Originally posted by Serena
C.Ann, you HAVE to find a way to forgive them, or it will eat you all up inside. Not now, it's too soon, but please for all of your sakes, see a counselor, talk it out, buy a punching bag, but find a way to forgive those people that did this to her and your family.
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"Someday"...many, many, many days from now - I
may find a way to forgive - or at least "rationalize" their stupidity, their arrogance, their spitefulness, and their jealousy - but I don't expect that day to be any time in the near future..
I can think of lots of "things" I would like to punch right now, but "punching bags" are not it..
I understand what you are saying is being said with the best of intentions and the utmost sincerity - but I have a DD that I am TERRIFIED to leave alone for even 5 minutes right now - and the fact that these ignorant people chose to make this tragedy a million times worse for the people who REALLY loved this young woman is something that I just can't get past right now..
Thank you for the hugs - I wish I could wrap my DD in a bazillion hugs right now - but sadly even that won't kill the pain that she's feeling right now..

I hope you're right about her friend - and that somehow this friend will find a way to send her a "message" of some sort.. My DD needs that right now - more than she has ever needed ANYTHING in her life..