In Search of My Body - Not the One I Ate, VOL 7! Princesses? Nope, just us Goddesses!

[goofyfan-12]

Kelly - a new gym! How exciting!!!! I so want a full report on how things go. Walk proud in there and don't let the muscleheads scare you. They are generally nice guys.

Dawn - be strong. Other people's problems aren't yours so don't choose to make them yours. Listen to the great advice you are getting from people here. They speak the truth.

Cathie - Don't hide from the board. In a lot of ways this board is a way of facing the brutal truths that you don't want to deal with but need to. One of the things with this group is owning your actions and if you are ever going to control your life and subsequently your weight, you need to face the truths and find a way to deal with them. Hiding won't cut it. Yes, it is hard and yes, there will be times where it is outright painful, but the results are totally worth it.

Lisa - so loving your rapid fire posting.

Erika - total goddess for taking your MIL on your flights. Goddess!!!!

Ronda - glad to hear the progressive dinner went well. Sounds yummy and fun.

Hope everyone else is doing well. Off to second guess my outfit now...

 

[DisneyGalUK]

Kelly - a new gym! How exciting!!!! I so want a full report on how things go. Walk proud in there and don't let the muscleheads scare you. They are generally nice guys.

The muscleheads are what I was most worried about - like they'll look at me and think 'yeah, right!'
Im looking forward to it though, I think the gym will be really good for me!

As promised, a few Pink Ladies photos (only a few though, I did not take a good picture that night!)

Me and my two Pink Ladies:

Me and my best friend:

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Kelly - Love the pink lady pics!!!!

Dawn - your kids are so beautiful. And Treynor is gorgous- he is your son, have to remember that! (please! you know you all were thinking it)

 

[AKASnowWhite]

I am kind of like a duck swimming on a pond. Calm and cool image above water, but below my feet are kicking like mad trying to keep everything going.

That is my life right now. Exactly. Nothing bad, just the usual seasonal insanity here. I'm just trying to keep my head above water right now. Columbus Day is my first target date - things will slow a tad after then. Missing you all....

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Aside for the obvious reasons, I don’t want her with me because (1) my girls have no clue right now that there are people who are afraid to fly. It isn’t in their frame of reference to even think that anyone WOULD be afraid. So I really don’t want them exposed to this; (2) I had a really nice day planned with just me and my girls. Pedicures before leaving, lunch at the airport once we’re checked in, and so on. Just the three of us. Now all of that is out. Not to mention the surprise of the trip. (They know we are going, but I told them we fly out on Sunday and we really go on Friday. MIL is arriving Thursday night…because she can’t deal with driving over Friday morning even though there is plenty of time. So now I am going to have to figure something out. I don’t care about the surprise all that much since I have surprised them several times. The main thing is that I need them to get a good night’s sleep. If they are too excited to sleep, then traveling will NOT be fun for any of us.)

ok. MIL may muck up your plans for pedi's and lunch (and Lord knows how much you and the girls have earned THOSE things...)....but is there any way at all you can simply insist that if she MUST come Thursday evening, that she MUST wait until after the kids are asleep? You've bent on so many things here - any way you and J can just lay it out there for her and tell her that the kids absolutely without question need there sleep, so if she can't possibly wait until morning to arrive, that the least she can do is let the girls get to sleep before invading your personal space?

And heaven points? Yeah. You'll have plenty to spare after this episode....

 

[3DisneyKids]

Nancy--miss you, too! Seriously, I haven't spewed tea at my computer once this week!

Ok, so 5th grade is going to turn me into a raging alcoholic. Because, according to Riley, even though Jeff and I both hold graduate degrees and are ivy league educated, we are NOT smarter than a 5th grader....

 

[3DisneyKids]

Nancy--she won't come after bedtime because she won't drive at night. Natch.

But I decided earlier today that I am going to ask that she sleep at her other son's house (1 mile down the road from us) on Thursday. Even without the surprise issue, I am going to be CRAZY on Thursday getting all of the last minute things done, stuff packed, cleaning out the fridge of perishables and on and on. We will be gone for 10 days total, so there is just a lot to do before getting a family of 5 out the door (as all of you know so well). It would be so much easier if I could just pick her up there on my way to the airport.

In about an hour I am going to call her. Wish me luck! I'll report back.

 

[Dizneydawn]

Kelly - great news on the gym and it is even better knews that you have a doc who cares enough not just to go for the knife as first choice!

Nancy - hope things slow down and I understand completely!

Lyz - Treyner is a cutie - I am too aware. You won't insult me. It's way better of a curse than saying - Man your kid is ugly!

One of my best friends is sad he is not currently pursuing a career in firefighting because she has a friend who does the local Minneapolis firefighter calender and thought she could get a finder fee for Treyner. I just shook my head at her!

I just got these pics via him this weekend from his first weekend road trip in college - to Vegas. I posted a few of them.

