Is this a tacky thing to do at a baby shower?

[NY Disney fan]

That is Tre' Tackay. A less tacky option would be to pass around a list so that guest could put their address on there. Then the mother to be can work off that list.

 

[KirstenB]

Doesn't bother me in the least. Put me in the "I don't care" category.

 

[Boo'sMom]

I think it's more tacky not to send a thank you note, than to make sure the mom-to-be has a correct mailing address.

 

[MsLeFever]

I went to a baby shower where there were "generic" thank-yous at the table - that was all you were getting!

 

[Ever_After]

I've done this before, no big deal to me.

It saves the mom-to-be hours and takes all of us only seconds.

... And then you'll be sure to get a thank you.
I'm all for it.

LOL No not always! my mom never did.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I went to a baby shower where there were "generic" thank-yous at the table - that was all you were getting!

Oooh, I think I can top this for tackiness! Many years ago, my boss had me write out all the thank you cards (and address and mail them) for his wedding gifts. He never even looked at them. And since I didn't know what gifts he got, every card just had a generic thank you.

 

[cinmell]

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Anyone else think this is tacky?

Yes! Extremely tacky.

 

[cinmell]

Oooh, I think I can top this for tackiness! Many years ago, my boss had me write out all the thank you cards (and address and mail them) for his wedding gifts. He never even looked at them. And since I didn't know what gifts he got, every card just had a generic thank you.

You're kidding, right?


Between him and his bride neither of them could write out thank yous?

 

[lg3]

Yes, I think it is tacky at a baby shower. Whomever gave the shower should have (already) purchased (or made on their computer) thank you notes at the same time they got the invitations. Since they know who would be coming they just put the address on the envelopes and give it all to the mother-to-be as a type of gift too. I have seen some very creative ones. They are greatly appreciated. VERY tacky to have a guest write it out at the shower in front of the recipient!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

You're kidding, right?


Between him and his bride neither of them could write out thank yous?

They were both lawyers and apparently very busy, important people.

 

[Beth76]

It saves the mom-to-be hours and takes all of us only seconds.

... And then you'll be sure to get a thank you. I've been to MANY showers and have gotten NO thank you note.

Why are these the only options? If you want a thank you note, address it yourself. And if someone's too busy to address envelopes then maybe she's too busy to have a shower.

 

[hildasmuriel]

Coming from a country where we don't have bridal or baby showers I find these threads about the etiquette of them fascinating.
Who to invite; do you have a shower for the second and subsequent baby; who writes the envelopes; how long is acceptable to wait for a thank you etc etc. I love it all.

Tell me more.......

 

[Beth76]

Coming from a country where we don't have bridal or baby showers I find these threads about the etiquette of them fascinating.
Who to invite; do you have a shower for the second and subsequent baby; who writes the envelopes; how long is acceptable to wait for a thank you etc etc. I love it all.

Tell me more.......

NEVER put registry information in the invitation. Of course that's another highly debated topic as well.

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I think it's a great thoughtful thing to do for a mother to be that's going to be overwhelmed.

I completely agree! I wish they did this at my shower almost 17 yrs ago.

 

[mickeyboat]

Why are these the only options? If you want a thank you note, address it yourself. And if someone's too busy to address envelopes then maybe she's too busy to have a shower.

The point is that because the mom to be is busy and stressed and probably pretty tired, it is a nice thing to do. Just look at it as part of your gift.

No one is saying she is too busy, and more than likely she is not the one asking for it to be done.

 

[mefordis]

Next time someone gives me a gift for my birthday or Christmas or whatever, I'm going to hand them an envelope to address for me

 

[Pigeon]

I think it is breathtakingly tacky, whether it's a wedding shower or a baby shower. A cousin's daughter did this at her wedding shower, and I thought my aged, very proper Aunt was going to have apoplexy right then and there. What's next, do we have to write our own thank you notes, too?

And please, I'm a mother. It didn't really kill me to spend a few minutes writing thank you notes and addressing envelopes after my showers. How lazy can you possibly get?

 

[mefordis]

I think it is breathtakingly tacky, whether it's a wedding shower or a baby shower. A cousin's daughter did this at her wedding shower, and I thought my aged, very proper Aunt was going to have apoplexy right then and there. What's next, do we have to write our own thank you notes, too?

And please, I'm a mother. It didn't really kill me to spend a few minutes writing thank you notes and addressing envelopes after my showers. How lazy can you possibly get?

I know! When the stack of envelopes came around to me I was looking around the room and no one seemed phased by it! I did make a joke like, "I can write my own card, too" because I was so caught off guard. I had never seen this before!

I'd like to add that the real time consuming part is writing the actual note, so some time thrifty genius is going to have to come up with a clever way that the gift receiver can offload that work to the guests as well, then we're all set!

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

I think it's a great idea, but I DO think that some guests would find it tacky.

I had carpal tunnel sydrome BAD with both of my pregnancies. If even this one task of writing was done by the guests ( I didn't have anyone else I could ask to do it) it sure would have helped out with some of my pain..

 

[meandtheguys2]

And please, I'm a mother. It didn't really kill me to spend a few minutes writing thank you notes and addressing envelopes after my showers. How lazy can you possibly get?

Of course it didn't KILL you. It is merely an issue of the person giving the party (no one gives their own) trying to make things one step easier for someone special. (And no, I've never done this. I don't give showers!) Why not make things easier for our girlfriends? Women have it hard enough without the BS and witchiness.