(Inspired) I Can't Believe They Did That-Inlaw Stories

[Wish I lived in Fl]

When DH tried to find out his mother's side of the story, all she would say was that he just didn't understand her point of view.

Wow, that is pretty low for a parent to not only not support him as much as possible, but to defraud him of his fathers support, both financial and emotional.


My Grandmother was one of those MIL- from -hell . Given the master bedroom on the second floor, she told people that she was being made to live in an attic!
Her grown sons quailed before her acid tongue.

In her 70s and living alone, she dropped a dish on the floor and it broke. She said out loud-"Now see what you made me do!". Then she realized she was alone in the room. Bitter and twisted like a Bonsai tree.


But how happy do you think these people can be?
Probably no fun to be them.

 

[babytrees]

I have a mil from heck also....guess I should be happy she's just called me a witch with a b in front of my girls. The thing is she started out a loving person....but I don't know what has happened...I just feel sorry for my BIL's new wife....as she is the favorite now....I told hubby wait until that wears off. My girls know that there is a difference in the way Meemaw and my mom love them....and poor Meemaw doesn't know two awesome kids or her son for that matter.

I also have a Grandma who could fit in most of these stories!! We live with her right now....her kids have very little to do with her because of the venom she spews....and were surprised when I told them I had gotten one of her famous "letters"....I may be her favorite but that doesn't mean she hasn't venomed me!! After one episode DH said "and you love them more why?" I said "not more but I love them because they are my grandparents."

 

[BuckNaked]

Before DH and I were engaged, we were spending the Christmas holidays with his family up north. FIL had a favorite jeweler, and he took my future DH to pick out a loose diamond for my engagement ring, with the plan of having the ring mounted after we left, and then FIL would send it to DH after we got home.

Future MIL saw the ring after it was done, and she liked the stone so much that she tried to convince FIL to have the diamond taken out of my ring and out of her engagement ring, and switch them. In her words "...she's never seen the stone, she won't know the difference..."

 

[Stacey2grls]

I have such an awful MIL that no words could properly describe her! She had a fight with her son over the summer, and than refused to see her grandchildren, my DD's 7 and 5 if I was there! She completely turned everything around on me even though I wasn't even there for the fight between the two of them! So, the long and the short of it is, she lives 2 minutes away and hasn't seen the girls in 8 months. Some grandmother huh?

 

[Lachesis00]

My jaw dropped... wow!

Fast forward to our marriage and he told me this whole thing. I told him that it was totally messed up and couldn't be accurate -- no judge would make a stupid ruling like that. I ended up talking to FIL's wife and we got to talking about it and FIL totally flipped out when he found all this out. It turned out that he had been paying the tuition all along but was sending checks to MIL. She took all that money for herself, and told FIL that DH dropped out because of his grades.

When DH tried to find out his mother's side of the story, all she would say was that he just didn't understand her point of view. What's to understand??? Oh, and to add insult to injury, about a month after all this came to light, MIL decided to go back to college herself and just raved on and on to DH about it.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Some of these stories had me

Mind if I share a crazy MIL story?

About 5 years ago, when we moved into our house, the ILs spent the day helping DH move everything because I had to work that day. Anyway..I was off in time to help with the final driving of stuff (mostly furniture) from the old apt to the new house. We had gotten everything in and were going to just sort of settle in for the night and unpack the next day. What does my MIL do? She insists on dragging out the vacuum and sucking all the cat hair off the sofas because they are COATED in it (we had 2 cats at the time).

But I think that was probably just years-overdue payback for the scare I sort of gave her one night. Back when DH and I were dating, I got tix to see CATS and he happened to forget the tix in his room, so we had to drive back and get them. While I waited for him to find the tickets, I kinda hung out in the kitchen. I was dressed semi-formally--sleeveless, kneelength black dress, black hose, black heels and a HUGE red/black feather boa. I think it was the boa that did it..MIL kind of went and retreated from the room when she saw me.

TOV

 

[RUDisney]

Along Marseeya's line of stories, a friend of mine found out that her IL's had been using her DH's SSN to obtain credit that they had never intended to repay.