I will say once you get past all the cutie hoochies he's around (I know they may be very nice but jeesh it's still hard as a mom at times!) - I looked close and he was drinking water in every pick! For now anyway...he has too much to lose if he gets caught drinking underage. Are you ready for your oldest to be hittin the Vegas strip in a few years? UGH! I felt old!

Baylor and he look a lot alike actually - different chin structure but this pic was taken at a grad party this summer and I think it shows the similarities! Maybe it's easier for me because I know what Treyner ooked like at that same age.

I ate very well today and am off to try and get a great night sleep!

Paula - I too want to see pics of the big shin dig!

For those with kids, do you see them resembling you or your spouse? I never used to think our kids look anything like either of us (thank gosh) but in one pic of Baylor recently - he was my double when I was thin and had a short hair cut in the 90's.

 

[adsrtw]

Liz - I'm sending cyber hugs your way. If you need to vent, let me know. It meant the world to me when you were there for me a few weeks ago.

Lyz - Yes, the dress has to be altered. The good news is that my aunt has a seamstress friend who only needs a week notice.

Ronda - your neighborhood shindig sounds awesome! Very cool.

Paula - OMG! You shopping fiend! I love it. Great deals. We will need pictures, missy! Power shopping counts for something.

Lisa - Hair is finished, finally. I will send a pic to my photobucket tonight, I hope.

Dawn

Cathie - Hang in there too. It's easy to slip into the negative, just don't let it consume you.

E - Word on the bio dad vs real dad deal. I'm a firm believer that chromosomes don't have to be shared to be a family. Oh, and I finally figured out how to help you with your MIL trip. Oh no, not the gold halo I promised! Valium! That will do it (for her, not you).

Kelly - glad you have a solution to your back issues!

Nancy - I hope you find your sanity again. Columbus Day isn't very far off!

 

[AKASnowWhite]

In about an hour I am going to call her. Wish me luck! I'll report back.

Yes! Good luck! If you make this whole issue not about her, or you, but the kids hopefully she'll understand!




ummm....Dawn? good luck. That's all I'm sayin'

 

[Dizneydawn]

ummm....Dawn? good luck. That's all I'm sayin'

I am telling ya - I knew in my head he was at college and I knew he would be off doing things I am not a part of anymore but it is weird and a part of the letting go process seeing him in an "adult" town having adult moments.

The pics were just kids having a great time - no differnet then we have of us with our friends, but ugh., it was a visual reality/reminder that he is really off on his own. Things have changed. We still talk almost daily about all the same stuff, he still needs things from me and wants my help on things, but he is his own entity now. I am glad cause I would rather have that then him home every weekend never moving on.

Truthfully, I was a Mom at 19 he will not be a Dad at 19 so he is off to an easier adulthood than I had. I am glad he has a chance to experience the fun of college and things I did not get to do at his age and all I can pray is he has his witts about him to be smart in and out if the classroom and make good decesions most of the time. I am not stupid enough to expect all of the time.

The luck I need is with the girls and the hope is he makes sure he chooses one that meets all his criteria - not just settle for hot. He hasn't in the past and though we all know temptation is out there for both genders, I never had people throwing themselves at me to know what is like to turn down advances from random people. Then again I was married at 19!



I just hope he finds one that is good to him and he to her. Oh yeah - and she has to like Disney! That is not optional!

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

ummm....Dawn? good luck. That's all I'm sayin'

No kidding. See all those hot girls. Oh, I'll be so sick when it's my girls.

EriKa - Riley thinks you don't know everything . It's like he doesn't even know you. It's going to get so much worse.

 

[AKASnowWhite]

No kidding. See all those hot girls. Oh, I'll be so sick when it's my girls.

EXACTLY!

EriKa - Riley thinks you don't know everything . It's like he doesn't even know you. It's going to get so much worse.

honey, you've forgotten more than his little brain knows yet. Of course, if you try to tell him that, he'll probably tell you you're old and have alzheimers.....

 

[goofyfan-12]

Hey gang...

Nancy - please take care of yourself. Hope things calm down soon.

Dawn - you have my sympathies for Treynor's college days. I know what I went through and it took a little while before I realized what I could tell my folks and what they just plain didn't want to know about. He is a good kid and will do the right thing. Trust him on that one.

Erika - great idea for your MIL sleeping at your BIL's house. Brilliant!

To all who want pics, I will do my best to get some photos for you all. Still stressing about this trip, but it will be fine once I get there.

OK - off to bed. Jesse worked me hard tonight and I met a friend at Starbucks afterwards. Needless to say, I am exhausted.

G'night...

 

[Dizneydawn]

Morning.

Yes again I am awake in the middle of the friggin morning. This time, dreaming of buying plane tickets before they go up in price. Liad down before 9p.m. and no TV - straight to bed and after being up since 3am yesterday morning, ya think being 1am I would be tired but once I am up, I have always been stewed trying to get back to bed.

