I've hit rock bottom...

[MuNkY]

...on my High School's social ladder. I realized that today when I noticed who I was sitting with at lunch. Honestly, I sit with the kids who talk about stupid proficies and listen to stuff like techno music and such. They are the modern day version of the kids who played Dungeons & Dragons back in the 80's, and were like, REALLY into it.

Now I'm not trying to diss the people, it's just that I have no clue how I ended up with these people. I mean, they are nice and all, and I like hanging around them for the most part, but our interests are completely different. It's also kind of a downer, because I'll be flirting with girls using eye contact, then people like that sit down around me, and it just completely screws it up. I dunno.

No real topic. Just felt like venting.

 

[Lil_Tink]

Ahhh that sucks...


I kinda know what you mean.

The 'popular' people at my school accept me but not so much my friends. Me and my freinds are kinda 'cool' but then these girls who we dont like and are really annoying sit with us. I don't want them there but don't want to be mean..

 

[tiff13]

...on my High School's social ladder. I realized that today when I noticed who I was sitting with at lunch.
it's just that I have no clue how I ended up with these people. our interests are completely different. It's also kind of a downer, because I'll be flirting with girls using eye contact, then people like that sit down around me, and it just completely screws it up. I dunno.

OMG!!! That sounds like my thought process. Except I flirt with guys.

But what do you do????

 

[MuNkY]

OMG!!! That sounds like my thought process. Except I flirt with guys.

But what do you do????

Today....looked around and shook my head. It was the worst timing ever for them to show up.

 

[2HOT2touch]

OMG!!! That sounds like my thought process. Except I flirt with guys.

But what do you do????

um..make new friends...

I was kinda a mean girl in Middle school and basically stopped talking to my best friend for 4 yearsand just basically madde new friends. I was like in a little clique and i didnt want to be friends with my bff anymore so i stopped talking to her and so did the rest of the "clique" and we kind of all stayed together and made new friends too. its not that hard. just start talking to someone in your class and when you get comfortable enoigh sit with them at lunch. or even sit with a girl you like and start flirting even more. thats what i like to do sit at a table with all boys and just flirt like crazy. but my advise to you, is be nice to these people still and hang out with them once in a while, but also try and make new friends. you know like that song, make new friends but keep the old...

well good luck!!! and if you need anymore help you can PM me.

 

[soccerfreak_08]

...on my High School's social ladder. I realized that today when I noticed who I was sitting with at lunch. Honestly, I sit with the kids who talk about stupid proficies and listen to stuff like techno music and such. They are the modern day version of the kids who played Dungeons & Dragons back in the 80's, and were like, REALLY into it.

Now I'm not trying to diss the people, it's just that I have no clue how I ended up with these people. I mean, they are nice and all, and I like hanging around them for the most part, but our interests are completely different. It's also kind of a downer, because I'll be flirting with girls using eye contact, then people like that sit down around me, and it just completely screws it up. I dunno.

No real topic. Just felt like venting.

I can relate. The only thing I can tell you is to embrace it. There is nothing you can do.

 

[MISS HEATHER` MARIE*]

that has happened to me before
i suggest that if it really bothers you then to stop hanging out with them at school and just hang out after school...you can still be friends but it doesn't mean you HAVE to be together at school. i sometimes don't sit with one of my friends at lunch but we always talk after and she knows that she will always be one of my close friends and no one can can change it and we don't fight about it
if they are your real friends they won't mind if you don't sit with them or anything they should understnad that you want to sit with that girl or want to try a new place to sit or you can say "oh i'm going to sit over there because they seem to be into what i like"
hope it helped, good luck!

 

[The Dark Dancer]

Mmmmm...well.....hmm......that sucks.

Just try introducing some of your interests to them.....maybe they'll embrace some stuff you like?

Anyway, a girl should like you for you, not because of who you sit with or hang out with but, I can relate. I have had the same thing happen to me at "just the wrong moment" basically the same way as you.
It's a bummer...but I have no clue how to fix it,...I just try and forget stuff like that or ya know...?

 

[Jobie]

Hey man I know where you are coming from. When I was in HS (I graduated 4 years ago, just stumbled in to see what ya'll were talking about), I felt I was the lowest of the low. I mean, I had freinds that were in the "in" crowd, but my best freind was even a bigger geek than me! And that is saying a lot, LOL. The funniest thing is, now it seems like everything is in reverse. All the guys that used to think was so cool in HS, well are now the big time losers. They have never done anything with their lives, becuase they feel as if they peaked in HS and that is where their minds as stayed. For us guys who felt we were at the bottom, when in reality we were really in the middle, we feel like we still have something to prove when we get out of HS. My best freind joined the Marines, last guy on earth you would ever think that would join the military, and now he is all buff and gets all the girls. Me, I have embraced my geekness and is studying Web-Page design. I am married to an absolute bomb-shell, and guess who calls me all the time now? Yup, all thoes popular girls. Why, because they knew that I was a nice guy that is willing to listen, just unfortunatley they are too late at calling me, LOL. About your freinds listening to techno, ummmmm well, I can't help you there. Just cranl up the metal when ever they are around!

