Is it wrong to spank your child?

[Briarmom]

I find it odd that a brand new poster would dig up a controversial thread that is three months old to make their first post on

aw:
I love a good mystery.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I find it odd that a brand new poster would dig up a controversial thread that is three months old to make their first post on

Yep, sure made me wonder, too! Do we have stupid written on our forehead? (don't answer that)

 

[pattyT]

is someone here dis-behaving??

 

[Planogirl]

Yep, sure made me wonder, too! Do we have stupid written on our forehead? (don't answer that)

Brand new? Right.

 

[Cantw8]

is someone here dis-behaving??

Totally...

 

[pattyT]

don't worry the mods will be on it

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Totally DIS-behaving! Wow, amazing, someone who is a brand new poster doing that!

 

[pattyT]

geeez how did someone new even find THIS thread -
it took me a year to find the community board!

 

[Briarmom]

Totally...

 

[Chicago526]

Spank, but only as a last resort. Sometimes, you need to get their attention and nothing else works! Plus, you get to use it as a threat, since they know you'll follow through if you have to! Remember Lynette on Desperate Housewives? She would always threaten, and never carry through, so the kids stoped taking the threat seriously! Then when Bree spanked them, she just started to say "I'll have Mrs. Van De Kamp come over here and spank you if you wont' behave!" to get them to tow the line! Fictional example, but you get the idea!

It does need to be used carefully, spaking a kid beause they hit their brother is a little counter-productive! But it does have it's uses. My brothers and I were spanked on occasion. Every time I can honestly say I had it comming, and it didn't harm me in the least!

 

[Planogirl]

geeez how did someone new even find THIS thread -
it took me a year to find the community board!

Chances are that it's only a new name and not a new poster. Probably just someone who's bored. Not that I totally blame this person, the boards have been dragging lately.

 

[WDWDennis]

Man, I didnt go through this entire thread, but here is how I feel. I will get back to it sometime when I have more time to read. Very interesting topic though. Here is my thoughts on spanking.

I beleive it is ok, as long as your not doing it out of anger. Use it when he/she gets too out of control that they need a REAL eye opener. I know that sometimes time outs just don't work. I try to avoid it, but somtimes nothing else works. On the other hand, if you do it too much, then it will become ineffective. You don't want it to become a 'beating' where you just do it to make YOU feel better. I really believe that it can be a very effective tool.

My son is almost 3. He has been spanked exactly 5 times now. It breaks my heart. The funny thing is, I don't even do it hard. He just gets scared and cries even before I lay a hand on his little hiney. I think he's more embarrased than anything. Needless to say, he straightens right up and is usually an angel for the rest of the day!!

 

[robertsmom]

I absolutely spank my son when it is needed. It's not the first, second, or even fifth thing I try as discipline, but sometimes it's all that works. I've also always thought that lots more parents spank than will admit to it, cause it isn't PC.

P.S. (For all those who believe spanking breeds serial killers) My son is very well behaved, does not pummel his classmates, and shows no outward signs of Menedez brothers - like behavior.

 

[Mysteria]

Totally...

Myst

 

[Junebugwv]

Such an interesting topic. I can't help but notice how many times the word "hit" is used to refer to a form of discipline. That is a tactic I have heard routinely in 25 years of parenting (and 10 years until final child goes to college). If those of us who spank would intentionally call the non-spankers "screamers" when they explain something to a child or "emotional restrainers" when they force a child into time-out we would look just as manipulative in our choice of words.

 

[glass-slipper]

Such an interesting topic. I can't help but notice how many times the word "hit" is used to refer to a form of discipline. That is a tactic I have heard routinely in 25 years of parenting (and 10 years until final child goes to college). If those of us who spank would intentionally call the non-spankers "screamers" when they explain something to a child or "emotional restrainers" when they force a child into time-out we would look just as manipulative in our choice of words.

No manipulation. Face it, spanking IS hitting, whether you like it or not, that IS what it is.

 

[sha_lyn]

Then you must feel that grounding and time outs are imprisonment. Taking away a childs belonging is theft, and not allowing them to eat dessert if they don't finish their dinner is starving them.

 

[glass-slipper]

Then you must feel that grounding and time outs are imprisonment. Taking away a childs belonging is theft, and not allowing them to eat dessert if they don't finish their dinner is starving them.

Uh, no. THOSE ridiculous accusations are Exaggerations, exactly my point to JunebugVW ; however, spanking is defined as hitting, no exaggeration, just a fact.

 

[alliecats]

Agghh, put a fork in it this thread is DONE! I can't believe I got a new message email about it after all this time. I am unsubcribing in self-defense!

 

[sha_lyn]

That is only your opinion not a fact. Just as many of us have the opinion that your accusation is an exaggeration.