(Inspired by honeywolf) Would you (or have you) dated people of another race?

[Dan Murphy]

Originally posted by JasonLyons
I think people of all colors are attractive, but I dont like it when a white girl does it, I know thats not fair thinking

Okay for a white guy though???

 

[minniepumpernickel]

We're all part of the human race...
We're all one...
All one....

It is sad indeed, to see a few of the replies. It'll be nice when we reach a time where this question becomes moot. I think I'll go back to my little corner of the world now.

Good luck with your relationship HW, I wish you all of the best!

 

[Lars624]

It breaks my heart to hear people talking about what a child of mixed race will face. I hope the only thing my beautiful niece will ever face in the world is love.

 

[julie_yet]

<font color=#0066FF>I haven't but I would. In fact the first little boy that liked me was black. My sister married a black man so my niece and nephew are mixed. I've grown up with it so it's just normal to me.</font>

 

[disneyjunkie]

Originally posted by JasonLyons
I think people of all colors are attractive, but I dont like it when a white girl does it, I know thats not fair thinking

How do you feel about white men dating women that are not white?

 

[danacara]

My first boyfriend has an Irish mother and a Nigerian father and he gets stares everywhere he goes. He's a babe! His complexion is best described as "very tan," bright blue eyes, black hair. You'd never be able to guess his ethnicity by looking at him (he's very Vin Diesel that way). It's all about the attraction, and really not about the color. If you think he's a babe, date him!

 

[dnoyes]

CARL....... maybe you ment to say something else?

 

[janette]

I don't think it should be an issue. I'm not sure what qualifies as another race. My MIL is Filipino so my kids do have a mixed heritage. My extended family has continued to be more diverse and everyone is very welcome.

Carl - Times thankfully have changed, my 11yo DD once asked why people tend to marry people of the same race. She couldn't see an obvious reason for it. I have never heard my children say anyone was considered different at school because of race. There are still divisions but I don't see that race is one and my kids are in a pretty diverse school. I can't think of an large ethnic group that isn't represented at least partially.

 

[Kitty 34]

Yes, I have dated guys of a different race.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

I have & would again if I met someone I was interested in. The immediate family doesn't have a problem with it. Some in the extended family might have a problem with it (not sure), but if they choose to not speak to me because of it, well then that's their choice, not mine. I would never sacrifice love to appease some relative I hardly ever talk to anyway, especially over something as trivial as skin color.


BTW Cookie, that was pretty bigoted too, don't you think? The most racist people my folks ever met were in the NE (NJ & NY specifically), but if you choose to believe that racism is only found in the south or that everyone in the south is racist, I suppose that's your perogative.

 

[Poohbear123]

No, I haven't but both my kids have.

 

[vickyBaby]

Originally posted by Jeff in BigD
The most racist people my folks ever met were in the NE (NJ & NY specifically

Get out. Are you for real? I know more mixed couples with children in New Jersey. Especially the town I live in.

 

[CookieGVB]

Originally posted by Jeff in BigD

BTW Cookie, that was pretty bigoted too, don't you think? The most racist people my folks ever met were in the NE (NJ & NY specifically), but if you choose to believe that racism is only found in the south or that everyone in the south is racist, I suppose that's your perogative.

Hey, Jeff, I was joking. Sad to say, I don't think Carl was.


And sad to say, thought you knew better...

 

[Jeff in BigD]

Originally posted by vickylan
Get out. Are you for real? I know more mixed couples with children in New Jersey. Especially the town I live in.

Absolutely! They were asked almost on a daily basis "what are you?" (meaning what was their ancestrial background, something they'd never been asked before) & when they would answer, the person would usually then say "oh, I have some friends that are *same ancestry*" (as if it was even an issue) or "What do you think of the *different ethnic group*?"

 

[Jeff in BigD]

Originally posted by CookieGVB
Hey, Jeff, I was joking. Sad to say, I don't think Carl was.


And sad to say, thought you knew better...

The tone struck me as a "I'm kidding...but not really" one. I'm sorry there was a misinterpretation. I don't know if Carl meant that the way it sounded, but I could point you to a poster from the NE who isn't "ethnically sensative" either. Again, sorry about the misinterpretation.

 

[EROS]

Hey, there are many fine people who are uncomfortable dating outside of their race......or religion. They're NOT necessarily racist or bigoted, and they should not be judged so. I have friends who would NEVER date outside of their faith, whether they were Catholic or Jewish. Are they evil????? NO . They have their own personal sanctions about the type of marriage which they wish. They shouldn't be condemned for their decisions.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

If someone isn't attracted to someone outside of their race that's their decision, but it's wrong if they're saying that no one should date outside their race.

 

[honeywolf7]

Jeff just posted what I wanted to post but couldn't figure out how to put perfectly into words.

 

[EROS]

I feel that the DIS should be a BIG TENT . Members like Carl should be able to express their opinions, however "controversial" they may be. Others certainly will respond in opposition. We call this exercise a............DIALOGUE .

I agree with Deb in IA that the most important factors in raising interracial children revolve around conferring love and self-esteem to them. However, it is not always easy. We have good friends who have adopted children from vastly different cultures than their own.......... Korean children, Cambodian children, Chinese children, and African-American children. In all cases, they have found that these kids cannot simply be raised with WHITE suburban values. They really make an attempt to find role models for them of their same national or racial origin .

 

[vickyBaby]

Originally posted by Jeff in BigD
Absolutely! They were asked almost on a daily basis "what are you?" (meaning what was their ancestrial background, something they'd never been asked before) & when they would answer, the person would usually then say "oh, I have some friends that are *same ancestry*" (as if it was even an issue) or "What do you think of the *different ethnic group*?"

Gosh, I live 22 miles outside of Manhattan and it truly is a melting pot. I never thought asking someone what their ethnic background was would be considered an insult.

Two weeks ago, I had a new employee begin work at the firm I'm established with. He has a thick accent and I was curious to know where he was from. Ends up he is from right outside of Chernobyl. It led to an interesting conversation.