Infant crying overnight

[goofy4wdw2]

Our DD (8 months old) usually wakes up 1-2 times per night and cries for 3-5 minutes before putting herself asleep. She can be loud, but at home, it's just DH and I who hear her. If we go in to soothe her, she won't go back to sleep without nursing, and she really doesn't need to eat overnight anymore...and I'd prefer not to mess with our routine. But I'm nervous she'll wake up others in the hotel (split stay, POFQ and BCV)...is it easy to hear noises from other rooms in the regular rooms or 1BR villas? Any experience with this? Suggestions? Thank you!!

 

[ducklite]

Others will hear in POFQ. At the villa as long as you take her in the bedroom it should be fine--noise can be heard under the connecting door in the lockout for sure.

You're going to be out of your routine to begin with, and being in a different place might get her more agitated than usual. I'd just bite the bullet and nurse her back to sleep.

Anne

 

[DisneyPhD]

I wouldn't. I think 3 to 5 min is an acceptable amount of time for a child to cry and it you think it is best to let her cry it out do that. (even thought I know 3 min can seem a lot longer. )

I have had the same issues in the past. The problem is I never knew if my child would go back to sleep. I would often nurse her, but it really caused problems. Now I always give her 5 min before going to her. Same thing, if I got to her there is no getting her backto sleep with out nurisng her. She will however cry it out on her own, often in less then 5 min (actually now she sleeps all night, but it took a few weeks of letting her self comfort. Once they aren't nursing in the middle of the night it is best to not go back to it. If I nursed her one night, then the next night at that time she woke and wanted to nurse. If I didn't she sleep better the following night.

I know it is hard with a baby in a hotel. You can't just let them cry it out, however less then 5 min isn't bad. We were at PORS last May and I felt it was pretty queit. I would feel bad for other people, but you do what you have to do.

If she crys more then 5 min I would give in.

 

[minkydog]

I agree, Nurse your baby for her sake and everybody elses. you can work on "undoing" the habit when you get home.

 

[Tinky]

Does she take a binky? I agree that other folks will probably hear her but I understand that you dont want to mess up her routine.
What time do you normally put her down? How many naps is she talking during the day because that is probably going to off schedule as well as much as you try to keep to the schedule.
My oldest two started going at that age and honestly they were so off schedule due to napping in the stroller, exhaustion, off schedule. I am anxious to see how my little one does this trip at 10 months.

You might just have to go with the flow and see how it works out.

 

[amarberry]

DD was very similar at your child's age with occassionally waking up for a few minutes before putting herself back to sleep. I must tell you that it would intensify when we were away from home becasue DD would wake up and not be in her crib. I could have let her cry for hours, but she would not have fallen back to sleep on her own. Nursing usually did the trick and put her back to sleep. I definitely think that you should just plan to nurse your child back to sleep if she wakes up in the middle of the night.

 

[happypooh]

I'd do the same thing and nurse her and worry about it all when you get home...let her and yourself and your neighbors sleep! That said I still nurse my 15 month old at night...he'd cry way way longer than just 5minutes even at home!

 

[Vickie46]

I know when we stayed at the Values we heard kids running around all hours of the night.. you can hear it all there... so I think a crying baby would be more ok than kids running up and down the sidewalks... just my opinion... its disney.. and a big place for kids so I can understand.. but its nice if you can nurse too.. just your decision.

 

[DMRick]

I would think it only fair to your neighbors, that you plan on nursing her, before she really gets herself going. Hearing kids running on their way back from parks at 11 pm is a little different from being woke up from a crying baby in the middle of the night. Five minutes of crying would be a long time (and I wouldn't know it would only be five minutes), and I'm not sure I would be able to get back to sleep. That being said, we were next door to a Diser in POP, and she apologized on line for her child crying briefly during the night, and we never heard it.

 

[Mom to Jordan]

I agree with most of the others, you need to do whatever to prevent her from bothering the other guest. She will be off routine anyway so just plan to start over when you get home.

