Jackie and Chris's Wishes Wedding 1/6/12: SBP/Attic/SCP 5/11 Final Post- PJ Finished

[MrsDuck]

A TEAL PANTSUIT?! Oh Jackie...

I'm sorry to hear she's still being difficult. That sucks. Hopefully she will behave on the wedding day. I'll come bail you out if I see that headline though!

Definitely smart to send all your stuff to Orlando. Much easier!!

Congrats on being done with finals! You're almost done!

Aww, your bachelorette party sounds fun! I'm not a drinker either but I'd partake for some Jane Austen! PICTURES!

 

[pixie921]

Aw, ((hugs)) on the mama drama! I know we sort of "discussed" on FB how weddings bring out the crazy in family -- wouldn't it be nice if they brought out the good in everyone instead (like they should!)? If it makes you feel any better, it sounds like our moms have a lot in common, down to the teal suit at the wedding, LOL!! No fur coat for my mom, though ... she accessorized with a black hat and a BLACK VEIL. Gotta love moms!

Hang in there ... you're almost at the finish line, and you have so much magic and happiness waiting there!!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Ugh. I'm SO sorry for the mom issues. As a girl that's never had the best relationship with her mother, I COMPLETELY understand and sympathize. Just remember, us geeky folk don't usually do well in jail.

You'll post pics of the Dharma cake, right?

Yay for being done with finals! I'll keep my fingers crossed, but I'm sure you did just fine. You're a smart cookie!

Hmm. I wonder how your post got above mine! The boards must have been wonky that day. You're right; I wouldn't do well in jail. I would be crying for my blankets within an hour. And of COURSE I'll post pics of the Dharma cake! I'm so excited for it.

Jackie,

Sorry again that your mom is the way she is. Hopefully, she will behave once she arrives. Cannot wait to see the pantsuit! Wow!

Love the idea on the cake! Can't wait to see it. That will be cool.

A quiet holiday at home sounds perfect. We get alone time on Christmas Eve and then we go to our best friends family (parents of fairy godchildren (their new chosen title)). Paul has been friends with Todd's family since he was 14 and has long been considered the second son and now I am the second DIL. We are typically the only non-blood family at close family events. Needless to say, everyone but 1 husband is coming to our event (so 12 of them!!) (Sorry for the hijack)

I thought the HIMYM was one of the saddest tv episodes, I have ever seen. I would love to see Robin and Barney together and got all excited that I thought it had happened. I was so unhappy at the end. What a fabulous show though. It has been one of our favorites since it came on.

I love when the DME tags come in the mail. Makes it seem so real. You will love BCV. Wish I was going with you!

Congrats on getting the papers done. Good luck with all the grading. Hope it goes quickly.

Jane Austen drinking game??? I am intrigued.

Aww, I wish you were going with us too, Bethie! <3 And I agree--- that episode of HIMYM was just... wow. I really want Robyn and Barney to be together. I hope it's their wedding that Ted was best man at! And your Christmas celebration sounds so warm and loving.

Um, can we just talk about the fact that your mom is wearing a teal pantsuit and a mink coat to your wedding? Maybe it looks better than it sounds, lol. It just isn't really the first thing I think of when I think of what to wear to a wedding!

It is definitely frustrating about your situation with your grandfather. I totally get your position and completely agree with you. I wonder if there's some confusion on his end (and your mom's?) since Disney weddings are different than other weddings. For instance, they might never have thought there would be any issue with just coming to the ceremony, as you usually don't have a guest count for that. I had a number of people (friends on my mom's, church friends, or my best friends' parents) that came just to our ceremony. So maybe they just assumed they could do that? Or your mom assumed they could do that and told them it was okay, and that's why she's so upset about it too? Good luck and I hope it doesn't cause too much stress for you

Congrats on being done with your finals, and I'm sure they went really well!

And I want to play the Jane Austen drinking game!!

LOL! Becky, your first comment about the pantsuit made me die laughing. Seriously. During one of my rants, I said something like "Oh yeah. Florida is totally the mink coat capital of the world. She's never been... sensible about clothes. She still wears itty bitty t-shirts that say "Hollister" across the chest. Oh yes.