 

[coolshannie]

ok.. dude im not trying to flame at all because im a total fun-lovin person but just want to give you some advice.. where would you rather be? choice 1.. with nice people who already accept you for who you are.. or choice 2 rude obnoxious (sp?) jerks who dont pay 1 ounce of attention to you??? i think you get my point anyways on to what i was saying.. I have lots of friends most of them from band because i can tell you i am a complete band geek inside and out and proud of it! i can also tell you that at least 160 kids at my school feel the same way i do and are all my friends!! i would rather have my band buddies then the cheerleaders anyday ( not implying that cheerleaders are bad just making an example because i have had friends who were cheerleaders in the past that were very nice it just seemed like a good expression) dude i have plenty of friends and i only have a few super good friends in band but i sure do have a family of friends and a support group whenever i need it from 160 people becuase we stick together through thick and thin! i mean i know the times where you look at who your sitting with at lunch and say what am i doing here? then you laugh and realize you are right where you are supposed to be because in the real world nobodys normal we are just us and that is all that we can be so if someone cant except you for you and who you hang out with i say they aren't worth it.. because when you find someone you like you shouldn't have to change 1 thing about them! therefore keep your friends ditch the wanting the cool because maybe it isn't so cool to be cool? maybe it is cool to just be yourself

 

[Jobie]

ok.. dude im not trying to flame at all because im a total fun-lovin person but just want to give you some advice.. where would you rather be? choice 1.. with nice people who already accept you for who you are.. or choice 2 rude obnoxious (sp?) jerks who dont pay 1 ounce of attention to you??? i think you get my point anyways on to what i was saying.. I have lots of friends most of them from band because i can tell you i am a complete band geek inside and out and proud of it! i can also tell you that at least 160 kids at my school feel the same way i do and are all my friends!! i would rather have my band buddies then the cheerleaders anyday ( not implying that cheerleaders are bad just making an example because i have had friends who were cheerleaders in the past that were very nice it just seemed like a good expression) dude i have plenty of friends and i only have a few super good friends in band but i sure do have a family of friends and a support group whenever i need it from 160 people becuase we stick together through thick and thin! i mean i know the times where you look at who your sitting with at lunch and say what am i doing here? then you laugh and realize you are right where you are supposed to be because in the real world nobodys normal we are just us and that is all that we can be so if someone cant except you for you and who you hang out with i say they aren't worth it.. because when you find someone you like you shouldn't have to change 1 thing about them! therefore keep your friends ditch the wanting the cool because maybe it isn't so cool to be cool? maybe it is cool to just be yourself

well said

 

[coolshannie]

well said

thanks i mean maybe im just a zany fun-lovin girl but i just really dont care what someone else thinks of me if they dont know me nor like me then why care?? who are they to me?? i mean i just love band and disney and my friends and life it self to care so much about those things.. i mean sure i buy name brand clothes and sure i make myself pretty in the morning but truthfully it is because i like to do those things i like the clothes i buy i like doing my hair and i just plain like being zany and sometimes living in my own little bubble not realizing the interesting people around me yet if you care so much about what someone thinks that doesnt even no you then you need to go to disneyland or world and then i think you will realize that in the long run it does not matter because we all love life in our own ways!
.. ok now i really have to get some sleep otherwise i will be a walking zombie tomorrow because its 11 here i have to get up a 6 thankyou very much lol.. cant wait until the weekend because i get to march in the last parade of the year!! woot!! and play vmk what else in life is there to look forward to without my wonderful vmk LOL and band, bands cool ..

 

[MuNkY]

ok.. dude im not trying to flame at all because im a total fun-lovin person but just want to give you some advice.. where would you rather be? choice 1.. with nice people who already accept you for who you are.. or choice 2 rude obnoxious (sp?) jerks who dont pay 1 ounce of attention to you??? i think you get my point anyways on to what i was saying.. I have lots of friends most of them from band because i can tell you i am a complete band geek inside and out and proud of it! i can also tell you that at least 160 kids at my school feel the same way i do and are all my friends!! i would rather have my band buddies then the cheerleaders anyday ( not implying that cheerleaders are bad just making an example because i have had friends who were cheerleaders in the past that were very nice it just seemed like a good expression) dude i have plenty of friends and i only have a few super good friends in band but i sure do have a family of friends and a support group whenever i need it from 160 people becuase we stick together through thick and thin! i mean i know the times where you look at who your sitting with at lunch and say what am i doing here? then you laugh and realize you are right where you are supposed to be because in the real world nobodys normal we are just us and that is all that we can be so if someone cant except you for you and who you hang out with i say they aren't worth it.. because when you find someone you like you shouldn't have to change 1 thing about them! therefore keep your friends ditch the wanting the cool because maybe it isn't so cool to be cool? maybe it is cool to just be yourself

