Is it rude to have husband wait in line to get in the gates while we get a Starbucks?

If it’s just 3 of you, that’s probably fine, if you are quick. What is rude is what happened to me last June- I was at the park bright and early and was the first person in my line (it was just me that day, everyone else either slept in or went to Universal) and in a nearby line, 2 people wearing family reunion shirts were at the front (with a few people behind them). I heard them talking about how there were 27 of them total and they were saving a spot for all of them- as the time got closer to park opening, their whole group came and went in front of everybody else in that line (fortunately for the others in the line, that group was selected to go in early for the countdown)- now that is rude. Saving a spot for 3 other people is fine. Saving a spot for 25 other people, not so much.
oh yes! That is horrible!!
 
To OP: Personally it wouldn't bother me, but if I were in your shoes I would leave as many people as possible in line (unless you need their help to carry drinks). It still wouldn't bother me with three people joining, but more than that gets iffy.

Now I don't mean to hijack the thread, but I see several people here saying that it doesn't bother them when an adult and child leave and reenter a line because you can assume the child needed to use the restroom. I'm curious what you all think about an adult without a child doing this? I often travel with an adult who needs quick access to the restroom due to a medical condition. When this comes up in a ride line she ends up leaving and skipping the ride to avoid conflict. I've considered seeing if this situation qualifies for DAS on the next trip, but if it's considered acceptable to have her rejoin us in line then DAS would be unnecessary.

If someone has already been on the line, I'll see them go past me to leave and so I have no problem when they quickly return. I would get miffed if I hear someone is leaving to do another ride and then expects to rejoin the line.
 
hahaha OP probably didn't expect such a divided response from Dis readers. I personally have no issue with this as long as it isn't too many people. How many is too many? I have no idea, but I do know three people is not a big issue with me.
I do not really post much on here. I find it fun. :) I was just checking.. Verdict.. we will all go to Starbucks or husband will wait for me on a bench while us girls go over.
 

I’d just make sure 2 or 3 stay in line...have the minority go to Starbucks. I wouldn’t do it at all in a ride line.
 
I don't think OP's idea is rude at all, but I can move much more quickly than my kids so I'd leave them in line with the husband. Unless OP is bringing back breakfast and drinks for all and needs hands. This is when it is not rude IMO: when the Park isn't open. Because once you get through that gate line, you also have to wait for rope drop, and it's just silly to worry about even as many as 30 people getting ahead of you when you're just going to wait again in one big mush for rope drop.
However, if the Park is already open and people waiting to get in can therefore go directly to a ride, it does seem rude to me to saunter up last minute with kids and Starbucks.
But honestly, you will wait in line all day, so let cutting go on any level. Trust me, the worst offenders will get their comeuppance because others around are itching to catch cutters and will be more than happy to yell at strangers. Your magical day will go downhill quickly if you tune in to all the rude behaviors of "Guests"!
 
I do not really post much on here. I find it fun. :) I was just checking.. Verdict.. we will all go to Starbucks or husband will wait for me on a bench while us girls go over.
Honestly, this is probably the best idea anyway. It can be frustrating to try to find someone in those lines. When we go through security, my parents are always held up at the metal detectors. A hard-of-hearing, 75 yr-old woman isn't the fastest to take directions and such. We don't rush and get into a gate line. We stand aside and wait until they are through and all stay together. Do we lose a little bit of line space because of this? Yes. Is it worth it to just stay together? Yes.
 
I don't think OP's idea is rude at all, but I can move much more quickly than my kids so I'd leave them in line with the husband. Unless OP is bringing back breakfast and drinks for all and needs hands. This is when it is not rude IMO: when the Park isn't open. Because once you get through that gate line, you also have to wait for rope drop, and it's just silly to worry about even as many as 30 people getting ahead of you when you're just going to wait again in one big mush for rope drop.
However, if the Park is already open and people waiting to get in can therefore go directly to a ride, it does seem rude to me to saunter up last minute with kids and Starbucks.
But honestly, you will wait in line all day, so let cutting go on any level. Trust me, the worst offenders will get their comeuppance because others around are itching to catch cutters and will be more than happy to yell at strangers. Your magical day will go downhill quickly if you tune in to all the rude behaviors of "Guests"!

I agree with this. Don't get worked up over the small things.
 
My personal rule is that at least half of the family/group needs to be in line.

That rule makes it hard on those of us in 3 person families if we have to take the kid somewhere.

When this comes up in a ride line she ends up leaving and skipping the ride to avoid conflict. I've considered seeing if this situation qualifies for DAS on the next trip, but if it's considered acceptable to have her rejoin us in line then DAS would be unnecessary.