And that's a FABULOUS point about Disney Weddings not being the norm. That's a very sane, normal comment that I didn't even THINK of! I suppose we'll see when/if my mom calls me again...

Oh, and you're totes invited to the Jane Austen drinking game! (You too, Bethie)

Ya...we have POP as one of our resorts, but its booked on the 6th for my guests as well....plus its also a marathon weekend so that could be another reason. Some of our friends I think are staying at one of the other value resorts with the FL resident discount and its either less or equal to what the weding block dicount is

Oh, good! I hope everything doesn't sell out!

A TEAL PANTSUIT?! Oh Jackie...

I'm sorry to hear she's still being difficult. That sucks. Hopefully she will behave on the wedding day. I'll come bail you out if I see that headline though!

Definitely smart to send all your stuff to Orlando. Much easier!!

Congrats on being done with finals! You're almost done!

Aww, your bachelorette party sounds fun! I'm not a drinker either but I'd partake for some Jane Austen! PICTURES!

You guys are making me SO excited to see this pantsuit. I'll bet you guys can't wait for pictures. Thanks for coming to bail me out! You can come to the party too!

Aw, ((hugs)) on the mama drama! I know we sort of "discussed" on FB how weddings bring out the crazy in family -- wouldn't it be nice if they brought out the good in everyone instead (like they should!)? If it makes you feel any better, it sounds like our moms have a lot in common, down to the teal suit at the wedding, LOL!! No fur coat for my mom, though ... she accessorized with a black hat and a BLACK VEIL. Gotta love moms!

Hang in there ... you're almost at the finish line, and you have so much magic and happiness waiting there!!

LOL! Your mom wore a teal suit?!?! Do you have pics?!?!? I need to see this veil. Oh geez, thanks for the great laugh!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Okay girls. You have to talk me down. The wedding stress has hit. I leave in THREE weeks!!! Three weeks!!!

I know a lot of you saw on facebook that I am debating buying a seat for my wedding dress: now, hear me out before you yell at me and tell me to ship it to Carolyn Allen's and to stop being ridiculous. (Trust me, I KNOW I am being ridiculous.)

I've been having nervous breakdowns because I'm flying Southwest. I don't know if any of you know this, but SW has a policy where one of their flight attendants, if they look at you and decide you are "too large" they will make you buy a second seat. I have never had this happen to me before (but I do, of course, realize I'm not exactly a size 6 like I was in high school!), but I think I have increased body image issues due to the wedding. I can fit in my seat just fine, but I can't stop googling horror stories where people could fit in theirs just fine and SW made them buy a second seat anyway. If this happens to me I will, most likely, melt into a sea of embarrassment. (Yes, I am being melodramatic.) So, I figure if I were to travel with my dress I would (a) solve this problem and (b) have my dress with me too! (For some reason, I am not worried about the ride home.Why?? Because I make NO SENSE, girls. No sense.)

Anyone have cures for wedding stress? I feel like I've reached the point of no return!

 

[elleinad16]

Aww, I don't want you to be stressed like this! You are SO close--you can do this!
I don't have a lot to offer that will cure the stress, but I just wanted to give you more hugs.

 

[librarygeek]

I was super stressed beforehand too. I was on the phone with my MOH a lot and she is the type of girl who can get me laughing no matter what, so that really helped. Also the DIS boards for support! And take a warm bubble bath every once in awhile

I didn't know that Southwest had such a policy. That sounds awful. I've never seen it happen on a flight and I imagine you would be perfectly fine. Definitely stop googling the horror stories. It's always good to be aware, of course, but you can find nightmare situations for anything that you can imagine on the internet. Every time I have some headache or pain in my body I google the symptom and inevitably get cancer or something super serious as a possible result, and it turns out to be nothing... sometimes the internet is an enemy! If I were you I'd probably just take my chances and not buy an extra ticket. I think you are stressing yourself out for no reason.

 

[DisneyFirefly]

Okay girls. You have to talk me down. The wedding stress has hit. I leave in THREE weeks!!! Three weeks!!!

I know a lot of you saw on facebook that I am debating buying a seat for my wedding dress: now, hear me out before you yell at me and tell me to ship it to Carolyn Allen's and to stop being ridiculous. (Trust me, I KNOW I am being ridiculous.)

