, but stop thinking about my number and try to enjoy life.
and here we all are complaining that it has been slow...
Seriously, I NEED this board every day. It it truly one of the key elements to my being successful!
I've not been successful this week. Apparently, I'm just coming here for fun, while I EAT! I think I'm gonna pull a HK and stop worrying about it till after VayK. Well, not go hog wild and gain 12 lbs
You should be very proud of yourselfGood morning! I couldn't get on the DIS all last night! It was sad.
So I have a question...
I was talking to my very good friend (went with me to WDW in Jan, going with me to Vegas) about my trip in March to WDW. I mentioned that I needed to buy new shorts and she said "Well, it's not like your old ones are going to fall off you."
Excuse me? I think they are! After 37 lbs, I need and deserve new shorts! Also, I plan on being down more like 50lbs by the end of March when we leave. But that's not the point. The point is, I have lost weight and it's visible and I'm in some smaller clothes. Now, why would she say this to me? Even if you're thinking "Okay, fat-***, you're not getting skinny" you just nod your head, right???
How would you handle this?
37 lbs is no laughing matter. Think about how hard you worked to get this far, plus you have a goal and that is what is is all about. 
You should reward yourself. 
Keep up the great just and come to us for support, we all know the up's and downs with losing.
So, my knee is still a mess so I couldn't go to the gym again. I have decided to wait until Monday before I go back. I am worried aboiut making it worse. I found some leftover antiflammatory pills that I took when I injured my knee before. I am going to take them all weekend and see if it helps. I feel like an idiot going to the doctor for this since I had an MRI on the same knee when I injured it before and there really wasn't anything significant. Just a very deep bruise over the bone. I don't understand that since I didn't bang it or fall; it started hurting from the running. Who knows...It is really discouraging though.
Yes Paula...it HAS to be doing something! (Can you tell this is what I keep telling myself??
Wow, Liz--this is a tough one! First, GOOD FOR YOU that YOU know that this is a huge accomplishment! You are under 200! GO YOU! And of course you totally NEED and DESERVE new shorts for your new self!
Here is my guess (putting on my Behaviorist hat....)--she is very aware that you are actively doing things for improve yourself. And sometimes this is hard for those who are close to us. Whether consious or not, she knows that YOU are doing something to improve yourself and SHE is not actively working on whatever her issue is. (It may or may not be weight-related...maybe she drinks too often, or maybe she spends more than she should, or smokes, or doesn't keep her house clean or isn't a hands-on parents...or SOMETHING.) No one is perfect...and when we see someone close to us who is WORKING on their imperfections, it stands out as a glaring sign that we are not working on OUR imperfections. Thus, it comes out with nasty comments or in other passive aggressive ways.
My second thought on this is somewhat similar. Even though she is a good friend of yours, she likely feels that she is (at least) superior to you in one way....weight. She can think in her head..."Well, Liz is a more involved parent than I am, has a better relationship than I do, has a better job [whatever the situation] but at least I am thinner than she is..." Well, now you are taking that one element of superiority away from her and she feels it (again, maybe subconsciously, maybe in full awareness).
Finally, if she DOES have a weight issue...well, then it is plain ol' jealousy pure and simple. You are dealing with your weight issue and she is not.
As for how to handle it...at this point, I would let it go for a bit and see how it plays out. As I just said above, it sounds like (to me) YOUR weight loss is bringing out HER issues...for whatever reason. Yes, she should be supportive--especially if she is a good friend. But there is a reason she is having a hard time being so. See if you can think about why that might be.
So I guess my very long-winded advice here
Thanks everyone for the warm welcome. I see I'm going to have to keep up with this thread on a daily basis! You all are great!!
Now I'm off to catch up on what I missed!!
Glad you are 
Atleast your having fun with friends.I've not been successful this week. Apparently, I'm just coming here for fun, while I EAT! I think I'm gonna pull a HK and stop worrying about it till after VayK. Well, not go hog wild and gain 12 lbs
I've not been successful this week. Apparently, I'm just coming here for fun, while I EAT! I think I'm gonna pull a HK and stop worrying about it till after VayK. Well, not go hog wild and gain 12 lbs
Yeah...
Yup, try NOT to do the 12 lb thing!!
I don't know. This is how people get thru life. Some step up, and those that don't have to, don't. Obviously your not gonna change your ex, but your son is still moldable. I'd get with the school teachers and maybe have a plan of action where you're not the bad guy all the time. They can take away privelidges when responsibilites are not met and then he'll get the same at home. Last year, teacher and I had to get together and the teacher had a long serious talk with DD about the fact that if she didn't step up, she would be held back. And she "heard" the teacher, even tho I had been saying that for months.
Is something like that available to you? 
well....he should have read it before he signed it! I can so sympathize with your plight. One of my very dearest friends is having the same issues with her 14 y.o. And now, he has to go to "Saturday school" and is missing some events that he was really looking forward to because if it. Hopefully something will make the right impression on these kids!
I too had some computer glitches but more than that...family turmoil that has been really hard to deal with.
My youngest son Baylor, is really struggling in school and I have asked his Dad to be supportive in the process of catching him up and holding him accountable for his homework.
I am not sure what to do and am asking for some advice from anyone...
How do I help a 12 year old be accountable when the 38 year old denies knowledge of the problem. Last night I literally sat with Baylor, his Dad and myself on a kitchen table...explained step by step what was missing for homework and needing to be accomlished ....5 pieces...wrote them down with spaces to mark down when it was accomplished...and guess what...
1 of the 5 was done this morning...38 year old denies seeing me write the chart or knowing that math was one of the things he had to get done!