Yes but, I would like to talk to my friends about sports, rock, and the things that interest me. Right now, I'm just sort of sitting there not saying a thing. I mean, I'd like to be able to walk up to one of my friends, hit him on the shoulder, and talk about last night's Red Wings game or something, or the new, (kinda), Guns N' Roses CD.

 

[MuNkY]

Anyway, a girl should like you for you, not because of who you sit with or hang out with but, I can relate. I have had the same thing happen to me at "just the wrong moment" basically the same way as you.
It's a bummer...but I have no clue how to fix it,...I just try and forget stuff like that or ya know...?

But thats part of the problem. A girl should like me because of the things I like and whatnot, but they get the wrong idea about my interests because of the people I hang out with. I guess I know what I mean now by the phrase, "you are who you hang out with"

 

[2HOT2touch]

ok, well then go up to one of the guys that you know likes sports, and ask him how whatever game was on last night was. like what he thought about it and stuff. just start talking to him about things you want to talk to your friends about and you might make a new friend who will be able to get you out of your little bind. and you never know he might even have a girl he knows that likes those kinda things too.

 

[PatriotsRule]

I know exactly what you're talking about. Stuff like this happens all the time in my school. It's worse in a small school like mine cause you don't have much choice. I just try to kind of hang out with everyone a little bit. Don't know if that helps

 

[FordFusion]

Yes but, I would like to talk to my friends about sports, rock, and the things that interest me. Right now, I'm just sort of sitting there not saying a thing. I mean, I'd like to be able to walk up to one of my friends, hit him on the shoulder, and talk about last night's Red Wings game or something, or the new, (kinda), Guns N' Roses CD.

Do you live in Michigan? Near detroit, just cause I saw you talking about the red wings and such. Anyways i'm in Livonia, hope things are going well for you! I am off to Disney World tomorrow!

 

[stitchgonecrazy]

i'm not the type of person you go for advice but just act yourself.i acted myself to my friends(that first not so keen on them now we're really good friends who completley diffrent from each other love rock they hate it they love rap and i hate it)plus i don' really like popular poeple (i stay clear of them)
p.s i'm not good at advice(just rember not good at advice)

 

[Babyjustrun]

awww that sucks.

i have the same problem. most of the friends i have are worse than 9 year old boys (no offense to nine year old boys) childish, immature, and hyperactive.
they watch veggietales. sing the cheeseburger song. laugh at words like 'poop' and 'pickle' (yes, we all remember the days when those words WERE funny)

i would make new friends, but i just come off as a stoner and boring. i can be funny and weird and loveable. i just can't show it off to people i don't know.

 

[Loves Disney]

You say you sit near these kids (people you say have nothing in common with you whatsoever) day after day and as soon as someone "cool" walks by, be a girl or the guy you would rather be talking with, you instantly feel embarrassed. Tell me is this is also true with the same senerio: You quickly become wrapped in this feeling where you want to act out some crazy scene with your "friends" just so the "cool" kids don't gain the impression that you are "nerdy". You know what your interests are but you sometimes feel as if you can't express that interest due to the fact that you feel blocked in by these techno loving kids. You would rather walk around being that "cool" kid that kids like you feel embarrassed around as soon as you enter. You sit there at the lunch table with these kids because you know they accept you but you are a little nervous that the kids with similar interests would not accept you; and oh gosh, how could they accept you after seeing you with these "nerds." Dignity begins to play a part here and you are fearful you will lose that dignity as soon as you "make a fool" of yourself by talking to the kids with similar interests. Are you nervous that the "cool" kids will "make fun" of you or ignore you? No, you could not be nervous about that because in your mind you are "cool" too. So then are you afraid the "friends" you sit with will forever here on out shun you if you, God forbid, talk and sit with these "cool" kids? I don't think you are considering you don't like being there from what you have infered upon us. In that case, why don't you tell these friends of yours that every so often at lunch, you are going to go hang out with these other kids whom you seem to share interest with. To be popular isn't to get rid of friends, but in fact gain more. Why is it that you continue to sit with these "friends" when you are not given assigned seats during lunch? Complaining about it won't get you anywhere. It may take some courage, but walking up to different people and chatting with them may ignite a whole new friendship; one that makes you more "proud". Because that is what this is all about right? Pride?