I've been having nervous breakdowns because I'm flying Southwest. I don't know if any of you know this, but SW has a policy where one of their flight attendants, if they look at you and decide you are "too large" they will make you buy a second seat. I have never had this happen to me before (but I do, of course, realize I'm not exactly a size 6 like I was in high school!), but I think I have increased body image issues due to the wedding. I can fit in my seat just fine, but I can't stop googling horror stories where people could fit in theirs just fine and SW made them buy a second seat anyway. If this happens to me I will, most likely, melt into a sea of embarrassment. (Yes, I am being melodramatic.) So, I figure if I were to travel with my dress I would (a) solve this problem and (b) have my dress with me too! (For some reason, I am not worried about the ride home.Why?? Because I make NO SENSE, girls. No sense.)

Anyone have cures for wedding stress? I feel like I've reached the point of no return!

I mostly just lurk here, but I wanted to comment on this. I bought a Customer of Size ticket on my last trip to WDW and have details about it in my TR, a link to which is in my sig (the "bouncing ears" one). I'm a size 28 and carry my weight mostly in my midsection, so I totally understand the concern.

The good thing about Southwest's policy is that if by chance your flight (all segments if it's not non-stop) is not sold out, you get a refund on the second ticket. You also pre-board, so you can sit in the bulkhead seat if you want to, and you'd probably also be able to have your DF accompany you, but I'd check with the desk agent for confirmation first. You don't have to worry about checking in online, since you have to check in at the airport due to the special circumstances of the second seat.

The bad thing? The price. This late in the game, I highly doubt that the second seat would be a reasonable price. I was able to get the fare honored at the same price because I'd been told previously that I could, as long as I called and didn't buy the ticket online (which is what you'd have to do anyway). I would call Southwest and see what they say about honoring the ticket at the same fare.

Honestly, my main concern would be the price. If you can swing it, I say go for it, not only for your peace of mind regarding the size issue, but for a definite safe place for you to put your dress and know that it's going to be okay. If you have any questions about my experience with the extra seat, please feel free to PM me. I've tried to be very open about it here on the Dis, since I've come across a few other people with questions about it.

But no matter what, you are going to have a beautiful wedding. I've loved reading about your plans and can't wait to see pictures when you get back

 

[MrsDuck]

Take a deep breath Jackie! First of all, you're going to fit in the seat!! And, second of all, I don't think you're crazy for buying your dress a seat. Honestly, it will just give you more room and time to stretch now and RELAX (hopefully).

If you're pretty much done with planning I think it's time that you go and do some relaxing things for the next couple of weeks. Hit the mall, hang out with friends, go to the movies, go get a massage, etc. Most importantly remember that you're going to have a beautiful, wonderful day! It will all be worth it! Just stay calm and remind yourself that at the end of the day you are marrying the love of your life at Disney World!!

I'm sorry you're stressing! Sending and s your way!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Aww, I don't want you to be stressed like this! You are SO close--you can do this!
I don't have a lot to offer that will cure the stress, but I just wanted to give you more hugs.

Thanl you so much, Danni! You're so sweet.

I was super stressed beforehand too. I was on the phone with my MOH a lot and she is the type of girl who can get me laughing no matter what, so that really helped. Also the DIS boards for support! And take a warm bubble bath every once in awhile

I didn't know that Southwest had such a policy. That sounds awful. I've never seen it happen on a flight and I imagine you would be perfectly fine. Definitely stop googling the horror stories. It's always good to be aware, of course, but you can find nightmare situations for anything that you can imagine on the internet. Every time I have some headache or pain in my body I google the symptom and inevitably get cancer or something super serious as a possible result, and it turns out to be nothing... sometimes the internet is an enemy! If I were you I'd probably just take my chances and not buy an extra ticket. I think you are stressing yourself out for no reason.

Becky, I can always count on you for a sane comment. You're SO right about the medical thing. My gum was hurting the other day, and I was convinced I had an abscess... but I think I had just flossed too hard. LOL. But thank you so much for being levelheaded.

