Infant crying overnight

[Minnesota!]

Stick to your routine. If she won't calm down after 5 - 8 minutes, then nurse her. Who cares what the neighbors think - babies cry! No need to feel bad or apologize. And, it's not like she is crying the whole night!

 

[ducklite]

I instantly wake to a crying baby. I would be immediately awake, and would probably not be able to get right back to sleep if the crying continued for more than a minute or so. If after five minutes the baby was still crying (not fussing a bit--I think we can all agree there's a difference), I'd be calling security--who knows, crazy people might have put the baby to bed and gone out drinking...

The point is that if night after night my neighbors let their baby cry, I would be very pissed, and would talk to a manager about it. Yes, in a hotel you expect to hear an occasional noise, but not a baby crying for five or ten minutes late at night every night.

And about that lady walking the baby up and down the hallway, I would have more than peaked out the peephole, I would have gone into the hall and asked her if she left her common sense and courtesy at home because she obviously didn't have it with her.

This entire thread is a great example of why WDW should dedicate certain buildings/wings/floors as adult, or at least over 16 only. It would make everybody a lot happier.

Anne

 

[720L]

So when my kids get up at 6am when everybody else is probably still sleeping, I should just let them talk and turn the tv up as usual? Because what do you expect, you're at Disney! I would do anything I could to get my baby to stop crying when in a hotel. (I've dealt with this also) (give them a drink, rock them, pacifier whatever) I think its rude to expect other people to listen to your kid screaming in the middle of the night just because you don't want their routine to get messed up. That's part of traveling.

 

[Hannathy]

and even if I am going to get flamed it is a real example of the ME generation. all thru this thread I hear do what is right for YOU don't worry about your neighbors YOU are the only one that is important. So the rest of the motel's comfort is insignificant as long as you are happy. No matter what I do at home when you are in a motel you have an obligation to try and calm your baby not let them cry it out disturbing your neighbors and I would also call security if I heard a baby cry for 5 minutes straight without hearing an adult trying to deal with it. I Never let my kids cry in a motel or make excessive noise and I expect the same from others.

 

[daisyduck123]

Ohhh...this is one hot thread.

I'm only going to say to any parent, "Please don't let your baby cry it out. Think of your neighbors. If you are so worried about messing up baby's schedule...maybe baby should be older before he/she goes on the trip."

 

[DisneyPhD]

The whole sleeping through the night thing is overrated. Most people I know wake-to go to the bathroom, get a drink, fix the covers-why is it a problem when baby wakes? An unpopular opinion, I know, but many adults that I know as well as their children do wake during the night.

If you expect your baby to sleep through at such an early age, well, that is pretty unrealistic. Night waking comes with the territory and should be expected. Believe me, I understand being tired. I have not had a good night's sleep since May 2001. I have been pregnant, nursing, nursing and pregnant, pregnant, and nursing since then. But that is part of having children.

If you are looking for a more gentle approach to sleep teaching, try The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.

She is talking about normal patterns of waking during the night, and the baby self soothing. Expecting a 8 month old who doesn't normally nurse at night not to is normal and expected (even though mine didn't. )

Now for some actual advice to the OP (who's trip should be in a week acording to her count down clock.) Bring blankets and a lovely from home and be sure to use them in the pack and play so the smells are familar. The mattress in the pack and play is rather thin so we always padd ours with folded extra blankets.

Now as far as considerate neighbors. As much as I try to be one myself, I NEVER get them next to me NEVER. This is not the same case.

For adults who don't have kids, consider ear plugs. (ones with kids might want to be able to hear your own.

Hannathy, I don't think it is an example of the "Me" generation. Maybe the give our kids everything they want generation, but that is another story. The mother isn't preposing geting ear plugs herself and not breast feeding her baby because she is tried from a long day at the parks. If she was going to try the "cry it out" method for the 1st time during vacation that is another story. This is not the case.

It apears most mothers who worked hard to night ween their child are feeling 3 to 5 min is approprate to wait to see is she can fall back asleep on her own. As also already mentioned it would take at least that long to prepare a bottle.

OP I hope you have a magial and wonderful trip. Please don't let people resonoses here bother you.

 

[hollyb]

It breaks my heart thinking of a baby crying in the dark in a strange place. If the baby can't depend on the comfort of mom or dad who can they? I think not going would be a better for the baby if the parents think she will cry to much. There is always another time.