Definitely look into the DAS.

But also, as she leaves if she’s able to talk to the CM she would be told that she can go back to meet you. They don’t want to make people skip a ride for bathroom issues.

I do not really post much on here. I find it fun. :) I was just checking.. Verdict.. we will all go to Starbucks or husband will wait for me on a bench while us girls go over.

Which way are you entering the esplanade? If you’re going through downtown Disney you’ll pass by sbux.

This is when it is not rude IMO: when the Park isn't open. Because once you get through that gate line, you also have to wait for rope drop, and it's just silly to worry about even as many as 30 people getting ahead of you when you're just going to wait again in one big mush for rope drop.

Agreed.

When we go through security, my parents are always held up at the metal detectors. A hard-of-hearing, 75 yr-old woman isn't the fastest to take directions and such.

Security isn’t an issue now to go back to get sbux. You’ll have been through security already and std and the esplanade have free and easy egress now.
 
I don't have a problem with it nor did anyone in line when I was just there. It's early in the morning, people need coffee and everyone was in such a great mood just happy to be there. We didn't leave line for coffee but I had two 14 year olds that needed the restroom and I sent them right off. I guess the people around me saw all of us in line prior to them leaving and coming back. Personally I just don't see this as a huge deal.
 
Here's my issue - that it may not be just one family doing this. So now your in line and as the line is moving there's a person or two being joined by another 3 or 4. Then another couple joined by one or two. And repeat again. That's what happened to us in November. Sure, just a couple people joining is no big deal. But it's a big deal if there are a lot of people doing it. It's just nice to not have that happen if possible.
 
Ok, I once came to get in line at DCA and faced long lines except for some reason the line to the very right was shorter. We hopped in that line and we’re excited it was shorter. Well...as it came time to open the gates, at least 40 people (yes I said FORTY), joined some people in line in the very front. These people had all been standing around in the shade and sitting on planters to the left of the gates very near the line. They had just been waiting in the shade but we didn’t know what they were doing! Anyway, at first I was upset I had picked that line but they were all together with some sort of family reunion. At the end of the day it doesn’t really matter. Did it add 5 minutes to me getting through the gate? Probably. Did it effect my overall day? Probably not, we were just getting through one line to go stand in the rope drop line and then move on to attraction lines, and food lol. It bothered me for a minute, and then I said who cares we’re at Disneyland!!!
 
That rule makes it hard on those of us in 3 person families if we have to take the kid somewhere.
I think you took my comment a little out of context. It doesn't phase me at all when a couple people (especially a parent with little kids) come to join the line. However, I think intentionally sending one placeholder while the rest of the family comes later is different than someone needing to go to the bathroom. My personal rule is just that, a personal rule. We are a family of six. If my family can't make the effort to get up early to get in line for rope drop, then we all wait. I won't go save their spot near the front of the line because I would feel like I am being rude and it makes me uncomfortable. However, if we get in line and my youngest says he has to go to the bathroom, then I have no problem sending him to the bathroom with one of his older brothers or dad.
 
After waiting in security line for 30+ minutes, I think you have some leeway to have someone in the park line while you get coffee.

My thoughts: if you don't get beingets to go with the coffee, you wasted your time. It may not be rude, but it's unconscionable.
 
What I get from most of the replies is that in general it would be more polite and courteous for the family/group to all line up together. It might bother some and others aren't bothered if three or four people show up. Since it's impossible to know who will be standing around you at rope drop I, personally, would err on the side of courtesy.
 
I would definitely file this under something that is just not worth getting upset over. It wouldn't bother me at all at the park entrance - it DOES bother me (I'm a CM at WDW) when people do it in an attraction queue. That being said, if it was me, I'd minimize the number of people leaving line, or grab Starbucks ahead at little early. You're being so courteous to ask everyone about it, why not just eliminate the issue altogether and get coffee before you line up?
 
Actually, Costco can say it is to see if you are overcharged, but that makes no sense on the face of it, because there is no possible way that the person checking the receipt has the current prices (an all available coupons, rebates, etc.) memorized for every single item in the store. Make no mistake about it, they are doing it to make sure you are not shoplifting, personally at stores that do this, unless there is no wait, I just walk right by the person checking the receipts, I am not standing in line to leave.

Shoplifting is undoubtedly the primary reason but they DO check for overcharging too. Of course its not on the price of an individual item, as you say, that would be impossible. The check for QUANTITIES. I have had them notice that I was inadvertently charged twice for an item in the past-mostly likely an accidental double scan. Just last week as I was leaving the screener noticed two of an item on my receipt but couldn't see one of them because it was buried behind something else and she did ask to make sure I actually had two.
 


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