I mostly just lurk here, but I wanted to comment on this. I bought a Customer of Size ticket on my last trip to WDW and have details about it in my TR, a link to which is in my sig (the "bouncing ears" one). I'm a size 28 and carry my weight mostly in my midsection, so I totally understand the concern.

The good thing about Southwest's policy is that if by chance your flight (all segments if it's not non-stop) is not sold out, you get a refund on the second ticket. You also pre-board, so you can sit in the bulkhead seat if you want to, and you'd probably also be able to have your DF accompany you, but I'd check with the desk agent for confirmation first. You don't have to worry about checking in online, since you have to check in at the airport due to the special circumstances of the second seat.

The bad thing? The price. This late in the game, I highly doubt that the second seat would be a reasonable price. I was able to get the fare honored at the same price because I'd been told previously that I could, as long as I called and didn't buy the ticket online (which is what you'd have to do anyway). I would call Southwest and see what they say about honoring the ticket at the same fare.

Honestly, my main concern would be the price. If you can swing it, I say go for it, not only for your peace of mind regarding the size issue, but for a definite safe place for you to put your dress and know that it's going to be okay. If you have any questions about my experience with the extra seat, please feel free to PM me. I've tried to be very open about it here on the Dis, since I've come across a few other people with questions about it.

But no matter what, you are going to have a beautiful wedding. I've loved reading about your plans and can't wait to see pictures when you get back

Thank you so much for this! This made me feel a lot better. Again, I -can- get the armrest down (I carry my weight in my tummy), but I've just read horror stories. I've missed your posts; I'm glad to see you back here!!!

Take a deep breath Jackie! First of all, you're going to fit in the seat!! And, second of all, I don't think you're crazy for buying your dress a seat. Honestly, it will just give you more room and time to stretch now and RELAX (hopefully).

If you're pretty much done with planning I think it's time that you go and do some relaxing things for the next couple of weeks. Hit the mall, hang out with friends, go to the movies, go get a massage, etc. Most importantly remember that you're going to have a beautiful, wonderful day! It will all be worth it! Just stay calm and remind yourself that at the end of the day you are marrying the love of your life at Disney World!!

I'm sorry you're stressing! Sending and s your way!

Thank you so much, Faith!!! You're right: I need to take a chill pill. And go to the mall.

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Okay, superquick update: I bought my dress a plane ticket.

"What?!? Jackie! JUST SHIP IT!!!!!"

I paid $2.50 for it.

Our fares went down on Southwest, and I was able to change our flights and get my rewards points back. I then had ENOUGH rewards points to buy my dress a seat, so all I had to do was pay for the 9/11 fee: aka $2.50!!!! It's CHEAPER than shipping it, now I don't have to pay C.A. the fee for receiving it, she never has to leave my sight, and I don't have to stress about "getting Kevin Smithed" as I call it.

I feel SO much better. I just had to share!

And, um... $2.50!!!

 

[librarygeek]

Well, that sounds like the perfect solution! I'm glad it worked out and now you won't have to worry about it!!

 

[DisneyFirefly]

Well, that's a lovely solution! And now you and your DF will be literally the most comfortable people on the plane, even if it's a sold out flight! I'm glad it worked out!

 

[pixie921]

LOL! Your mom wore a teal suit?!?! Do you have pics?!?!? I need to see this veil. Oh geez, thanks for the great laugh!

Glad I could make you giggle! It was over 20 years ago, so the only photos I have are in our wedding album and it's packed away. But she was definitely a sight to see with her own sense of style!

 

[jlocmac]

Ok.. I've finally made it to comment. I've been horrible at updating.. but I've definitely been reading everyone's updates.

-1st & foremost on this list... a freakin TEAL suit and REAL fur?!?! Are you f@&king kidding me??? Watch out for PETA!! (No seriously, I hope it isn't ridiculously teal.. ya know?)
-Next..HIMYM is totally killing me (no new episode, ***?). I seriously don't want to be crying during a sitcom. It's just not right!
-Now, I'm 1 of the people that told you to just shut up and ship the damn dress...I take it back I'm glad you got such an awesome deal, and I don't have to worry about you freaking out on some flight attendant.
-I've commented about your "Mama Drama" on FB... I'm still in agreement with you on everything. Stick to your guns.
-Holy crap, it's almost time for your wedding. Time is sure flying by!