She found out a week before their wedding. They applied to live in an apartment in Philadelphia, as she had just finished dental school and had planned to live in that area. The apartment complex called her back and told her that they couldn't rent to her because her future DH never paid his bills.

When they confronted his parents, it turned out that they had been doing this to every one of their children's credit.

They didn't press charges, and had to apply in only her name for everything for the longest time. They made sure that his parents no longer had access to credit through his data.

 

[kbkids]

Along Marseeya's line of stories, a friend of mine found out that her IL's had been using her DH's SSN to obtain credit that they had never intended to repay.

She found out a week before their wedding. They applied to live in an apartment in Philadelphia, as she had just finished dental school and had planned to live in that area. The apartment complex called her back and told her that they couldn't rent to her because her future DH never paid his bills.

When they confronted his parents, it turned out that they had been doing this to every one of their children's credit.

They didn't press charges, and had to apply in only her name for everything for the longest time. They made sure that his parents no longer had access to credit through his data.

How could someone do that to their children?? That's awful!!

 

[Marseeya]

Along Marseeya's line of stories, a friend of mine found out that her IL's had been using her DH's SSN to obtain credit that they had never intended to repay.

She found out a week before their wedding. They applied to live in an apartment in Philadelphia, as she had just finished dental school and had planned to live in that area. The apartment complex called her back and told her that they couldn't rent to her because her future DH never paid his bills.

When they confronted his parents, it turned out that they had been doing this to every one of their children's credit.

They didn't press charges, and had to apply in only her name for everything for the longest time. They made sure that his parents no longer had access to credit through his data.

That is so sad. I just can't imagine the kind of person who would do something like that to their kids. Don't they say that money is the root of all evil? Did your friend's DH forgive his parents after that?

Another thing my MIL did shortly after he dropped out of college was, she offered to let him move in with her but he had to pay rent. No problem, right? She charged him the going rate at the time for just a room and it was around $400, but told him that she'd take half of that money and put it in savings for him so he could have a down payment for his own place. Mind you, where I lived, we paid $350 in rent for a whole house! He didn't get a bedroom either, but had to sleep in this back room in their unfinished basement. It was cob-webby and had bare wires hanging from the ceiling. They don't even keep their dogs in that basement! Poor DH was a mess... no college, his fiance had just been killed in a car accident, and this was how he had to live.

By the time we got together, he should have had $2000 saved up to get his own place. But in her best "Olivia Soprano" voice, she was all, "I don't know what you're talking about!"

What gets me about all this is that she does the most horrendous things, but she's so sweet and kind on the outside. I can't stand how badly she's hurt him over the years, yet acts so innocent.

 

[mickeysgal]

What gets me about all this is that she does the most horrendous things, but she's so sweet and kind on the outside. I can't stand how badly she's hurt him over the years, yet acts so innocent.

Passive aggressive personalities are the toughest type to deal with. They'll smile at you and tell you in the most patronizing voice that you've completely misunderstood their intentions or that you must be paranoid...they wouldn't ever do the thing that you're accusing them of. Good luck to anyone that has to deal with these types.

 

[jgmklmhem]

OOOOooooo I want to join in on this "fun."

Here are just a few of my MIL stories...nothing as bad as stealing moeny but still not the greatest.

- Well recently we found out we were going to have our third child. My wife calls her mom now over 2 weeks ago to tell her. The phone conversation lasts all of 30 seconds, MIL cut it short and has not called us since the announcement...whereas my parents have probably called 20 times to see how my wife is doing etc.

- Christmas 2004 we flew back home to my parents house in P'cola FL but then drove the 4 hours up to Birmingham to visit my wife's family. We stayed at my wife's aunt's house (MIL lives in a tiny apartment). Well MIL and her new husband come over to "see" us but only stay for about 3 hours because new husband was a little tired. So we spent about 6-7hours getting back to the Southeast another 4 driving up to see them and all she can stay is for 3 hours to see her only 2 grand kids (DW is an only child). So this summer we have decided to forgo the extra 4 hr drive up to see them.