One thing you all have to understand about Treyner and the girl situation - is that this, is not knew for me.

We were walking in a mall a few summers ago (I may have wrote about this before) and stopped at a sunglass shop. There was a line of about 8 girls comming at us and the first one stopped staring right at him and caused a collision. Blamo - 2 ended up on their keester. He helped them up and said hi and it was like watching someone watch a movie star the way they stared.

I remember at that moment thinking, so it's now more than me who thinks he is cute cause ya know everyone thinks their kid is cute. He was so embarrased and knew what had happened and I asked him what it was like being him cause noone ever fell over walking past me. That day was when I had my coming to Jesus moment about the girls in his future.

My cousin plays AAA baseball for the Giants and is in his mid 20's. He talks with Treyner a lot and has many girls who have chased him down due to his athlete status and he is cute too. He told Treyner that a moment in bed with someone for not the right reasons is easy - being a father and raising a child with someone you had no feelings for or were not commited to - is hard. He has a few teammates with groupie's for mothers to their kids.

So is he listening? I don't know. The fact we are only 19 years apart helps a lot sometimes because he usually thinks I have a clue. Of all the things I know nothing about is sports and he calls me for advice on the whole staying going piece of that all the time!

The problem is whether when the moment counts he does the right thing. Paula - I agree that he is a good kid and probably will most times. All I can do is sit back, hope he talks when he needs to and there is where I need to end my responsibility. He is a big boy now and he will carry his choices just like I had to both in the good and the bad.

Lyz - You have me cracking up! Have you looked into convents yet? How will Bob be when the girls get older?

Nancy - Alzhemer's! True said on that but for me the one who thinks I know nothing is Carsyn! Cause how could I, when she knows everything!

Paula - I can't imagine you doing anything so wild your parents were not ready to hear about.

Tell us more cause I always think of you from birth so organized and careful and grown up! Not a crazy college kid! Maybe cause I know how hard your studies must have been!

 

[adsrtw]

Alzheimer's! OMG! Yes, he will. I'm right with you having a son thinking I know squat.

Good Morning Everybody!

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Good morning!

The trees here are simply bursting with color. Foliage season is nearing it's peak! I'm going to take advantage of the fabulous scenary this morning and go for a bike ride before work!

Dawn - sorry for the insomnia!

E- how'd the phone call go over?

Hope everyone has a great Friday!

 

[3DisneyKids]

YES!!! MIL is staying with my BIL the night before we leave! Phew! One thing less to deal with. And I have to give her credit, she was FINE with it. Not a problem and she understood my reasoning and agreed.

I also brought up her fear of flying and asked if she needed Xanax. Yup, I put it right out there. She said that she has flown both ways--medicated and unmedicated--and the she never noticed a difference so she would be flying without Xanax. But without my prompting, she made it clear that she was going to try very hard to hide her fear from the girls. Really, that is the most I can ask of her, right? So at least she is trying to be good.

Of course, she also launched into 15 questions about what she could carry on with her (we have had this discussion 4 times now) and what bag she should bring and would I be able to carry her shoulder bag so that her hands could be free and on and on.

 

[Dizneydawn]

Good Morning Round 2 - I am glad to say after 3:50 am I think I fell asleep. If Dan comes home tom night and I sleep just fine - it will be utterly pathetic that him being gone has caused all this. At the same time I almost hope it is the cure. Tonight - tylenol PM.


Frost here this morning and snow for the weekend with highs expected only about 35-40. The leaves here are only starting to change and they will probably fall off before they are fully beautiful! Nancy - enjoy the ride!

E - I went back and read your MIL story again and you are in my prayers this weekend! Your Mom sounds so cool - like being raised by a female Indiana Jones! Is she tiny like you? Do you facially resemble her? I am trying to picture you her age and in my mind I have you just in a bit older shell!

 

[Dizneydawn]

E - My sister Laura is an old soul as well but nicer about praise etc. than your MIL. Over worried and just cannot cope with anything.

One night she had stayed over at my other sister's house to watch Skyler overnight. I talked with her the next morning and she was waiting for my mom to get there so she could shower.



I asked why and she said, "well cause I can't shower with Skyler here by myself, I don't know how."

Yes she is 33 and has never had kids but I can never imagine having to ask someone to come over to watch a 20 month old so I could shower.

Same thing at games - 10 calls confirming what field, 4 upon arrival asking where we are sitting, what we are wearing and 3 upon sitting asking if everyone has everything cause she has extra hats, mittens, scarves.

"Laura, it is July."

Was she overparanoid when she was a younger Mom? How stressfull would that be for her kids!

I am glad she agreed to the stay and I am glad she seems to be aware her fears can coontaminate the girls. Now here's hoping she can keep herself contained.