Your "thoughts" are hilariously narrow-minded. Please do go on to expound on how we're probably all uneducated, sexually repressed and controlled by the patriarchy...
Never mind, it would give me points....
Check online. You'll find that the majority of the statistics point towards living together prior to marriage as a negative in terms of long-term happiness
Not all studies have found that. Also you are confusing long term happiness,, and not getting divorced, they dont always come hand in hand.
"
Using data from the U.S. governments’ 1995, 2002, and 2006 National Surveys of Family and Growth, Kuperberg analyzed more than 7,000 individuals who had been married. Some of the people she studied were still with their spouse. Others were divorced. Then, instead of studying just the correlation between cohabitation and divorce, Kuperberg looked at how old each individual was when he or she made his or her first major commitment to a partner—whether that step was marriage or cohabitation.
Moving in together without a diamond ring involved didn’t, on its own, lead to divorce. Instead, she found that the longer couples waited to make that first serious commitment, the better their chances for marital success."
"
almost a dozen studies conducted since the 1970s have shown the very opposite outcome — that cohabitation prior to marriage is linked to
lower marital happiness and stability and a
higher chance of divorce. This substantial body of research found that couples who lived together before getting married were in fact 33% more likely to split up than those who didn’t.
Researchers called this paradoxical finding “the cohabitation effect” and frequently surmised that it had more to do with
whodecided to cohabitate than with cohabitation itself. That is, because more “unconventional” types — folks who were less religious and less committed to the institution of marriage — were more likely to live together before marriage, they were also more likely to seek a divorce if the relationship went sour. The cohabitation effect was thus an issue of correlation, rather than causation"
"Nonetheless, as cohabitation has become more common, and been picked up by a broader and more conventional swath of the population, its negative impact on divorce has indeed declined, and even disappeared. A recent
study that analyzed only those couples that had been married since 1996, found no link between cohabitation before marriage and instability afterward. A 2012
report from the CDC likewise posited “that the association between premarital cohabitation and marital instability for first marriages may have weakened over time because it is less apparent for more recent birth cohorts"
You have a point - the one aspect of that post I wouldn't have expressed myself is most women want marriage and most men don't, and that women basically only agree to live together while they're hoping for a ring. There's no basis for assuming that.
I'd be interested to know though, from somebody who's views are different than mine, if
@MrsPete 's post vibed as snide to you as
@mummabear 's did to me?
It wasn't meant to be snide. With over 2/3 of the population living together before they are married, and figures showing that the majority that dont, do so for religious reasons, it makes sense to come to the conclusion that there is a link between "We cant live together before we are married because it is a sin" and "divorce is a sin"
. There have been times he made more money than me but I'm better at saving. Thus I control my own destiny, pay my own taxes and really have no need for his social security checks. I tell people I have a has-been, a wannabe, but noooo husband. I'm weally happy and uhm I think the men in my life are too
.
