WonderlandsMostWantd
Actively enhancing my muchness.
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We are SO unbelievably excited to have joined DVC, I’m beside myself happy and I want to scream it from the rooftops 
– but I also feel like I can’t tell anybody. 
Here goes my venting…
Our friends and family are good people, but most of them don’t “get it.” I can’t have kids, so it’s just my husband and I and always will be (plus my dad joins us, it’s how we spend holiday time together since he winters in FL). With no kids, most of our friends and family just don’t understand why we go to WDW at all let alone try to go back every year. (and since my husband and I got together, we've only been TWICE so far with each other!) We both work, we live in a modest house, don’t go out to eat much, don’t have a lot of extravagant things, or go “out” all that often because we can’t justify the extra expense in most cases. I don’t smoke, and I only have a drink or two once every few months on average. But we LOVE and save for our WDW trips! They are our “extravagance”.
We’ve had experiences talking to friend and family about our excitement for our trip and we’ve gotten everything from eye rolls, and “I don’t get it”, to snarky comments about how if we can afford Disney “all the time”, why can’t we afford <insert something we’ve declined doing in the past because of the costs involved, etc>, etc. We’ve mostly stopped discussing our trips with most of our family and friends because we don’t want to, nor do we think we should have to, feel badly about it. But, they still make comments about it whenever we elect not to go to a concert, or go out drinking or to dinner or something because we can’t afford it at the time of the invite. The judgment and the attitudes we’ve encountered have soured relationships a bit in some cases and sadly, we had to have a long talk about how to handle things with our friends and family when we decided to buy DVC this year.
We’ve come to the conclusion that it is best if we don’t tell our family and most of our friends that we bought DVC. We know we’d be fielding questions about the cost and if we didn’t tell them there are a few that would go looking it up and hold the numbers over our heads! It’s so frustrating to be judged and insulted for something that in the grand scheme of things is so SILLY!
We do have a very few who, even if they don’t “get” Disney, understand that it’s important to us and makes us happy and so are supportive. We’ve told them and even said that we’d love to have them join us sometime if they want to see what the fuss is about, but we’ve told them not to say anything about it to anyone else or on facebook, etc. How sad is that?
This is one of the happiest experiences of our lives, and we have to go to lengths to hide it from our loved ones? Ugg, it makes me feel ill, but I know it has to be this way right now. I’m just wondering if anyone else has similar problems like this with their family and friends.
So, do any of you have to keep your DVC your “best kept secret” too?
– but I also feel like I can’t tell anybody. Here goes my venting…
Our friends and family are good people, but most of them don’t “get it.” I can’t have kids, so it’s just my husband and I and always will be (plus my dad joins us, it’s how we spend holiday time together since he winters in FL). With no kids, most of our friends and family just don’t understand why we go to WDW at all let alone try to go back every year. (and since my husband and I got together, we've only been TWICE so far with each other!) We both work, we live in a modest house, don’t go out to eat much, don’t have a lot of extravagant things, or go “out” all that often because we can’t justify the extra expense in most cases. I don’t smoke, and I only have a drink or two once every few months on average. But we LOVE and save for our WDW trips! They are our “extravagance”.
We’ve had experiences talking to friend and family about our excitement for our trip and we’ve gotten everything from eye rolls, and “I don’t get it”, to snarky comments about how if we can afford Disney “all the time”, why can’t we afford <insert something we’ve declined doing in the past because of the costs involved, etc>, etc. We’ve mostly stopped discussing our trips with most of our family and friends because we don’t want to, nor do we think we should have to, feel badly about it. But, they still make comments about it whenever we elect not to go to a concert, or go out drinking or to dinner or something because we can’t afford it at the time of the invite. The judgment and the attitudes we’ve encountered have soured relationships a bit in some cases and sadly, we had to have a long talk about how to handle things with our friends and family when we decided to buy DVC this year.
We’ve come to the conclusion that it is best if we don’t tell our family and most of our friends that we bought DVC.
We know we’d be fielding questions about the cost and if we didn’t tell them there are a few that would go looking it up and hold the numbers over our heads! It’s so frustrating to be judged and insulted for something that in the grand scheme of things is so SILLY!We do have a very few who, even if they don’t “get” Disney, understand that it’s important to us and makes us happy and so are supportive. We’ve told them and even said that we’d love to have them join us sometime if they want to see what the fuss is about, but we’ve told them not to say anything about it to anyone else or on facebook, etc. How sad is that?
This is one of the happiest experiences of our lives, and we have to go to lengths to hide it from our loved ones? Ugg, it makes me feel ill, but I know it has to be this way right now. I’m just wondering if anyone else has similar problems like this with their family and friends.
So, do any of you have to keep your DVC your “best kept secret” too?
It only matters what makes the two of you happy. My hubby and I like to laugh that 20 yrs from now when (hopefully) he and I are still roaming around the Magic Kingdom, we'll have proved them wrong!!
Lucky for me, no one gives me any grief -- well, not to my face, anyway. 
. When we started to look into 
Part of me would love it if we could bring them down and show them WHY... but that part of me has also read trip reports about bringing family 
lol If they're going to be difficult here in Minnesota, I am NOT bringing them to MY happiest place on earth! 
Nice! will be telling that one to my husband!
