Is anyone else spending their first Christmas without a loved one?

[clovergirl5]

The same sort of thing happened with my grandmother and her 2nd husband; he died in October and she was gone by May. Her very good friend also passed away not long after her husband, and I think it was too much for her all at once. She has never really had any serious health problems other than osteoporosis (plus she had a hip replacement), but she WAS nearly 90.

We always used to say it was neat that she had not one, but TWO 25th anniversaries! Her 1st husband (my grandfather) died after they had been married for 28 years, and she and her 2nd husband had just celebrated their 28th anniversary when he passed away.

Yeah, that is neat. Not many people can say that
to you. My grandpa died 10 yrs. ago and my grandma is still alive but has many health problems. I have always been very close to her.

 

[clovergirl5]

We buried my Dad today. He died 13 days after being diagnosed with lung cancer. It's hard to get into the spirit of Christmas.

Heartfelt condolences and prayers to you and your family. Im so sorry.

 

[shortbun]

Lost Mom in May. Sometimes I channel her, lol! She was with me today.

 

[shortbun]

We buried my Dad today. He died 13 days after being diagnosed with lung cancer. It's hard to get into the spirit of Christmas.

Just do what you can stand to do. I'm so sorry.

 

[KristiMc]

My mom passed away June 9th.

 

[Val]

My Grandma, who raised me, died November 18th. Her funeral was the day before Thanksgiving. I am still walking around in a fog. I keep getting email reminders to order her present (she loved getting flowers from FTD). Sunday I went to call her....and realized she wasn't there. I just can't get into Christmas, which is hard on my kids. My DD17 lost her best friend to suicide on November 3rd, so we are not a very merry twosome. But, I know from losing my bio mom/dad and my grandad that just putting one foot in front of the other will keep us with enough momentum to make it through. Besides, Grandma would be wacking me up the side of the head if she knew I was moping around!

 

[clovergirl5]

Lost Mom in May. Sometimes I channel her, lol! She was with me today.

 

[clovergirl5]

My Grandma, who raised me, died November 18th. Her funeral was the day before Thanksgiving. I am still walking around in a fog. I keep getting email reminders to order her present (she loved getting flowers from FTD). Sunday I went to call her....and realized she wasn't there. I just can't get into Christmas, which is hard on my kids. My DD17 lost her best friend to suicide on November 3rd, so we are not a very merry twosome. But, I know from losing my bio mom/dad and my grandad that just putting one foot in front of the other will keep us with enough momentum to make it through. Besides, Grandma would be wacking me up the side of the head if she knew I was moping around!

 

[SleepyMom]

We buried my Dad today. He died 13 days after being diagnosed with lung cancer. It's hard to get into the spirit of Christmas.

I know how you feel, we found out on Veteran's Day my step-dad was sick and he was gone 11 days later from pancreatic cancer. His visitation was Thanksgiving night, Christmas will be very different without him this year.

 

[Minnie&Nana]

Bless your hearts. I just want to say my heart goes out to each and every one who has lost a loved one. Often the first year is surprisingly easier than the second - we are still in a fog the first yr, reality not quite setting in, but the second yr we know our loved one is truly gone forever.

Beginning with the first Christmas we tried to find ways to celebrate my son and the gift he was to all of us. We had a tree with only gold and white decorations, with snowflakes and angels, for a few years. It is still a difficult time of year, but nothing like the first two.

May you all be blessed with joy-filled memories...your heart is now their home.

 

[Docwoods]

My sister tried to commit suicide twice last year during Christmas/New Year's.Thankfully,she made it through.I have done what I could for her,but I can't be in contact with her now-it's too difficult.to everyone experiencing pain this holiday season-in a strange way,this thread is very comforting,knowing that I'm not alone with dreading Christmas.Thanks to you all,and BTH,the community board is great!

 

[alizesmom]

I will be our first Christmas without our 6yr old son who died in July.

 

[doxdogy]

This will be my second Christmas without my dad. It seems a tiny bit easier then last year, but not much. Hugs to all who are missing loved ones this Christmas.

 

[clovergirl5]

I will be our first Christmas without our 6yr old son who died in July.

Im so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Many well wishes and uplifting comfort to you this holiday season.

 

[brasswillow]

My Grandma passed away December 28th last year. Earlier this year I was ready to just skip Christmas. I'm doing better now, but every now and then I get a wave of wanting to just hide in a hole until January 1st.