 

[jodifla]

It breaks my heart thinking of a baby crying in the dark in a strange place. If the baby can't depend on the comfort of mom or dad who can they? I think not going would be a better for the baby if the parents think she will cry to much. There is always another time.

Oh, you've got to be KIDDING!!! Not go, because the baby might cry for five minutes.....

 

[hollyb]

Oh, you've got to be KIDDING!!! Not go, because the baby might cry for five minutes.....

From the sound of it. The mom is worried the kid will cry more then 5 minutes. DUH!!

 

[jodifla]

Our DD (8 months old) usually wakes up 1-2 times per night and cries for 3-5 minutes before putting herself asleep. !

She said, and I quote, three to five minutes.

We've been taking our DS since he was five months old. If he cried for more than a couple of minutes, we went in to soothe him and get him to be quiet. But I never get him at the first cry.

The one time he was totally inconsolable, we struggled with him for about 10 minutes in the room, offering bottles, food, walking, everything we could think of, before DH took him for a car ride to settle him down.

OP, I couldn't tell if you ever did bottles....that is something you could possibly try. It is feeding at night which you normally don't do, but it's out of the routine, so it might not be a habit that got "stuck" too quickly.

Good luck!

 

[DMRick]

I must be reading her countdown wrong.. I thought it said 0 days til DD's first trip to Disney.
As far you never getting considerate neighbors..well, uh, maybe those same people are being told that they shouldn't have to be considerate on another board LOL.

As far as earplugs..I'm not going to sleep with earplugs..why on earth should I have to? Hey, if a baby wakes up and a parent goes to them and comforts them, I won't have a problem with it. 5 minutes of crying, and I will have a problem. As I said, if I hear a parent soohing the baby, that's different. If they just put their pillow over their head and let it rip for five minutes, I won't be happy. She did say it was a loud baby, so she should be prepared. Sometimes just a parents arms will sooth them, so they see/feel something familiar.

Bottles take 5 minutes to get ready for an 8 mo old? Don't you have them prepared and ready to give, if you suspect you'll need it in the middle of the night? All we had to do with our grands, was open one. We had premade emergency bottles in case we needed them, although my daughter would usually just give them a nip and all was quiet. It hasn't been that long since our grands went with us, and keeping them quiet in our hotel room was our number one concern when it was late.

Now for some actual advice to the OP (who's trip should be in a week acording to her count down clock.)

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Now as far as considerate neighbors. As much as I try to be one myself, I NEVER get them next to me NEVER. This is not the same case.

For adults who don't have kids, consider ear plugs. (ones with kids might want to be able to hear your own.

 

[DMRick]

And that's what I would expect someone to do. Soothe him.

We've been taking our DS since he was five months old. If he cried for more than a couple of minutes, we went in to soothe him and get him to be quiet. But I never get him at the first cry.!

 

[DisneyPhD]

And that's what I would expect someone to do. Soothe him.

The OP said "If we go in to soothe her, she won't go back to sleep without nursing, and she really doesn't need to eat overnight anymore." Meaning the only way the baby excepts soothing in the middle of the night is nursing (the same as my DD.) So any kind of comfort, pacifier talking to is most likely just going to upset her more because "you aren't feeding me."

Now myself I have no idea how long it takes to make a bottle, I only breast feed my kids. Bottles need warming up though, and that does take at least 2 min. If child doesn't normally feed at night, you wouldn't have one ready. A few times my DH tried to give me a break and give my DD a bottle or soy milk or breast milk (DD is allergic to milk, part of her sleep issues that we understand better now, but didn't before she was 1 year old.) She would have nothing to do with it, but she would take it during the day. For many babies substitutes don't work when they want what they want it.

What it appears a lot of people answering on this thread don't understand is how hard it can be to night ween a child and how important it is to be consistent with it. (especially with breast feeding.) In fact I am willing to bet if she asked her pediatrician he/she would say give it a few min before going to her (that is what mine did say.)

As far as ear plugs go, in my experience a baby crying for less then 5 min at time is the least of resort room noises. I wish I could wear them, (but I need to listen for my own kids.)

This will be my 1st trip to WDW where my youngest is sleeping all night. Her past 3 trips she did night wake, and I did nurse her. Now if she wakes at night it normally means something is wrong (or she had some milk or eggs that day.) On past trips when she did wake neither my husband, older DD or 13 year old niece woke up because of the baby crying. Just good old mom.

As far as the OP and where she is, that is a mystery. Her count down clock isn't clear, but she started the thread yesterday night. It isn't an old thread. Maybe she is just staying away because many people here have been rather harsh.

