We are in the same boat! My 6 YO DD has been to WDW 4 times and on
DCL twice. We are planning a 2 week trip to CA this summer and plan to spend 4 nights at DL. The onsite/offsite debate is driving me crazy! The one thing that is plaguing me is the safety factor. I hate feeling vulnerable and unsafe. Maybe there is no difference safety wise but I am one of those who places immersion very high on our list when visiting Disney
Also, I have seen in this thread people say there is no transportation at DL. I was thinking if we stayed at the
Disneyland Hotel we could take the monorail at night from Tomorrowland to DD. I was thinking this could save valuable steps with DD who will be 7 at the end of a long day
Actually there is not much debate around here. I think I can speak for the vast majority in this.
o The Disney hotels are much more expensive and when money is no object or one wants to splurge then the Disney hotels are a great choice.
o The off-site hotels/motels are more economical choices.
o A larger percentage of DLR visitors over WDW visitors use their hotel
only for sleeping (and maybe some swimming too). Hence the extra price paid for Disney hotels provides little value for many DLR visitors
o Overall the value in staying onsite at DLR is less than WDW in terms of what you get. No exclusive EMH. Since it easy to walk from offsite then onsite access to Disney transportation offers little value and is even a drawback in some cases.
o The immersion factor for Disney hotels at DLR is much less than WDW. But it is real and counts for something to some visitors.
o DLR has a different kind of immersion than WDW if one stays onsite or at one of the walking distance hotels. This immersion is based on staying within view of the parks and a very short walk to the parks at all times. This is further enhanced by the generally longer park hours and easier park hopping which makes it more likely you will spend signficantly more time actually
inside a Disney park at DLR than you do at WDW. We spend about 50% more hours per day inside the parks at DLR than we do at WDW.
o It is common to find folks who visit both DLR and WDW who stay only onsite at WDW but offsite at DLR because of perceived reduced value.
o Safety is not an issue for offsite hotels if you are at the walking distance hotels across the street. The walk to the Disney hotels vs. offsite is safe in general and made more so when there are the typical hoards of people around. Common sense precautions still apply.
On your other question, the monorail is an option - but it can be a bad one when you want to travel at peak times and you have to wait several cycles to board. Using the monorail is certainly easier if you stay at the DLH or PPH. There is no advantage for the GCH because the hotel is closer to the park than the monorail stop. And DCA is not served by the monorail so you get no help there. In cases where you are traveling between DL only and not at peak times it can save some time and steps for tired children.