- 1 month before our wedding day (DW lived at home) MIL decides to move out so that she can meet up with her boyfriend (new husband mentioned above) easier. Granted my wife's father is a total *** but to up and leave your only daughter 1 month before her wedding date just so you can see your bf more really really hurt my wife.

 

[dolphinrescuegirl]

bump!

 

[Stephanie218]

Well, they're not inlaws yet but close enough - my DBF and I have been dating for almost 4 years. We went to brunch a few weeks ago at their house, and his dad starts literally screaming at his sister because she had her mom buy Yoplait Whipped yogart instead of the regular. Apparently the whipped have 2 less ounces???? I don't think I've ever met someone cheaper in my life.

 

[mickeysgal]

Well, they're not inlaws yet but close enough - my DBF and I have been dating for almost 4 years. We went to brunch a few weeks ago at their house, and his dad starts literally screaming at his sister because she had her mom buy Yoplait Whipped yogart instead of the regular. Apparently the whipped have 2 less ounces???? I don't think I've ever met someone cheaper in my life.

This should be a good indication of what you're marrying into. If you're seeing this behavior now, you'll continue to see it later. Look on the bright side...you'll have additional stories to post on this thread.

 

[Stacerita]

Well, they're not inlaws yet but close enough - my DBF and I have been dating for almost 4 years. We went to brunch a few weeks ago at their house, and his dad starts literally screaming at his sister because she had her mom buy Yoplait Whipped yogart instead of the regular. Apparently the whipped have 2 less ounces???? I don't think I've ever met someone cheaper in my life.

In his defense, if he was dieting and was only allowed one container of yogurt those 2 ounces could make a huge difference.

Im loving all these IL posts. Giving me some warm fuzzies about what I get to look forward to.

 

[tink38]

Passive aggressive personalities are the toughest type to deal with. They'll smile at you and tell you in the most patronizing voice that you've completely misunderstood their intentions or that you must be paranoid...they wouldn't ever do the thing that you're accusing them of. Good luck to anyone that has to deal with these types.

Yup. Put me in for one of those. My inlaws were here last weekend for DH's BDay. They were not invited. They just announced that they were coming. And staying with us. Joy. DH requested that I make Cassoulet (VERY long and involved dish to cook. Like 8 hours. Joy)

Well, my 8 year old dog, who has suffered from seizures for about 4 years now, had an attack Saturday night and bit my husband. In front of my MIL. Good Lord. You'd have thought she was watching Roy getting mauled by that tiger.

Now we have to send the dog to the SPCA. Before you flame me, know that I am TOTALLY against this. I do not believe that animals are disposable. But I am not willing to sacrifice my marriage for a dog. He is 8. He has seizures. He bit ME tonight. But I still love him. And I am not pleased with my inlaws for starting this crap.

It doesn't help that they call EVERY day to ask how the wound is. By the way - the "wound" was gone the next day. I fear the same will not be true with mine, however.

 

[JoiseyMom]

Okay- not the horrific MIL/Inlaw stories. BUT-- more the 5 yrs later I can laugh it off kind of story, or at least just shake my head type of stories.

Anyhow, dh and his mom had a really close relationship until she met the current boyfriend she has (which was 10 yrs ago now). He was an only child and she was a single mom- and they were just super, super close.

Anyhow, when we got engaged we didn't get married for almost 2 yrs (but the date had been set for well over a year). We were having a semi-formal outdoor wedding. Still complete w/ caterers, white tent, rented tables, ceremony the whole nine yards). Not a backyard totally informal wedding. However, about 6 weeks before the wedding (which dh's mom participated in not 1 ounce of the planning or anything)-- she calls and asks dh if he'd be mad if she didn't come. It turns out her BF's family was going camping the same weekend and he was pressuring her to go. She didn't think it would be a big deal since he had been married once before and she went to that one. So, for a month dh barely spoke w/ his mom over this. About 3 days before the wedding she decides she's going to come w/ BF- but only for the ceremony because they're going camping right from the ceremony. So, her and BF show up w/ their "camping clothes on". I swear. Dear new MIL- was wearing a stretchy pair of shorts, a tank top, and NO bra (she's naturally built like Dolly Parton). Her BF- came in very stained, dirty work jeans and a t-shirt full of holes. You should of seen my family, friends, and co-workers. Needless to say we didn't have any photo's done w/ them. Within 20 minutes of the ceremony--- they wanted to leave. BUT they wanted to know if the caterers could please put them together plates to go

Needless to say... still to this day I cannot believe it. However, I'm no longer mad- I can really only laugh at the aburdity of it all.