 

[ducklite]

You don't warm a bottle for an eight month old. The bottles would be premade in the fridge, be it soy milk, formula, or expressed breast milk.

You grab one and plug.

Anne

 

[DMRick]

Sure I understand weaning a child..I did it with three of them eventually. But when we went away, sometimes things changed. If my pediatrician was in the room next to me, she too, would suggest getting to baby quickly and soothing..it's not like they are home..they are in a strange room, a strange bed, a strange environment. They are not home..and they generally need soothing. She's not been to Disney, so she doesn't really know if soothing will help or hurt.

And we had premade bottles at room temp ready to go (maybe they no longer sell them?). I don't think I warmed up bottles at that age, the few times it was needed.

In any case, if a baby is crying, and the family is away from home, I still think it's owed to the hotel residents and the baby, to have mom or dad get to her as quickly as possible. You may not feel that way now, but let me know if you change your mind, if you have a baby crying next to you waking you or your children up..and then you or them are up for the night. See how you will enjoy your next day in Disney. She said the baby is loud..and if she doesn't settle right back down, because she is scared of the surroundings..then what? I think it's a lot harder in most instances, to settle down a baby that has worked themselve up in a dither..and 5 minutes could do it. Obviously, if she thought it would be a little wimpering for 3 minutes, there would be no sense in even posting, asking about it.

What it appears a lot of people answering on this thread don't understand is how hard it can be to night ween a child and how important it is to be consistent with it. (especially with breast feeding.) In fact I am willing to bet if she asked her pediatrician he/she would say give it a few min before going to her (that is what mine did say.) .

 

[DisneyPhD]

You don't warm a bottle for an eight month old. The bottles would be premade in the fridge, be it soy milk, formula, or expressed breast milk.

You grab one and plug.

Anne

That might be. The point is the OP doesn't want to get her baby back in the habbit of eating during the night once she is out of it.

 

[DMRick]

Maybe she is just staying away because many people here have been rather harsh.

I don't think people have been harsh. Opinions were asked and given. If someone posts and only wants someone to agree with them..the thread should say, please only post if you agree
I fully understand a baby crying in a hotel room, and I expect a parent to go to it. If someone is pretty sure their child is going to be loud and cry for at least 3 - 5 minutes..well, then they should be prepared to handle it or perhaps a phone call from a neighbor.
What if someone said they have a four year old who wakes up and hits their head on the wall for 3 - 5 minutes (and it happens to be the connecting wall). We would expect that mom or dad to be ready to deal with it. It is what it is.

 

[Danestress]

Personally I just could not have allowed a baby to cry in a hotel room. I just think it's wrong to let a baby cry if you can possibly calm him/her. Your routine isn't more important that the sleep needs of other hotel guests.

But sometimes you simply can't calm a fussy baby, and we've all been there. I have been in hotels and airplanes with crying babies, and I have great sympathy for their mothers.

What I would do in this situation would be to STAY IN BED and have DH comfort the baby. We really found that the baby was unwilling to go back to sleep once he smelled me! DH was able to offer comfort that was seperate from offering food, and if you can possibly make that work - get the baby to settle down with a little rocking and loving, it won't be as hard to break that habit once you are home. So I would suggest that DH get up, comfort the baby without talking and without turning on a light (ie, baby, it's NIGHT and we aren't going to make this extra entertaining). If that simply doesn't work, I would eventually just nurse the baby.

 

[grlpwrd]

Harsh?

I think the most harsh is having a poster mention "shove a **** in the kids face" or something to that effect 2 or 3 times. Ack! lol

 

[momof2inPA]

At 8 months, a baby does not need nursing to actually nurse - if anyone is doing it at that point it is just a form of pacifying. That isn't wrong per say but if you have established a routine for her that does not include pacify nursing then it would take A LOT for me to offer it for that reason, hotel or no hotel - this is YOUR baby.

Off Topic: That's ridiculous. A baby benefits from the comfort, not to mention the nourishment of nursing after 8 months. The AAP recommends nursing to at least a year.

Pacify nursing! That sounds like Ezzo Baby Wise, Raising Kids God's Way nonsense.

If someone had a screaming baby in the room next to me twice a night, every night, I would definitely have a problem with that neighbor. The desk would be called, and I might bang on the wall. I took my 7 month old to Disney and I nursed the kid to sleep at night, actually he slept with me, so all I remember is a fun trip, not unpleasant crying episodes.