IS IT REALLY SO HARD TO TEACH YOUR KID HOW TO BEHAVE IN A RESTAURANT?

[mamacatnv]

Ugh........I hate that type of behavior. Its all about appropriate behavior has a time and a place. Take the kid to Ihop and let him play the drums not to a quite cozy restaurant. To me, it screams of the mentality that my kid is so stinking cute, everyone should be subject to and enjoy his antics. Its disrespectful and I would have said something to my wait staff and to the manager. I have done that before. Once I had a waitress tell me the manager wouldn't ask a screaming kid to be removed from an adult atmosphere restaurant after we complained because the manager didn't want to lose the business, so I removed our business. Informed the waitress to cancel our order, left her a few bucks because it wasn't her fault and we had taken up a table for a few minutes and left. I am not going to spend my money to eat a meal while gritting my teeth, its not going to happen. Restaurant managers need to make a choice, if they choose to say nothing, they risk losing paying customers who won't tolerate the behavior and their lack of backbone.

 

[AC7179]

Yes, actually, restaurant behavior has been much harder for both my daughters to learn. They learned it after potty training and even reading simple books, which they did at 3. We talked about it, but they didn't enjoy it and once they were bored it was hard to keep them quiet. The difference is that I would try to move heaven and Earth to keep from having to take them to a nice restaurant at 3. But I promise, we are working on it.

 

[superme80]

We just started going out to eat more this summer because our boys are starting to understand restaurant manners. I would not have been amused with that child's behavior.

 

[Minniesgal]

And yet another parent bashing thread

 

[hereyago]

And yet another parent bashing thread

Um, if someone is encouraging their kid to be disruptive and possibly hurt themselves-play drums on the glass, then they arent being a parent and deserve to be bashed.

 

[Missy1961]

It can be a challenge, honestly. My son is 7 and he doesn't always behave but he has legitimate issues with behavior. I try my hardest and if doesn't work then we leave.

This though is an entirely different problem. That woman was encouraging it and she's going to have a real mess on her hands shortly.

I try to never judge a parent who is trying to control their child in a difficult situation. Even if I don't agree with how they are doing it, or I think another way would be more effective, they are at least trying. But people like that who aren't doing a thing...or even worse are encouraging it. Sorry about you...

Exactly. Even great kids have off days. And great parents do too. And I'm with you, if I know a parent is trying and the kid just won't behave, I feel for them. But a 'parent' like this? I'm not happy I'm in the same place as they are.

 

[Missy1961]

And yet another parent bashing thread

Sorry I don't think the mother in the OP is much of a parent. She's encouraging disruptive behavior.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Another person failing to be a parent bashing thread.

 

[Micca]

In our experience, you have to take kids out to dinner to get them to learn the rules. Our DGDs (now 4 and almost 3) actually caught on pretty quickly after a few times at the table. We're not going any place fancy, but at a place like Chik-Fil-A they're doing really well. I agree that you have to show them the ropes and get them to understand that they need to keep the noise at a minimum and sit still for a few minutes.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Another person failing to be a parent bashing thread.

That doesn't even make sense

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

That doesn't even make sense

It sounded better in my head.

 

[powellrj]

Ugh........I hate that type of behavior. Its all about appropriate behavior has a time and a place. Take the kid to Ihop and let him play the drums not to a quite cozy restaurant.

Please don't take him to IHOP, I deserve to eat my Rooty, Tooty, fresh and fruity in peace too!!

Seriously, we never had restaurant manners. I expected my kids to eat at our dinner table with the same manners as they used in a restaurant. Keep you voices down, hands and feet to your self, eat what you are served, and stay seated until you are told you can leave. If you teach them these are the rules for the dinner table, there is no such thing as restaurant manners, just normal table manners.

 

[glasslipper]

Family and I had an experience last week in Disney at Jiko. A couple of Mom's with their 2 young children, around 4yrs old, were sitting at a table next to us. For the most part, the kids were cute and well-behaved until dinner took a little longer and the Mom's were engrossed in their conversation, allowing the little ones to wander around the restaurant. Their favorite spot was at our table, as we were seated next to the window. They left behind lots of fingerprints for us to admire, lol. It was annoying how clueless and rude the parents were.

 

[Cantw8]

The older i get, the less patience I have with children. I hate the person I'm becoming. I'm turning into the "get off my lawn, you damn kids" person But I seriously have a problem with parents that allow their children to turn any place they are at into their own personal arena. I would bet that little Jonas doesn't play the drums at his dinner table in his own home

 

[powellrj]

I would bet that is the problem, little Jonas doesn't have dinner at the table at his house. He just runs wild at meal time.

 

[bethy]

My answer to the OP is yes it really can be that hard. For my third child (3yo) I could remove her from a restaurant 20 times in a row and 1) it would be a REWARD for her because she does not want to be there and 2) she would not stop the behavior

So basically, I never take her out to eat or to the mall, etc

 

[Tozzie]

My answer to the OP is yes it really can be that hard. For my third child (3yo) I could remove her from a restaurant 20 times in a row and 1) it would be a REWARD for her because she does not want to be there and 2) she would not stop the behavior

So basically, I never take her out to eat or to the mall, etc

It might be hard but you don't encourage the behavior or inflict your child on others you are a responsible parent.

 

[Sabeking]

Aw come on now little Jonas may grow up to be the next Justin Bieber!! We wouldn't want to stifle that!

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Sometimes a name says it all.

 

[Rhombus]

Where's that pancake making diner owner when we need her!?

You stole the line I was gonna use when I saw the first post. Twisted minds think alike.