I feel like there's more I should be saying..maybe I'll be back later...

 

[BethieTink]

Already posted on fb, but great job on the dress cost. That will certainly put your mind at ease on both fronts.

How are the finals coming?

Jennifer - Totally with you on HIMYM!!! Wow! I need more, now!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Well, that sounds like the perfect solution! I'm glad it worked out and now you won't have to worry about it!!

Right! Thanks Becky! Also, the picture on your Christmas card is ADORABLE: I love it

Well, that's a lovely solution! And now you and your DF will be literally the most comfortable people on the plane, even if it's a sold out flight! I'm glad it worked out!

I know, right?! I am going to talk to the dress the whole way there and make sure she is okay.

Glad I could make you giggle! It was over 20 years ago, so the only photos I have are in our wedding album and it's packed away. But she was definitely a sight to see with her own sense of style!

Oohhh geez louise! Well, if you ever dig out the pictures...

Ok.. I've finally made it to comment. I've been horrible at updating.. but I've definitely been reading everyone's updates.

-1st & foremost on this list... a freakin TEAL suit and REAL fur?!?! Are you f@&king kidding me??? Watch out for PETA!! (No seriously, I hope it isn't ridiculously teal.. ya know?)
-Next..HIMYM is totally killing me (no new episode, ***?). I seriously don't want to be crying during a sitcom. It's just not right!
-Now, I'm 1 of the people that told you to just shut up and ship the damn dress...I take it back I'm glad you got such an awesome deal, and I don't have to worry about you freaking out on some flight attendant.
-I've commented about your "Mama Drama" on FB... I'm still in agreement with you on everything. Stick to your guns.
-Holy crap, it's almost time for your wedding. Time is sure flying by!

I feel like there's more I should be saying..maybe I'll be back later...

LOL! I could totally see me losing my cool on a flight attendant. Like, legit. I've missed your posts! Is your TR all done?!

Already posted on fb, but great job on the dress cost. That will certainly put your mind at ease on both fronts.

How are the finals coming?

Jennifer - Totally with you on HIMYM!!! Wow! I need more, now!

Finals are DONE! My semester is over, thank goodness. I think I get my grades next week. I feel fairly confident in my work, but I am never 100% sure, you know? We'll see.

Also, I LOVE your Christmas card. You make me wanna go on a cruise! Can I come next time??

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So, apparently, everyone decided to go crazy at the three week mark. My mom still isn't talking to me (she sent me a one sentence email informing me my Christmas presents are in the mail; that's it), and as some of you on the facebook group know, Chris's sister--- you know, the flaky bridesmaid I've been complaining about since April?--- has also jumped off the deep end. Chris as the laundrymat (you read that right!!!), and I'm home alone, so I figure I'll go into the details. Just get ready for this one.

On the 13th, I texted her and simply said "Heyyy did you get your sash??" No reply until the 14th--- whatever, that's fine. She said:

"I'm sitting here watching beauty and the beast enchanted christmas, and I cannot not think of you. Xo, I didn't want to tell you no, I don't have the sash, but I more don't want to avoid telling you I don't."

I didn't get the message until after I came home from a party, and it was late and her response annoyed me, so I didn't reply right away. Then, the next morning I woke up to another one:

"Hey. I should mention franks [her husband] uncle had a sudden heart attack and died yesterday which affected my plan to call aa. <3 20 days and counting..."

And then I got MORE annoyed. Of COURSE I am sympathetic to her husband's uncle dying, but her dress (and assumedly sash) came in sometime in September. What about those other 2 months?! My wedding is in 3 weeks, people. So I said:

"I'm sorry to hear that, but I really do wish you would have told me about the sash sooner. Hope all is well."

"Hi I just got out of work. I get anxiety calling them (aa) which is why I put off calling. I'm in an awfully weird place in my life, the whole wedding thing is very, very hard for me right now. Wish I was excited... Wish Frank was going. Wish a lot of things."