 

[ptslp]

Being someone who nursed her children to sleep and got up in the night with them until they were 18 months old, I will disagree with the other posters and say try to stick to your routine. It is so hard to stop nursing at night once you have started again and she is looking for it. I would see how she does- it is entirely possible that she will be fine. She may be so tired that she sleeps the whole night!! (Wouldn't that be great!)
That being said, if you don't mind, and you are worried about distrubing people, then nurse her at night. I do sympathize with you- I have never been in the situation you are- this will be my first non-nursing trip next week. If my dd wakes in the night and is crying, I will do my best to soothe her, but what would a non-nursing/non-bottle feeding mother do if their child was waking in the night and crying? I will try to comfort her, but it doesn't always work!
Good luck

 

[jeepgirl30]

First off, nothing I'm about to say is meant to be judgemental at all. No one can tell you what is best for your baby.

My DS went through a phase where he would not sleep. He had night terrors so he'd start screaming bloody murder and still not really be awake. Lucky for me it was in summer so I'd stick him in his stroller and walk him around outside. The minute he got in the stroller he'd stop screaming so I wasn't waking neighbors! He'd let this big sigh out and just crash. I also needed to get him quiet for DD and DH. I didn't want the whole house up.

DH had planned a family beach trip with another couple. I was in agony because if DS started screaming we were in a condo and what the heck to do. My poor DS ended up going literally days without a normal sleep. He'd only sleep if i pushed him in the stroller or took him for a ride in the car. That was one miserable trip for me. No one else was bothered because I kept him comfortable and avoided the crying at all cost. Generally I could get him to take short naps and then i'd try too.

We is over this phase and it didn't last too long but wow was that rough. But my thought in reading your post is, she will be off her schedule anyway and if it keeps everyone happy nurse her. She may cry 3-5 min at home but in a strange place she may wake confused and need the comfort of familiar to settle.

Maybe you could request an end room or something also. It is your vacation but other guests are also paying for vacation too.

Good luck!

 

[jodifla]

DS normally sleeps like a rock, but woke up screaming one night at OKW studio when he was about a year old. We definitely woke up the people staying next to us.....we could not get DS back to sleep, so DH took him for a 3 a.m. car ride! That did the trick.....

 

[720L]

Please don't let her cry, everyone next to you can hear it!!!

 

[Hannathy]

Do not let her cry!! It bothers me terribly to her a baby cry. I could never let mine cry it out and IMO 5 min 2x a night is an awful lot and maybe she still needs fed. Hearing a baby cry 5 minutes that I could not do anything about would totally disturb my sleep and if it happened 2x my sleep would be over. You are not at home and need to consider your neighbors. 10 minutes of crying baby is beyond normal and expected noise.

 

[dzorn]

5 minutes is nothing let her cry it out. It may seem like an eternity to you but I would not think twice about a baby crying for a few minutes or even a little longer. It's likely she goes to bed earlier than others so it will probably not disturbe anyones sleep. Experts say you should never nurse your baby to sleep. Leaving residual milk in there mouth can rot newly emerging teeth. I know it's not easy but the best bet is to sitck with your routine.
I breast fed both of my girls (18mo & 20mo) After the first one I learned to let them cry it out. They have to learn to fall asleep on their own. By adding an extra feeding you will also increase you milk supply. So be prepared that you might be engourged when you decrease it back at home.
(Side note for those with a different opinion. We are an obese society today because many use food for comfort) There are other ways to comfort a baby. Mine use to love the stroller.

Above all else do what you think is best for your child. Not the people next door. Your her mother not theirs. For those of you give advise of feed the baby to keep it quite. How many of you are more concerned with yourself and not the best interest of the child? No one likes their sleep disturbed including the baby. So keep quiet when you arrive to your room late at night. If you don't wake the baby it won't be such a problem.

Just my $.02 worth about that much

Denise

 

[Hannathy]

Denise I'm sorry but when you rent a hotel room you do agree to consider your neighbors. A baby crying uncomforted for 5 minutes twice a night is not considering your neighbors. She also said the baby wakes up on it's own not that someone is waking it. Please stop and think how miserable hotel experiences would be if everyone only thought of themselves and not their neighbors. I guess it would be ok for the college age guys next door to blast their music at 2 AM 'cause thats whats best for them. And I still say IMO a baby and an 8 month old is a baby that wakes and cries for 5 minutes twice a night needs something. Both my children ate at that age and neither is obese and my son is way underweight according to the charts. What is done for one week is not going to "harm" the child in any way, shape or form. WE do need to be considerate of others when we are in a shared space.

