People complain about others being "easily offended". Maybe, just maybe, people just be NICE to others. If I may expound...
My ex-MIL told me (as we were looking through proofs from the wedding) that I looked ugly walking down the aisle. When I packed up the pics and walked out of the house, she went on a tear about how I was "too sensitive". Perhaps she should have just kept her opinion to herself (or at least not shared it with ME). Why was that so hard? Just be nice.
I have no problem with trying to be compassionate, polite, welcoming, inclusive, and non-offensive to the best of my ability, and if/when called out on a misstep, I am okay with recognizing that I could have made a better choice of words or actions and correcting course. Why on Earth anyone would want to continue using a name, term, description, or word that someone has said is hurtful is beyond me.
Personal growth is hard. Be better, do better. Never stop learning, growing as a human being.
(Also, the name Spiders would have been terrible because I am scared of Spiders). LOL.