[I've sort of mentioned the Frank drama on here... I don't feel like dealing with that right now.] When I read this message, I was FURIOUS and I couldn't respond until the next day because I would have said something very, very bad. The whole wedding this is hard for her?!?! She hasn't done a GOSH DARN thing. I mean it. A gosh darn thing. She didn't help plan the shower, she didn't even ORDER her own bridesmaid dress, and she hasn't even called or texted or hell even facebook messaged me to say "Hi!" since September. And she's not excited for my wedding?! I don't care if that IS her emotion, you DON'T SAY THAT TO A BRIDE WHEN YOU ARE A BRIDESMAID!!! I apologize. I'm getting worked up again!

I finally replied (it took me awhile... I had to construct a calm response and okay it with my MOH and fiance): "I know you're going through a lot right now, but you do not say that to someone three weeks before she gets married, especially when you're in the wedding party. If it was too much for you, then you never should have agreed to be a bridesmaid. This is a responsibility you made to someone who is going to be a part of your family, and you need to step up and accept that or back down."

"I know this is what you feel, but I am really struggling with my feelings of catherine [her and chris's late sister] and frank and our situation, it is depressing and that i am depressed not excited isnt about you its about my upside down life.i wear my bridesmaid bandana on my head weekly and took the ribbon off the thing you gave me and i wear it in my hair... i do try and i am working at not letting my sad stuff become me. So, i am excited for the literal wedding, yes, i tell people about it all the time and the whole disney thing. but me, as an individual, is feelings more things than words can describe with frank right now and catherine is become more present in my days recently."

And me: "And I'm sorry about that, but you're using this as an excuse. You don't tell a bride you're not excited for her wedding even if that's how YOU feel. You're not the only person in the world right now who has a lot on her mind--- I've barely slept at all in the last month. Being a bridesmaid isn't about wearing a bandana, it's about getting the appropriate attire and being supportive, and you haven't done either of those."

"K im not doing this with you, have a blessed day."

I really hope you guys don't think I'm heartless, but if you notice, not ONCE did she apologize. All I needed from her was an "I'm sorry I haven't done my job. I'll try better." That's it. I didn't need a bunch of crap from her about how her life is SO hard. There was no admission on her part; I took it as I was just Mean Old Bride manipulating Poor Little Lacy. And I am sick of it!!!

Chris has attempted to talk to her, but she won't respond to his texts or pick up the phone when she calls. He actually texted her and said "Look, I am excited to see you at the wedding, but I don't think you should be a bridesmaid: you don't seem committed to it." No response. I really don't know WHAT to do. I told Chris it was up to him if she stays in the wedding or not (his mom hates me enough as it is, after all), and he said to boot her. I just HATE being in this awkward position. I don't want ANY ill feelings surrounding me when I am getting ready to get married, and I feel like that's all she brings.

Why couldn't she have done this 2 months ago?!?! At this point, I would even pay her back for her dress and her shower contribution (she did pay for 1/3 of the shower, even if she didn't help plan any of it, although she kept saying she would. It also took me 2 months to get paid back for her dress. I'm sorry I'm so bitter!) if it would get her out of my hair. But I don't know, because she's not speaking to Chris or to me!!!

Whew. Sorry for the rant. Any input is appreciated.

Let's talk about some positive things, shall we?!

*My wedding dress is now in my possession! I tried her on again and she fits perfectly still.
*My pretty blue dress that I got from AA is also now in my possession, and it looks SO much better now that it, you know, fits.
*I bought my PhotoPass CD! Just one more thing off the list.
*I've started to get my important documents together. I think I'm going to collect them in a folder either later today or tomorrow.
*My centerpieces and reception stuff arrived in Florida. Again, one less thing to fret over.
*My grandparents sent us our Christmas presents early: and they gave DF and I $200 each! (That's about what I get, but Chris usually gets like $50.) That's $400 to put toward the honeymoon fund!!!
*My iron on transfers finally came in. I've been testing it with my "Bride" one, but I messed up the B a little. Some of the rhinestones just WON'T come off. Pictures when everything gets settled!
*I've started pre-packing. I have stuff sorted into bags, but haven't put anything in luggage yet.
*I'm getting married in less than 3 weeks! Chris, my dad, Becky, Richelle, and my grandparents are excited, even if no one else is!
*I'm currently daydreaming about going on a super quick WDW trip in May over Memorial Day weekend. All of the current discount codes exclude that weekend though. If anyone finds a good rate, let me know!!!

