Hi all - Thank you so much for the well wishes. I will be passing them along to Ginger, Michelle and the family.
Anita - I think that the media just looks at the fact that Ginger is the wife and writes their pieces or speaks without thinking. When they have mentioned Michelle, it has been like, "Luke Bucklin and his three sons perished in a plane crash. His wife Ginger and his three remaining children are all devastated. Michelle, the boys mother could not be reached for comment."
Most though, only mention that Ginger and three more children are left behind. Ginger is a great bonus mom to those kids and loves them fiercely and she knows that her role is not to replace their Mom. Her and Shelly have a great relationship and especially going through this, as emotional and core wrenching devastating this is, of course it won't take much for arguments or bad feelings to start and it is not Ginger's fault what has been placed in the paper or on TV. Sensationalizing things is all that counts.
To show a good example of the solidarity of the women who loved the man and the sons...this was on their doorstep, before Halloween, trying to wish them back home safely, after the plane crash and before they found the wreckage. They had lit them for a few days straight and then even the day after Halloween. Late night of the 1st the plane was found and seeing those darn pumpkins on that step, not lit with no hope,after, was just enough to make you cry and keep on crying.
As far as Baylor and stupid kids. I really think it shows how naive kids are to the dangers of fire and how even when they see someone get hurt, how they still assume it won't happen to them. No different than drinking and driving or getting addicted to drugs etc. They always assume it is someone else that will get, "caught." Baylor is in a Math class with the kid whose house he was at when this all happened and it bugs him at times because this kid is fine and goes on about his life without anything to think about.
Baylor talks a lot to us and I am glad of that and he has some great teachers who are understanding of what has happened and that it still affects him. Then you have some stupid people who are teachers that I would like to take out back.
I just had conferences on Friday and Baylor had told me he wanted to ask one teacher to be able to read a different book for class because of the content. I asked him what it was.
It is a book about a kid who gets into an accident, drinking and driving and his best friend's legs get pinned under the dash of the car and he gets stuck and is burned alive and dies. The kid who drove, goes through counseling etc. and still ends up killing himself because he can hear the screams of the friend who was being burned.
The teacher said no, that she would not make exceptions.
I thought that maybe she did not understand and so when she showed me his grade and that he was being defiant by not reading the class material, I asked her if Baylor, did indeed explain what his reluctance was to the book. That he felt vulnerable and nervous hearing about it and started sweating and that was why he had asked to see the nurse the past few days in school, the hour before her class.
She said yes but that was in the past and it was time for him to move forward and she would not be making exceptions for him or anyone else.
I was not very nice. That is the most pleasant way to describe my reaction. That not only would I be meeting with his counselor, but I would be pulling him from her class if at all possible and also he would have my permission to walk out of the class if he is to stay in it, on any day that she read aloud from the book. That she was not a psychiatrist and if he was ready to face his fears about being trapped, on fire, it sure was not going to be with her in a classroom of 30 kids.
I have read the book since he brought this to my attention. It is very descriptive and for Baylor, he has came a long way on so many levels that I am proud to be his mom just because he is not afraid of bon fires and he is not embarrassed to show his leg etc.
But this kid just last night, pulled away and shrank into his covers when I reached out to touch his leg. He acted like I was going to beat him. Like a cowering dog. That is how sensitive he is to his leg being touched 2 years later because he still can't feel sensation there. He does not want to listen to descriptions of something he lived through. That he still has nightmares from at times and I don't blame him.
So yes, the kids are idiots and I don't get them but I also do not get some adults who are just as stupid. UGH!
I think if the kids were taken to a burn center or shown videos of how bad it is, they might think differently. They saw Baylor with a sock on and a cast but nobody saw the mangled mess his leg was right after, minus the kid whose house it was at and he told people Baylor started his leg on fire on purpose, so he did not look like a jerk. So who knows what makes an impact and what doesn't? Maybe I will never get the ignorance and lack of compassion of others.
I think that maybe getting it for me, might mean I understand them and that, I never want to say. I would not ever want to be someone who has no compassion, even if it made life a whole lot easier.
They knew what happened to him and and what he went thru and they still do that crap?
