I am the mother of a ds13 with asperger's, married to a guy with asperger's, and (most likely) the dil of a man with asperger's - come live my life for a while!
Years of school issues - IEP's, pull-outs, one-on-one aides, etc.
Psychiatrist visits, medication trials, psychologists visits, neurological testing (HOURS of it), brain scan, bio-feedback, etc.
Where we are now is that my son is in a school with other kids like him. (We were afraid for his mental health in the public school system). He is with people who know and understand the quirks of these kids - how triangle pizza really does taste different than square pizza - how tags on shirts, seams on socks or a tight collar can send these kids off into a meltdown.
My son is also diagnosed with auditory processing issues so the way they teach in the public school doesn't always work for him.
My son has an above average IQ but doesn't know how to tie his shoes. He can tell you the make & model of most cars by sight but can't recite his times tables.
The program he is in now incorporates pt, ot, counseling and many other things into a normal day. The classes go on "field trips" so the kids can learn social issues. Getting my son to pay for something at a store is a MAJOR issue.
Helping my son NOW will make a major difference in his future. He *will* be an productive member of society. At 9 years old (pre-diagnose and all the help) he wanted to die.
We go to Disney often as that is what works for our family - we have been going since ds was under 2 years of age. It is a familiar place to him. We have tried other places but they were disasterous. Pin trading has been a great way for my son to work on his social skills.
My son has been in his new program since 3/07 and it has made a WORLD of difference to/for him and the family. Life is far from perfect, but much better than years ago.
I understand that if you are just viewing things from the outside that many of these kids *do* just look like brats. But until you are living with it then you just don't know. I would LOVE it if my son woke up tomorrow and was "normal" and didn't have to go to a different school. I see the bus he would be riding go down our street every school day and I wish he was on it instead of the van that picks him up. But that is not our life. My son has FRIENDS now...something that was too hard for him to do in public school. He gets phone calls and has friends come over - wow!!
I could go on and on...threads like this always bother me when all of us "special ed" families get lumped together.
Jill