All right. That's all for now. I'll keep you all posted on my crazy life!

 

[yourgypsy]

-Ugh! I'm SO sorry that you have to deal with such ridiculous drama. How old is his sister again? And holy flying monkeys, you have the patience of a saint!

On to the positives:
-your dresses!
-less than three weeks!
-early Christmas present money!

This calls for a banana dancing party

 

[librarygeek]

Hmm. That is definitely frustrating. It does sound to me like she has a lot more issues going on than what might be on the surface... I'm sure you know more than you've shared and obviously it might be private (I'm not prying), I just wonder if she's dealing with issues or depression or anything like that? If that's the case I personally would tend to be a little more lenient. Even though it sounds like you're very understanding of her personal situations, it is true that she hasn't always done the right thing, like being upfront and honest with you about her situation - still, if she is dealing with some issues people aren't always in the right state of mind when they're going through stuff like that. It's really tough, just a very sticky situation. Sounds like you've been really good about being patient and level headed though. Don't you wish everyone could be like that??

As I mentioned on my PJ, one of my bridesmaids had some family stuff come up about a week before the wedding and was pretty much MIA for almost everything - bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, bridesmaid's lunch, even left the wedding way early, probably halfway through. She didn't come to get her hair done or nails done with us (in fact, she didn't have her hair done at all for the wedding, just had it like she does every day). She never apologized to me or really talked to me about it. When she left the wedding reception she didn't even find me to say goodbye - I just noticed that she suddenly was gone, and from pictures I can tell given the timeline about when she disappeared. Anyway, I never really confronted her about it that week because I didn't want to deal with any stress whatsoever. And to be honest, I think that was probably for the best. I couldn't have dealt with it at that time. If you can, maybe you should just be the bigger person and let it go. Though at this point you do need to find out if she's still going to be in it.

It totally sucks to have unsupportive bridesmaids, but at the end of the day I think it will give you more stress to argue with her or create any riffs in the family by kicking her out of the wedding than it would if she shows up without a sash. Good luck with however it goes, I give you so much credit for dealing with it so well, and I really hope it all works out soon so you don't have to stress about it so much!

 

[elleinad16]

Phew! Oh, Jackie! I cannot give you enough of these:
I think you handled everything well, all the texts sounded great, however as sucky as it is...you are probably going to just have to wait and see how it all plays out. I wish she was excited for you. All of us here on the DIS sure are!!! I wish I could come with you!!!!!

I'm so happy for your happy list!
You have your dress!!! Your day is going to be amazing...and I'm so happy for you!!!!!!!

Also, if you do go over Memorial Day, which is my BIRTHDAY!!! , have a drink for me!!!

Love, love, love you!!!!

 

[BethieTink]

Jackie, Jackie, Jackie,

I am so sorry that Lacy is treating you this way. You, soooo, do not deserve this so close to your big day. I just saw on fb that she has dropped out. That is definitely for the best. One less headache for you.

Good news on the dresses. Great news on the early and extra Christmas money.

You are almost married!! Pluto is almost at the end!!!

Glad you liked the card. We have 2 cruises booked next October on the Fantasy, if you want to come!

I am sure you did just fine on your finals. I was the same way when I was in college though.

And just for the record, we are all excited about your wedding!! So, you have more than you think you do.

Come down the last weekend in June instead! We will be there for our PS!

 

[One_Song]

All of us here on the DIS sure are!!! I wish I could come with you!!!!!

Danielle said it perfectly-- I cannot WAIT to see and hear all about your wonderful wedding trip. I think the best you can do is put the FSIL drama out of your mind. I know that's easier to say than do, and boy, did I hate people telling me "just don't worry about it" before my wedding. But now I get it These weeks before the wedding should be full of last minute details and happy excitement. It will be gone all too soon and NO ONE is important enough to ruin this joyful time for you. Try however possible not to let her rain on your parade. Let Chris handle it, perhaps?