Now I know we were all at the same table...I heard my out loud voice...made sure Dad was paying attention by saying..."Please put the mail down so I know you are listening to this..." etc.
So what did I do this morning....kept the 12 year old home for 1 1/2 hours...got those things done...sent him to school late with an unexcused absence due to the fact that he had no reason to choose to be late...(I spoke w/ counseling office...Baylor will get detention but they agreed it was the right thing since his class this morning that he missed....they had a "Fun day" and were watching Harry Potter and his time needed to be on schoolwork.)
Here is the dillema....my whole marriage to him...I did 90% of the raising of the kids and dealt with all of life...bills...cooking...trip planning...cleaning....schoolwork...etc...
My counselor and everyone else says the same thing...I am a control person and although I was stressed and looney most days...when did I ever let their Dad take responsibility...so if he didn't want to do it...I would pick up the slack when he quit or simply didn't do something.
I agree...and now...we are divorcing...he will be their sole parent on some days and I walk away from stuff that isn't mine to deal with. I do not worry about his stuff...it is not mine...and some big things have not been dealt with..his business taxes form 2006 for example...because I am tired of being the one just expected to do stuff...he needs to become self-sufficient.
But.....that said....how do I not throttle him when it comes to our kids...how do I not hold him accountable for his role in their lives in the not so fun things...how do I help Baylor know that just because his Dad flips out and throws his hands up and walks away when he gets overwhelmed...he can't do the same....because that is exactly what he does and that is exactly who he saw it from.
I am a survivor...I will throw a pitty party and then move on and figure out ways to make it happen...their Dad...says "its worthless to try...why bother nothing will change..etc" and it is hard to not understand why Baylor is feeling not only overwhelmed by his deluge of homework and behind material...but not like it is worth it to accomplish it and get some credit versus none.
I am going to try to get a chart with Baylor this weekend together to offer positive incentives for him finishing daily homework and weekly homework..nothing expensive...playing games...etc...
Other than that..do you guys have any great ideas???
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Dawn - keep doing what you are doing.... you will be teaching your children how to survive and what better lesson can there be... Enlist the school, your other kids, whoever you need to help get Baylor back on track... heck - I'll come out there if you need me... Whatever you do, don't give up.... the little guy is going to need you...
Have some faith... I was one of those kids who didn't want to do homework, coasted through school, had the guidance counselors convinced I wasn't going to make it through college and I surprised them all. Mostly because my mother never gave up on me and taught me about how to survive... we are with you...
Get better soon.... I'm praying for you....
Jodi - keep us posted...
Paula
We'll all be here when you get better! (Given Dawn's amazing sense of humor, I am confident she knows to take this in the right spirit....)Geez...the things some people will do to lose 7 pounds in one day...
... Jodi
and the best way to do that is hit the gym. I feel like whining... "But I don't wanna go to the gym...I wanna stay in my lounge pants on the couch with a cup of cocoa and a novel!"
...it took us that long to be able to financially afford a decent place for him to be and a decent enough place for my kids to be when they are with him most importantly and our house mortgage...
Had urine work done last night and left ....waiting to hear back results...not in the mood to be in the hospital so I did not want to have them encourage me to go so I peed and ran...they will run lab work and let me know best antibiotic to use...write more later...I am going to be fine...I promise!
By the way...Jodi's interaction with Chad is typical...why should he get out of bed to find out if I am dead or alive...you have no idea how many times I would be on the bathroom floor crying and needing to go to the hospital and he would refuse to get out of bed or be furious for me needing treatment in the middle of the night...like I could control it...
Since we seperated...I sleep on a couch most of the time...once in a while I get our old bedroom and he takes the couch...he is moving out in April
I just didn't want people getting the idea that we were back together...we are not... unfortunatley sharing the same residence and living in 2 seperate worlds....I would not reccomend this to anyone...but for my kids...it was the best solution because their father living in a van down by the river showed no respect for their father from me and I have to live with myself even after the divorce is over.
I didn't mean to dump all of this but when I read Jodi's post I knew some of you might wonder....why is Chad at Dawn's house...is their love in the air??? That would be a fat no...
You all can rest assured...there is no rekindling going on...if I were to make a fire...it would be only to shove him in most of the time!!
Ok Body Board Babes--I am in need of some serious motivation this morning! I need to go to the gym, but it is the last thing I want to do! I am tired and cranky!
But last night was not great in terms of food. I didn't do anything terrible, but I just ate too much...all food that was allowed...just too much, I think. I snacked A LOT. At least it wasn't on cookies, chips, and other junk.
And I had one drink...a rum and caffeine free diet coke. This was my first cocktail since starting on January 7th. And I just caved...no real reason...just did it. So I feel the need to repent for my sins...
I am sure that some of this is weather related. We are on day 5 of snow...it has just been gross here for days...and will be today and tomorrow, too. Some reports of sun on Monday.
Thanks for letting me rant...
. I hope that you feel better soon. And if you need me to come beat that big meanie up, well, MN isn't THAT far away!! I am sure we can get a posse going... I am leaving on Feb. 23 for a week to Fort Meyers Beach FL. with my girls and about 70 local people from my small town. That part is ok, the swim suit not so ok. There is just not a suit out there that makes my body look even a little good . Believe me I have tried all kinds, from Lane Bryant, JC Penny's, Kohls, and Target. They either ride up the butt giving me the not so sexy thong look pull down on the ****s making them sag even farther south. and don't even get me started on the little skirts. They just accent my dibbles on my thighs, plus the little tops you wear with them does not stay down so my puchie belly hangs out. NOT COOL
... I just wanted to cry this morning looking in the long mirror. I think the neck to toe moomoo is my choice
