Is it possible

[phorsenuf]

The child pm'd me back and apologized. All is well.

Till Monday when she will get teased because she tattled to Mommy about a bad word. Sorry, but I think you did your daughter a great dis-service. Don't you remember being a 12 year old girl? They are brutal!

 

[happygirl]

Till Monday when she will get teased because she tattled to Mommy about a bad word. Sorry, but I think you did your daughter a great dis-service. Don't you remember being a 12 year old girl? They are brutal!

I agree

 

[Anjelica]

The child pm'd me back and apologized. All is well.

 

[LilyWDW]

I thought the FB rules say only ages 13 and above? Either way, she's too young to be on facebook if she friends people that she hardly knows.

I would also like to point out that it is not a FB rule that says 13 and above... it is a FEDERAL LAW. While a site can receive consent from a parent or guardian, this has been done a specific way to hold up in federal court. You can read the actual law through the FTC website, but the short and sweet version: Any website that collects and stores information can not collect the info of children under the age of 13. This is why it is in FBs policy as they are REQUIRED by law to have it there.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I wouldn't report her, but I would have your daughter remove her as a friend if you think that would help. Or consider deactivating the whole account since your daughter's only 12 anyway.

 

[connorlevismom]

I have not read the other responses but I wanted to give my opinion.

#1. There is no way I would report this person. You said that you want to use this as a teaching moment but you are not using the moment correctly, IMO. The teaching moment would be that people are mean, people will call you names (even that start with F) and you just need to get over it and move on. What you are teaching her is to be a tatletale (or rather that mommy will do it for her) and that is likely to get her into trouble someday.

#2. By suggesting that she report this person even though she, herself should not be on Facebook is also teaching her a life lesson. That the rules apply to everyone else, not her. Why would you even allow your 12 year old to be on Facebook?

Kristine

 

[Cornhusk]

The child pm'd me back and apologized. All is well.

Oh please, if anything you should have apologized to her when you threatened to report her for something that is not even against the rules. You are not her mother and if you had such a big problem with the single use of the F word then your daughter could have simply deleted it herself or talked to her friend herself. Also, how about talking to the girl's mother?

 

[jazzielady]

Oh please, if anything you should have apologized to her when you threatened to report her for something that is not even against the rules. You are not her mother and if you had such a big problem with the single use of the F word then your daughter could have simply deleted it herself or talked to her friend herself. Also, how about talking to the girl's mother?

Oh please, I already explained that this is a friend of a friend. If I knew this girl or her family I would have called her mom.

 

[Cornhusk]

Oh please, I already explained that this is a friend of a friend. If I knew this girl or her family I would have called her mom.

So you took it upon yourself to lecture a child you don't even know and threatened to report her for something not illegal when you could have just monitored your own daughter?

 

[jazzielady]

So you took it upon yourself to lecture a child you don't even know and threatened to report her for something not illegal when you could have just monitored your own daughter?

Yup

 

[phorsenuf]

Oh please, I already explained that this is a friend of a friend. If I knew this girl or her family I would have called her mom.

Seriously? You really would've called her mom over this. Wow. Hate to say this but you are gonna have a looooong road in front of you. Some things you just need to not bother with and this is certainly one of them.

What are you going to do when she has a boyfriend and he breaks up with her. Call his mother and complain.

 

[Cornhusk]

Yup

Despite the fact that according to Facebook your daughter isn't even supposed to have the page?

 

[RitaZ.]

I sent the girl a message telling her to unfriend my daughter as she will be doing so when dd gets home from school.

I don't think that was a wise move. There is so much drama among girls in this age group. Why add fuel to the fire?

 

[luvmy3]

Oh please, I already explained that this is a friend of a friend. If I knew this girl or her family I would have called her mom.

Really?

 

[LisaNJ25]

Really?

 

[happygirl]

lol

 

[Magic Mom]

Oh please, I already explained that this is a friend of a friend. If I knew this girl or her family I would have called her mom.

I'm not sure I understand your logic. You can't call the mom because you don't know the girl or her family so instead you contact the child you don't know. If you can't call the mom because you don't know her, why would you contact a child you don't know? I realize it's easier to confront a child than an adult, but it seems sort of bullyish. If another adult has a problem withyour daughter wouldn't you rather that adult come to you to resolve the situation rather than confront your child?

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

lol

Hello pot - it is the kettle

 

[happygirl]

Hello pot - it is the kettle

Huh??? I thought it was a cute pic

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Huh??? I thought it was a cute pic

You come off from your posts as a helicopter parent - I thought you were laughing at someone being overprotective .... therefore you were mocking yourself too - pot calling the kettle black.