SeptemberGirl
More drink, less run since 2008
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Lisa, I totally agree about big houses.
I mean, you need to fit your family, right? I have ONE kid. There's only 3 of us. We don't need a five bedroom house. But of you have 18 kids, you do need a big house!
For me, like you said, it means we can get away from each other - as any parent knows, there is no such thing as getting away from your kids in your house. It doesn't matter how big it is! But your spouse? Well, you can get away from them. And that's not always good. Leave for the weekend, yes. Avoid each other every day? No.
I don't resent people who have one child and 7,000 square feet, because I don't want to BE them. I just want my second bathroom so I don't have to hold it while my four year old reads books on the potty. And one day, a bigger kitchen because we entertain a lot and that's where everyone is. ALL THE TIME. (Why does everyone always hang out in the kitchen? WHY?)
But truly, we have more space than we need. So when people...express their personal opinion on my house size, it's funny to me. Like, what should I be in? A McMansion?
Jodi and Greg have the same house we do. There are minor differences, like our downstairs space, how it's divided, but it's basically the same house. Three bedrooms, two people. So this will be fine when the baby comes! But she has always said they have too much space. So we laugh now and wonder if they're going to wish they had more space once those toys arrive! OMG, in the toddler years I would have annexed the toys if I could have!
You buy the house that's right for you, that you can afford. If you want to have tons of space, go for it! It's just not me. Again, I'd take lottery winnings and finish the fing bathroom and gut the 1957 pink one, and make the kitchen slightly bigger for the 36 odd people who NEVER LEAVE IT. But I don't ever see me moving to an Orange County mansion. All I want is a place to pee and to go to Disney once a year. Not too much to ask, right?
Oh. And have you ever noticed that the people who have the best kitchens never entertain? It kills me. They could fit a stadium of people in them and they have party anxiety. Oh, the humanity.
I mean, you need to fit your family, right? I have ONE kid. There's only 3 of us. We don't need a five bedroom house. But of you have 18 kids, you do need a big house!
For me, like you said, it means we can get away from each other - as any parent knows, there is no such thing as getting away from your kids in your house. It doesn't matter how big it is! But your spouse? Well, you can get away from them. And that's not always good. Leave for the weekend, yes. Avoid each other every day? No.
I don't resent people who have one child and 7,000 square feet, because I don't want to BE them. I just want my second bathroom so I don't have to hold it while my four year old reads books on the potty. And one day, a bigger kitchen because we entertain a lot and that's where everyone is. ALL THE TIME. (Why does everyone always hang out in the kitchen? WHY?)
But truly, we have more space than we need. So when people...express their personal opinion on my house size, it's funny to me. Like, what should I be in? A McMansion?
Jodi and Greg have the same house we do. There are minor differences, like our downstairs space, how it's divided, but it's basically the same house. Three bedrooms, two people. So this will be fine when the baby comes! But she has always said they have too much space. So we laugh now and wonder if they're going to wish they had more space once those toys arrive! OMG, in the toddler years I would have annexed the toys if I could have!
You buy the house that's right for you, that you can afford. If you want to have tons of space, go for it! It's just not me. Again, I'd take lottery winnings and finish the fing bathroom and gut the 1957 pink one, and make the kitchen slightly bigger for the 36 odd people who NEVER LEAVE IT. But I don't ever see me moving to an Orange County mansion. All I want is a place to pee and to go to Disney once a year. Not too much to ask, right?

Oh. And have you ever noticed that the people who have the best kitchens never entertain? It kills me. They could fit a stadium of people in them and they have party anxiety. Oh, the humanity.