is this weird?

[smidgy]

my oldest son is getting married. it is his 2nd marriage, her first. she is a great girl, we just love her!

but we don't have a lot to spend on yet, another wedding. anyway, I found what I think is a very nice dress... at the Goodwill thrift store. with my 25% birthday coupon, it cost me $5.25, plus tax.

since hubby hasto rent a tux ($150) at the bride's request, I thought I could save on my dress.. boy.. did I ever! (hubby was happy).

what should I say if the bride or her mom ask where I got my dress? another waitress at work said, "say you got it at a "specialty" shop"

 

[momof1princess]

i agree with your co-worker. you don't have to name names, "specialty shop" is a great idea. and wow! good for you for finding a great dress so cheap! i LOVE going to thrift stores, and have found some really awesome stuff there.

 

[candielips]

I think specialty shop or boutique work just fine. You could one step further and say it's vintage
Congrats on your find!

 

[smidgy]

vintage.. I like that!

 

[Aurora&Prince]

Say you got it at a Vintage Shop! I knew someone who did this with her daughter and her prom dress. Her daughter raved about how her mom found her a vintage dress and said she couldnt stop bragging!

I'm sure she'll be fine with that!!

 

[MarthaJr.]

I would say I borrowed it from a friend....then they can't keep bugging you for the name of the vintage shop so they can get equally fashionable dresses!

Or proudly say you just happened to be at Goodwill and found this amazing dress. Who cares what they think, as long as you like it and you feel pretty in it!

 

[LuLuO]

What a great find! I would tell them I got it at Goodwill for $5, but I shop there regularly and have since I was a kid so I have no embarassment about it.

 

[PrincessAtta]

I would say a friend from work frequents a consignment shop near her house and picked it up for you.

I think if you say "specialty shop" they will press for the name. You can always say you forget the name of the consignment shop.

Enjoy!

 

[labdogs42]

I would say I borrowed it from a friend....then they can't keep bugging you for the name of the vintage shop so they can get equally fashionable dresses!

Or proudly say you just happened to be at Goodwill and found this amazing dress. Who cares what they think, as long as you like it and you feel pretty in it!

I'd go with the borrowed route, too. Or check the tag for the brand and see if you can figure out what stores sell that brand. I just wouldn't say you got it at Goodwill for $5. I appreciate the deal, but no everyone would. I'd keep your awesome bargain to yourself! Maybe reveal it to your DDIL after the wedding is over!

 

[Brer Shay]

Or check the tag for the brand and see if you can figure out what stores sell that brand.

Yes this - something like, "It's Robin Piccone, they sell her things at Nordstrom."

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

What a great find! I would tell them I got it at Goodwill for $5, but I shop there regularly and have since I was a kid so I have no embarassment about it.

So would I!

 

[marmalade]

I would have no problem saying I got it at the goodwill. Actually I would probably be so excited I got such a great dress at an equally amazing price that I would want to share.

 

[blackforest]

My sister-in-law has done this for all three of my nieces weddings. In fact, she bougt two for the youngest's wedding last summer and when she decided my Mom got the other one! They were both so happy! And if it were me, I'd BRAG about the great deal. Everyone knows I like a bargin!

 

[QVCshopper]

I would say the truth, but everyone knows I'm really cheap and wouldn't be surprised. They'd be more surprised if I spent a lot of money. Anyway, have a great time at the wedding in your "new" dress!

 

[disneychrista]

I would have no problem saying I got it at the goodwill. Actually I would probably be so excited I got such a great dress at an equally amazing price that I would want to share.

This...I don't get the big deal about telling the truth.

 

[smidgy]

What a great find! I would tell them I got it at Goodwill for $5, but I shop there regularly and have since I was a kid so I have no embarassment about it.

This...I don't get the big deal about telling the truth.

I'm not embarrassed; I'm actually proud of my thriftiness. I'm not cheap. Ill look for bargains, and yet spring for lunch with a friend, or buy a round of drinks.

the deal about telling the truth is: I don't want to hurt my new DIL's feelings. I don't want her to feel like, because it's my son's 2nd wedding, it's not important. ("why did you buy a new dress for his 1st wedding?") by the way, I bought the dress for the 1st wedding on a clearance rack for $30, which I thought was a good deal for a Mother of the Groom dress. I would wear it again (I mean, I don't display those pictures anymore), but ... um.. I don't fit in it anymore.
this day is a BIG deal to her, and to her mom. she is the first daughter to get married. the 2 of them shopped all over for a mother of the Bride dress, she chose 4 that they let her take home and think about it, she was thinking of ordering a dress, etc etc.
so I think it might sound , to them, like I just didn't care that much. otherwise, I would brag about the deal...actually, I DID brag about it all night at work last night at the restaurant.

 

[happygirl]

I would tell them Goodwill, I see no need to lie.

 

[happygirl]

I'm not embarrassed; I'm actually proud of my thriftiness. I'm not cheap. Ill look for bargains, and yet spring for lunch with a friend, or buy a round of drinks.

the deal about telling the truth is: I don't want to hurt my new DIL's feelings. I don't want her to feel like, because it's my son's 2nd wedding, it's not important. ("why did you buy a new dress for his 1st wedding?") by the way, I bought the dress for the 1st wedding on a clearance rack for $30, which I thought was a good deal for a Mother of the Groom dress. I would wear it again (I mean, I don't display those pictures anymore), but ... um.. I don't fit in it anymore.
this day is a BIG deal to her, and to her mom. she is the first daughter to get married. the 2 of them shopped all over for a mother of the Bride dress, she chose 4 that they let her take home and think about it, she was thinking of ordering a dress, etc etc.
so I think it might sound , to them, like I just didn't care that much. otherwise, I would brag about the deal...actually, I DID brag about it all night at work last night at the restaurant.

If she gets mad at where you shop and is that petty you have bigger issues then the dress I think

 

[Hannathy]

I like the consignment shop line. You could even say a shop in your town because they don't carry 2 of anything so even if they went it isn't like they would find another one of the same dress.

It does sound nicer than goodwill and with brides being emotional about anything and since it is your DIL that is how I would phrase it.

 

[kimgg]

Smidgy, I would go w/ your first instinct. You may get 50 different responses that it's something to brag about, no big deal, people shouldn't be so materialistic, etc. . . . but this is the beginning of hopefully a lifelong relationship and you don't want to start off feeling uncomfortable, especially on a day that already has enough stress and expectations as it is. You want to relax and enjoy the time as much as possible. I would come up with a prepared answer so you don't feel rushed to come up with one. It does not have to be a lie and you've gotten several options for that already. The fact is, the store "Goodwill" just has negative connotations with it for most (not ALL) people as a place to buy hand-me-downs, not important event items. I have no problem with it, but there are those who may react negatively or snidely and give you vibes when you say it and you don't need that on such a day, even though it would be rude of them to do so. You also don't want to feel bad about your new daughter-in-law possibly being embarrassed or wondering how much you valued the day to spend on it so little (obviously you do care a LOT to be asking this question).

That said, I bought my dress for my step-daughter's wedding at Sears on the clearance rack for $7. I had looked everywhere and already purchased one that cost a couple hundred somewhere else but liked the $7 one better so I went with it. I can't remember who I told what but I hope I didn't tell my stepdaughter how much it cost, now looking back, but if I did I hope she didn't think I didn't care as much. I think she knows how much I care by all the other things I do for her, but I can see your diliemna.

Good luck, congrats on your new family member and ENJOY!!!