest and they said they were shocked we would spend that much and this is exactly what they said "because we don't ever go out!" I didn't say anything as its Dave's friend and girlfriend. But they think because we aren't out every Friday and Saturday we have no money I know what I would rather have two hangovers every week or 2 weeks in WDW

I know which one I would rather have as well Leanne.

People need to learn to not say things when they know it can upset you. I mean i'd never dream to say to them how I felt about some of the thing's they do!

 

[scojos]

i just wanted to say when people do the "again?" thing with us... i say yes, and the kids are having to come too..
i never pretend im going for the kids, its my holiday, i pay for it, i go where i want...luckily the kids enjoy it too

i love wdw, but also need to experience other places, we have been every 2 years for the last few years, but after our mega holiday it may be a few years before we go, i have enjoyed our break, with the kids being older/doing things differently...i do buy into the school of thought they should see other things/places too.
thats just my opinion i respect other peoples choice to go to the same place every year, its just not for us
tracy