(Inspired) I Can't Believe They Did That-Inlaw Stories

[SamRoc]

I have the best mother in law in the world She lives in Florida, I live in New York. She moved there 22 years ago when I announced that I was pregnant with her first grandchild and she quickly fired back "I'm too young to be a grandmother, I am NOT raising anyone elses kids!" who asked her to? She got a nose job, and eye lift, dyed her hair blonde and moved to florida so no one would know what she looked like before. In the meantime, my father in law is great.

 

[MelessaG]

My MIL was the sweetest most wonderful woman ever and probably my best friend. She died just after our first DD was born. My STEP-MIL, on the other hand...Well, we're all getting along now, but it's very tentative. If I start going off about her past behavior, I might get mad all over again. So, I'll just say I can feel the pain of a lot of previous posters, but I'm going to keep my mouth shut so that things stay calm between us all since we're going on vacation together later this summer. (The FW trip in my signature is DH's way of 'rewarding' me for surviving the in-law part of our planned vacation.)

 

[ZachnElli]

My mil wanted to set her son (my bil) up with a woman on Christmas Day. She just kept talking about this woman and how perfect she was for him. My sil, his wife (!!!!) and mother of his 3 kids (!!!!) who was hosting Christmas this year, was not impressed!! She is nuts! We will be talking about this last Christmas for years if not forever! LOL!

 

[FreshTressa]

I just asked my MIL if she wanted to go to my son's ballet next saturday.

she says she can't because she has to go to the bank????

The ballet is from 2-4, and I would pick her up at her house and bring her home. I do not get it!

 

[simpilotswife]

Some nice quotes from MIL.....

"well she brought it on herself" - Her response to hearing that my mother was dying of emphysema (from smoking)

"Do you think she's faking?" - Her question when I told her that I had to go see my mother while she was ill. My mother died a few days later.

and the latest nugget.....

"If I have to put up with you so I can see my grandchildren then that is what I'll do"

 

[lbgraves]

"If I have to put up with you so I can see my grandchildren then that is what I'll do"

Oh you didn't keep quiet after that one, did you? I would have turned it right around on her.

 

[lbgraves]

My mil wanted to set her son (my bil) up with a woman on Christmas Day. She just kept talking about this woman and how perfect she was for him. My sil, his wife (!!!!) and mother of his 3 kids (!!!!) who was hosting Christmas this year, was not impressed!! She is nuts! We will be talking about this last Christmas for years if not forever! LOL!

Where is the jaw dropping guy? Did she miss the wedding or something? OMG! That is beyond ...well...anything!

 

[Nancyg56]

My current in-laws (10 years) are the best. Granted we have our moments, but they accepted my 2 sons as her grand children from day one. When I was pregnant with my dd, and people were wishing her congrats on her "first" grandchild, (we were at a NYE party at bil house). She said, thanks, but it isn't our first, we have 2 grandsons, those 2 young men in the other room.
My dh also considers them his sons from my first marriage .

You make my heart soar! You lovely MIL knows what family really is! As a young mother with 3 children, I was told that I was "lucky" that the man I was dating, (and of course married ) accepted my kids. My response to that was that he also was a lucky man to have the opportunity to have my children in his life. ( When they were teenagers he was not always sure this was the case) We were a package deal. Now we really do not have any interraction with his mother or sisters, but we have the most well adjusted blended family on the planet. My family, his brother and cousins, and my inlaws from my first marriage celebrate both happy and sad occasions together. You never know who is doing what with whom, and all are welcome. My kids learned how to be solid responsible adults because they were exosed to all of the wonder these people have to offer. The bonus to the loving adults who welcomed them, the same type of loving people you have in your life, is that as adults they are now "paying it back" by being available to those who opened their hearts.

Now we have welcomed my SIL and my DIL into our lives, and it is almost unconditional. My DH ensured that my DD had a lovely wedding when her fiance family behaved as though a wedding was a picnic that one gets through, and "presented the daughter of my heart to my son on his wedding day when her own father was no where to be found and her mother did not want wedding day jitters.

 

[Nancyg56]

My mil wanted to set her son (my bil) up with a woman on Christmas Day. She just kept talking about this woman and how perfect she was for him. My sil, his wife (!!!!) and mother of his 3 kids (!!!!) who was hosting Christmas this year, was not impressed!! She is nuts! We will be talking about this last Christmas for years if not forever! LOL!

OMG!!! I thought that my SIL was the only one who did that kind of thing. After the infamous funeral, we brought her back to her apt. My BIL was with us. She was in the front seat with my DH, and she started rambling about a girl who went to school with my DH, and that she was going to arrange to have her to dinner so that the two of them could reconnect. DH was so mad that he was actually vibrating. Maybe she and your MIL are related?????

