Thanks Paula!! Okay warning, rant ahead...
Yeah, once I am frustrated I am likely done too. If they promoted me the way they should have, though, I might consider it, I guess However, the trust and like I had for them has started to ebb, and the conditions outside my team continue to remain awful (and always have, really). It was only thinking that they liked me and felt I was a contributer that kept me here. Not that I didn't get that "said" on my review, but the 3 out of 5 and the lack of communication of the issues that dragged it down BEFORE the review are really what are getting to me.
Also, I talked to someone else here on another team that knows me fairly well, and he was appalled that I got a 3. He thought my boss liked me too, and he has never gotten less than a 4 even though he and I have a lot the same style (the tell it like it is, upfront thing) and has been docked on a few of the same issues that I was.
I think of of the problems is that my boss works 7:30AM-7:30PM+ every day, plus the night and weekend stuff that we all deal with. That makes his baseline performance probably a bit skewed. Put in 10 hours a day + the night/weekend stuff, and you aren't a 4 compared to him I guess. But that is an unrealistic expectation.
I also think that he feels that 100% of your workday should be 110% focused on work and nothing else. I am a "burst" worker... get a TON of stuff done in a short amount of time, and then screw around for a while, wander, etc. I am also very responsible and will stay and get things done, and answer the phone at 3AM, and follow up almost all of the time (everyone makes mistake and forgets things, of course, but I am probably a 98% hit rate).
I have four requirements for something new... 1) pays more, 2) more responsibility or at least the possibility of that happening in the next 2 years, and 3) closer to home, and 4) Flexibility on telecommute, hours, etc. Any one of of the first two being really high (like, lead position, 20K more) would make me jump for sure, of course!!