Wow, my ex-mil went camping on my wedding day also!! My dh and I had had a civil ceremony in January. My mom really wanted us to have a religious one. DH was of a different religion, but was converting. Well I don't think mil liked my religion. I am Jewish, and ex-mil grew up in Nazi Germany. She and dh's step father decided to go camping the weekend in August that we were being married in temple. His step gm, step aunt/uncle/cousins were all there. But not his mom, step dad and 1/2 siblings. His dad lived out of state and sent a big check instead. When I was leaving my dh, and my brother was with me getting all of my stuff, he said hey...your mil seems nice, she says she wants to keep in touch with the kids. I rolled my eyes. THis was back in 1985, kids were 18 months and 6 months. GUess what, she has never seen or spoken to my kids, but then again, neither has my ex. Good riddance to bad rubbish!!

My current in-laws (10 years) are the best. Granted we have our moments, but they accepted my 2 sons as her grand children from day one. When I was pregnant with my dd, and people were wishing her congrats on her "first" grandchild, (we were at a NYE party at bil house). She said, thanks, but it isn't our first, we have 2 grandsons, those 2 young men in the other room.
My dh also considers them his sons from my first marriage .

 

[lbgraves]

Gosh! It's nice to not be alone. Not a card or anything from the ILs for our wedding. We paid for their hotel room so they would come & not have that excuse as well as FIL's tux. We even had to go up to see them 5 hours away & drive him to a tux shop to be measured or he wouldn't have done it. Last BIL's wedding I had absolutely no idea when pictures were taken. I was dealing with the kids 3 & 5. We were sent a copy of a picture with DH & his 3 brothers & the other GS. My kids weren't in any pictures. That went in the cabinet never to see daylight in our home. I guess my BIL & SILs are worse than my MIL. We have gotten closer in the past 4 years since she has been diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer.

 

[mariolatry]

We're going through a fun in-law situation right now!

My DD (7 months) will be baptized this Sunday. We looked all over to find a nice dress, in her size, that was seasonally appropriate and reasonably priced. I swear, we could not find a thing! Well, my SIL (who sews all of her grandkids clothes) offered to make a dress. She made the whole thing for the cost of fabric ($4).

Well, on Monday, the poop hit the fan with my MIL. She calls AND emails both my DH and I and says basically, she's not coming to the baptism because I didn't ask her to make the dress. She wants me to apologize for being so rude as to not ask her first! She also tells us not to visit for FILs birthday tomorrow. She never wants to see me again, unless I apologize for my rudeness.

The kicker? My MIL doesn't sew. She's just mad because she says my SIL is "lesser" relative to my daughter than she is.

 

[Marseeya]

We're going through a fun in-law situation right now!

My DD (7 months) will be baptized this Sunday. We looked all over to find a nice dress, in her size, that was seasonally appropriate and reasonably priced. I swear, we could not find a thing! Well, my SIL (who sews all of her grandkids clothes) offered to make a dress. She made the whole thing for the cost of fabric ($4).

Well, on Monday, the poop hit the fan with my MIL. She calls AND emails both my DH and I and says basically, she's not coming to the baptism because I didn't ask her to make the dress. She wants me to apologize for being so rude as to not ask her first! She also tells us not to visit for FILs birthday tomorrow. She never wants to see me again, unless I apologize for my rudeness.

The kicker? My MIL doesn't sew. She's just mad because she says my SIL is "lesser" relative to my daughter than she is.

Irrational much??? That's hilarious!