 

[lecach]

Well my MIL is not in any way as bad as some of you have. BUT she has her moments. She seems to be missing that filter that stops her from saying some things that most people wouldnt. The very first day she met my Mom after DH and I started dating they were discussing how FSIL was getting married soon. FMIL says to my Mom "well we're not paying a penny of it - we put her thru school and she's going to be making more money than us so she can pay for it herself". She may have a point - but dont SAY that to someone you just met! My Mom said to me later that if DH and I got married that our rehearsal dinner would probably be a bucket of fried chicken!

Another time DH had put a lot of thought into her Christmas gift. They had well water at their house which had a bad taste. So DH got her a very nice Brita water filter. She took one look at it and said "what do I need this thing for?". It REALLY hurt DH's feelings. And she kind of figured that out. Now she shows excitement over every gift.

Even though she really irritates me sometimes and I dont really enjoy spending time with her, I know she would do anything for me. This week for example she really helped me out. My company was bought by a large corporation and Monday was our first day - and my first with my new supervisor. Daycare called and said DS had a fever and needed to be picked up. It was MIL's day off but she dropped everything and came and got him. Then on Tuesday he couldnt go back to daycare so MIL took the day off of work to take care of him.

 

[Marseeya]

Another time DH had put a lot of thought into her Christmas gift. They had well water at their house which had a bad taste. So DH got her a very nice Brita water filter. She took one look at it and said "what do I need this thing for?". It REALLY hurt DH's feelings. And she kind of figured that out. Now she shows excitement over every gift.

That reminds me of a funny story about FIL. On our first Christmas together, DH and I worked really hard to get everybody presents that they would appreciate on a VERY limited budget. We found this tool kit for FIL that said, "Tool Time" on it. The kit was really nice and the "Tool Time" logo wasn't too obnoxious, but we were really pleased with our find. When FIL opened it, he started laughing and said, "This is a gag gift, right?"



Turns out, he hates products with logos on them. I don't know why DH didn't know this. We both got our feelings hurt over that, but now it's something we laugh about. "This is a gag gift, right?"

 

[mickeysgal]

My mil wanted to set her son (my bil) up with a woman on Christmas Day. She just kept talking about this woman and how perfect she was for him. My sil, his wife (!!!!) and mother of his 3 kids (!!!!) who was hosting Christmas this year, was not impressed!! She is nuts! We will be talking about this last Christmas for years if not forever! LOL!

Boy she sure wanted to cause a problem between your BIL and SIL, didn't she?

And you wonder why so many people end up in therapy and/or taking medication. Look at the stuff people have to put up with!

These stories are incredible. These type of people emit so much negative energy, its toxic to anyone around them. But think about all the people who continue to put up with it day in and day out. At some point you have to realize that its ok, if not necessary, to separate yourself from such stuff for your own sanity and your children's well-being. Sheesh!!

 

[Disneemomee]

My mil sobbed so loud and hard at our wedding that the priest paused for a moment and asked if she was alright.

We got engaged on Thanksgiving eve, so on thanksgiving day we were at her house with most of her family at the table when she says" A young girl like yourself should not have a ring that big, i hope you feel comfortbale wearing my sons meal ticket on your finger". At the time i had no idea what to say, thank god his cousin said what are u nuts a diamond can never be to big!!!

At the wedding during there dance she looked like crazed lunatic hanging to her son like he was going off to jail for 50 years!!!

 

[mickeysgal]

My mil sobbed so loud and hard at our wedding that the priest paused for a moment and asked if she was alright.

We got engaged on Thanksgiving eve, so on thanksgiving day we were at her house with most of her family at the table when she says" A young girl like yourself should not have a ring that big, i hope you feel comfortbale wearing my sons meal ticket on your finger". At the time i had no idea what to say, thank god his cousin said what are u nuts a diamond can never be to big!!!

At the wedding during there dance she looked like crazed lunatic hanging to her son like he was going off to jail for 50 years!!!

This story got to me!

 

[Dee & Greg]

I LOVE my in laws... MIL passed away last Easter. They always gave us our space, and loved me like a daughter. I was a little worried when I was dating DH, because he was the "first born", that his mother would not like me. Never the case. In fact, when we got engaged, she said "Thank you for getting him out of my house... do you have friends for the others?" She had a terrific sense of humor. The whole family laughs about everything. My SIL and BIL and their families are also terrific. We get along great.
Where do these awful people come from? My folks love DH like their own son.
Geez... maybe there is something to be said about being raised in "boring 'ol Indiana"...

 

[Jeafl]

I know a lot of you are familiar with my MIL gift-giving stories. but my FIL is just as nuts, but in a meaner way.

DH and I met in college, and the first time I met his parents was a disaster. They wanted him home for Thanksgiving, but he had spent it with my family intead. I guess it really made them mad.

The day after Thanksgiving we drove to MI so I could meet them for the first time. Well, FIL refused to come out of the bedroom to meet me. I was so scared and nervous, and he was such a jerk. DH (boyfriend at the time) finally went and dragged him out. He walked up to me, looked me up and down in a leering way and said "Well, you're better looking than the last one". Not hello, how are you, nice to meet you, nothing.

