Internet dating?

[DMickey28]

I am just looking for opinions on the whole internet dating scene!

I have met someone who seems like a really nice guy. All the detective work I have found out matches up like his job and past references to other jobs and college. I know it makes more logical sense to met someone online and be safer than in a bar. I don't go to bars, so being out of school without a lot of close friends in this area I am not sure how to met someone.

I would love to hear your opinions and thoughts about this.

 

[Baboo]

My cousin is currently dating a guy that she met through the internet. She was VERY careful before she met with him, but they seem to be very happy together and she really likes him.

 

[olena]

I met my husband that way.....sort of. We 'met' on the net and found out that his ex-girlfriend was good friends with a girl I knew in school. Across states, no less. He finally drove from West VA to Georgia to meet me. That's when the friendship really took off and the dating part came soon after. It was difficult over a distance, but it all worked out. As for other friends I've made over the internet, they've been fine.

It is smart to be safe though. I agree on that point. But there are decent folks in cyber space. The DIS is a prime example....

 

[Dan Murphy]

I can only add that my experience, as a casual observer, goes no further than the DIS, and that in the past three years, I have seen several relationships that have either started here on the DIS, or 'non-DIS' relationships, started elsewhere, have been discussed here on the DIS. And they do seem to be good so far. I wish you well.

 

[CarolAnnC]

If you have truly met a really nice guy, then go for it! Computers have brought a whole new way of meeting people into our lives. It seems that all age groups are able to find friends this way.

My oldest DD met her current boyfriend on the Disney Cruise last year, and they have been able to keep their friendship going through the use of the internet. They live on opposite coasts, so this definitely saves on our phone bills too!

The DIS is a great way to meet someone who shares similar interests, especially a passion for Disney. With so many DIS Meets happening all over the country, it is also a possibility that many have met in person a potential date this way.

I only know that it worked for me!

 

[cuterlt]

I am like you - don't go to bars and don't have many friends. I have spent most of my adult life concentrating on my career. I met my DH on the internet in an AOL chat room, formerly called "The Hot Bed".
I was 35 when we "met", met IRL a month or so after our first on line chat, and hours and hours of phone conversations. We met IRL two times, once for a day or two, the second time for 10 days. Two months later he quit his job and moved 1000 miles to live with me. We married 6 months later, and have now been married for 5 wonderful years.
I never thought I would find someone I could put up with or someone that could put up with me... lol. He is an exception to all the men I previously dated.
Before I met him, I talked to his friends, on the phone and online. I also talked to his supervisor. He was a cop, so I thought relatively safe. I did not use my best judgment in meeting him IRL as I did, but it all turned out for the best.
Good luck no matter what you decide!!!

 

[Desiree]

Count us down as another success story for internet dating. We met August 1st, of 2000, chatted almost every day for two months. Then I went to actually meet him IRL at his work (i figured if he was a lunatic he couldn't attack me while he was on the job or anything ). Then about 2 weeks after that we went on our first real date. The rest, as they say, is history! Our relationship is as strong as ever and he is my soul mate.


Des

 

[Princess_Aurora]

I met my DH on the internet. We spent FOREVER getting to know each other that way. We met in person a little over four years ago (June 19, 1998) and it's been great ever since. A couple of my friends arranged the meeting though. They knew I talked to him a lot online and I was always talking about him to them. However, at the time I was seeing someone else. When I got dumped, my friends decided I had to be cheered up. They invited him to come over so we could all go to the movies together. So he came over (which is another great story because he turned an hour drive into a three-hour drive somehow by getting lost) and all four of us went out and we hit it off right away. And since we spent forever getting to know each other online, it felt as if we had known each other forever. It didn't take us long to fall in love. He proposed to me in September and took me on my first trip to Disney World in January and we got married the following October (Oct. 30, 1999)

So there are advantages to meeting someone online. It takes the nervousness out of the "getting to know you" stage. Your a lot more comfortable talking to someone about your personal life online than you are in real life. It worked great for me!

 

[jipsy]

Several years ago I met a guy online. We chatted and exchanged emails and real mail. We talked on the phone, then we decided to meet. He flew to meet me, then I flew up to see him. After the company I worked for closed, we decided I should move to CT. A month after I got to CT, his ex-wife gave him all four of his kids and he didn't know what to do. He kind of expected me to take over as Mom and raise them and I wasn't ready for that. Needless to say, it didn't work out for us, but he wasn't a bad person or anything. That sort of situation could have happened no matter how I met him.

I do know several people who met online, and it did work out for them. Just get to know the person and don't worry about how you meet.

 

[jimmybop]

I had a g/f that i met over the internet (she is from Long Island, and i'm up state NY), and she ended up comeing up here for school (about a 25-30min drive away from me). it worked out pretty well... but things went sour.... it was fun and diffrent... i've got a bunch of people i talk to on the internet that hopefuly one day i'll atlest meet once in person....

And then when i was in disney... i met this weird kid that i talked to online... but sorry Hesed... i dont think we would of woked out

 

[Regina]

I met my DH in a bar. We've been happily married for 23 years.

 

[SPAGo 98]

Originally posted by jimmybop
And then when i was in disney... i met this weird kid that i talked to online... but sorry Hesed... i dont think we would of woked out

 

[goofygirl]

I met my dear BF via Love@AOL (its now part of Match.com).

We are so blissfully happy together for almost 2 years now.


But still, be CAREFUL. Dont meet anybody alone! Meet in a public place, and you may even want to get a friend or 2 to "shadow" you when you first meet just to make sure all is well.

 

[Kermit]

My main concern would be that it's easier to act like you're someone you aren't online than in "real life." FWIW, I'd try to meet someone relatively early on, before things started to get pretty serious. Remember that once you're in love, common sense flies out the window. Personality traits that you would have previously thought would be a relationship-breaker won't seem like a big deal if you already have your heart set on a person.

That said, it's a great way to meet people if you don't really meet a lot of people in your day-to-day life. I'm sure it has the potential to be very successful, especially over going somewhere that you really don't enjoy yourself anyway.