 

[DMRick]

I don't think we are an obese society just because a mom breast feeds their child for comfort LOL.

If she were home, I would agree that she should allow the baby to cry for five minutes, but she isn't. There are other babies in the hotel, and their parents would like to keep them asleep also.

(Side note for those with a different opinion. We are an obese society today because many use food for comfort)

Denise

 

[DisneyPhD]

5 minutes is nothing let her cry it out. It may seem like an eternity to you but I would not think twice about a baby crying for a few minutes or even a little longer. It's likely she goes to bed earlier than others so it will probably not disturbe anyones sleep. Experts say you should never nurse your baby to sleep. Leaving residual milk in there mouth can rot newly emerging teeth. I know it's not easy but the best bet is to sitck with your routine.
I breast fed both of my girls (18mo & 20mo) After the first one I learned to let them cry it out. They have to learn to fall asleep on their own. By adding an extra feeding you will also increase you milk supply. So be prepared that you might be engourged when you decrease it back at home.
(Side note for those with a different opinion. We are an obese society today because many use food for comfort) There are other ways to comfort a baby. Mine use to love the stroller.

Above all else do what you think is best for your child. Not the people next door. Your her mother not theirs. For those of you give advise of feed the baby to keep it quite. How many of you are more concerned with yourself and not the best interest of the child? No one likes their sleep disturbed including the baby. So keep quiet when you arrive to your room late at night. If you don't wake the baby it won't be such a problem.

Just my $.02 worth about that much

Denise

I agree.

OP I feel your pain. I lived your pain for 14 months. My DD woke EVERY 2 hours and would not go back to sleep with out nursing. Getting back in the habbit can be a HARD one to break. As Denise said you need to do what is best for your baby. If you said she wsa crying for 20 to 40 min (as mine did) I would consider it a different story. Now you might end up comforting and nursing her anyway because she might not be getting enough during the day because she is too busy to eat. I also did what you did on vacation and I wish I hadn't. Because she has set up a patteren of being able to go back to sleep in a short time, going back to nursing is going to be very confusing for her. If you could comfort her with nursing her I would say attened to her. However mine was the same way, if she even saw me she woke up more and demanded to nurse (still will now at 21 months old!)

Yes we do agree to be considerate to others (while I never seem to have neighbors that do, I try to be myself.) I consider being considerate not letting your tolder run up and down, jump on the bed, play with the handel on the conecting room door. No drunk loud adults, yelling, partyng loud music. A breif crying baby is not in this catagory.

In fact in my experince with crying babies, most people DON'T wake up. My DH, my family, my nieces and nephews and lots of others don't wake for a baby unless you know you are the one they are crying for (even myself with other peoples babies.) Infact most babies don't wake up when they hear crying either, especaily through muffled walls.

I agree let's be considerate to others, but I don't think this is inconsiderate.

Things could get better in the next 8 days too, it might not be such an issue. I hope this is the case.

Have a wonderful trip. We will be at WDW 2 weeks from tmw and we are staying at SSR. However if we were at POFQ or BCV I would understand if you were next to us.

 

[Suzanne74]

Oh I remember when dd was able to sleep thru the night without breastfeeding and I would be VERY hardpressed to give that up for all of 5min every night. Many babies would cry that long at night. What about a mom who is bottle feeding - it takes that long to make a bottle. At 8 months, a baby does not need nursing to actually nurse - if anyone is doing it at that point it is just a form of pacifying. That isn't wrong per say but if you have established a routine for her that does not include pacify nursing then it would take A LOT for me to offer it for that reason, hotel or no hotel - this is YOUR baby.

I think you are just going to have and wait and see how the baby does and go wtih your best judgement. She may be exhausted from the day and actually sleep in. She may get up even more. This is a hard thing to plan out. Personally I would not be offended in the least if I heard a baby crying for all of 5 minutes in the middle of the night. Geez - I have heard worse in hotels and for a lot longer. Kids screaming, adults yelling, doors slamming, kids running, people out in the pools at 1am. I wouldn't jump out of bed the second the baby wakes up and completely mess up a good routine. I would give it 5min and see what happens. If she doesn't go back to sleep, have DH try and rock her back to sleep or even offer a bottle full of water. She may need a little soothing but there is no need to shove a **** in the kids face just to get them to stop crying.

Just an opinion though......