He also refused to sign DH's financial aid forms until it was too late because "people who go to college think they are better than everyone else". DH ended up with thousands in student loans as a result. FIL then went on to fully pay for DH's brothers and sister to go to college.

He can never be happy for anything we have or anything we have accomplished. When we built a new bigger house, we were "showing off". The list is endless. Fortunately he lives 2 states away and I don't have to deal with him much.

 

[Ava83]

maybe there is something to be said about being raised in "boring 'ol Indiana"...

I think you are on to something! My DH is from South Bend, my MIL is the best. If Corey does something kinda silly she looks at me and tells me "he is your problem now" Loves our child more then anything and loves me like a daughter (I even call her Mamma) My MIL and I may have our moments when we fuss/fight-but she is always telling me "your a pretty good girl-do you know how much I love you?"

and Corey is an only child..I really expected the worst, but my MIL understands people are not perfect.

Sorry for the hijack-please go back to the much deserved bashing of EVIL inlaws.

 

[disneyeveryyear]

My MIL was a bit irresponsible, but it can't compare with some of the stories portrayed here.

The first time I ever met MIL she was in the hospital recovering from surgery. DBF (now DH) took me with him when he went to visit. We had a nice chat (although a bit difficult to understand since she didn't have her dentures in - later found out she only wore them to work), and then she needed to take her evening walk up and down the halls. As we were walking, she did inform me that I probably shouldn't walk behind her since she had been a bit gassy. At least she gave me fair warning.

When we were planning wedding, MIL offered to either pay for the rehearsal dinner (with a very specific budget), or give us the cash if we wanted to cater it ourselves. Since my DH was a chef at the time, we decided to take the cash. We knew we could do it for less and use the money to help defray some other expenses. We never got a dime of the money, but she got new furniture and golf clubs.

She had a habit of discussing people she and DH knew years ago when he was a kid. She did seem to revel in making sure the discussion was a subject to which I had to knowledge and couldn't participate.

She called repeatedly to borrow $ from us for meds, etc. She also called one day from the medical equipment house. She wanted to borrow $1500 to buy GMIL an electric wheelchair. Of course DH tells her he needs to discuss it with me. Therefore, when WE decide not to do it because GMIL never leaves the house, it looks like I am the bad guy.

She lived in the same town we do and never once came to see her grandkids in 7 years. I finally made my DH start taking the kids to see her and GMIL while I went to WW meetings. So kids did get to know them a little bit before they died.

I don't believe she was a bad or evil woman, just completely oblivious. Luckily my DH has an awesome relationship with my DM. Last night we were discussing an Alaskan cruise for summer of '07. His comment was I hope your mom goes with us. I am so lucky that such a wonderful, responsible man came from such an irresponsible home.

 

[helens042266]

Not about my MIL (although sometimes she is just as bad) this is my DH grandmother. We had always had a close relationship, she used to be the sweetest thing! She lives 2 hours away and with the birth of each of my children she was invited to come and stay for the first week to help out. She loved it and so did we.

About 2 years ago I get a call from my BIL saying that GMIL had just called him to give him some friendly advice. The advice? He needed to end the affair that he was having with ME! If he didn't "end" this affair, I was going to leave his brother and my 3 kids and get him to run off with me and ruin the entire family. She had the nerve to call THE ENTIRE family (aunts, uncles, cousins, second-cousins...) to inform them of this affair just so they would know what kind of person I was. The worst part was that NO ONE in my DHs family would say anything to her! They are all scared that she will write them out of her will. I don't care about the money and I called her and told her how I felt. She just kept telling me "I know what I know and nothing you can say can change my mind!" I still don't know how she got this crazy idea in her head. I would chalk it up to old age, but this woman is 85, still lives on her own, drives (drives everyone crazy) and has not made any other crazy accusations or done anything else that insane.

To this day, no one can understand why I won't come to family functions if she is there. The only one to stand up for me was my DH and even he was a little whimpy about it. She still calls the house and if I answer, she is as sweet as can be, like this never happened. She tells me she loves me and asks when we are all going to visit. uhhhhhhh....NEVER!!!

 

[RUDisney]

We got engaged on Thanksgiving eve, so on thanksgiving day we were at her house with most of her family at the table when she says" A young girl like yourself should not have a ring that big, i hope you feel comfortbale wearing my sons meal ticket on your finger". At the time i had no idea what to say, thank god his cousin said what are u nuts a diamond can never be to big!!!

My best friend convinced her DH to buy her a huge and $$$$$ ring. Her thought process was that he had just spent more than that on a car that he'd get rid of in 4-5 years... this was a ring that she'd wear forever. He bought it and she's still wearing it. I vaguely remember the car he had back then.

"... should not have a ring that big." Can you hear the cats meowing!?!