In Search of my Body...Not The One I Ate.. #4 "Inspiring Others... 1 Tiara at a Time"

[lisaviolet]

Nancy - hey - is hip hop day?

 

[lisaviolet]

Ohhh..but goats are SO easy. and cute. Definitely cute.
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Don't forget yummy.

I swear one day that cuteness is going to push me to be a vegetarian.

 

[HockeyKat]

Kat, glad to hear that calorie intake was not the norm for you. Too little is just as bad as too much. I know it sounds funny but it is all too true. I try to keep a Fiber One bar or the like in my purse, more than one usually because my kids raid them. Anyway, that way, I have something when I realize I am hungry that will fill me up in a good nutritional way instead of grabbing something that I shouldn't.
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As for me, yesterday was my official last day of bad eating. We ate out every meal...I just cannot handle that any more. On the up side, I did obsessively weigh myself this morning out of curiosity (or not) and I was down a half a pound. It must have been the blueberry beer.... I also did not exercise. Saturday is my traditional day of total rest or laundry however you want to look at it. I figure I deserve one day a week with no exercise. Today I am supposed to log 9 miles but I don't see that happening either. Shelby has field hockey and has to goalie 2 teams which takes most of the day. Yesterday was a mini swim meet for David. I am so proud of my little man. He did all four strokes (free, back, flye and breast) and stuck it out the entire length of the pool. He is doing really well and he has a kick butt back stroke!! Shelby also attended her cousins gymnastics meet yesterday and decided to go back on Monday. Yay, another $120 a month for eternity.... There goes the WDW trip... Anyway, today is better eating, some exercise even if not the entire 9 miles and hopefully some results by Friday!!

Yup. Part of the good thing about tracking is you can go, holy crap, that is all I ate? I have a tendency to swing in 110% extremes, either eat EVEYTHING in my path or nothing. I like to type it all out at about 5-6PM and go, okay, eat a snack already!!

Sounds like some active children! That is totally a good thing.

I have to pay my hockey fee tomorrow night for the 2nd half of the season, plus the tourny fee for Feb, so I feel your pain.

Hey Kat!

I was just teasing about the not loving food - there are those strange people in the world. I was sure you weren't one of them. I've heard food stories from you. They usually have me salivating - especially Mexican.

I now understand about the totals. Gotcha.

Breakfast - just curiious - I know a lot of people who can't stomach breakfast. Me - I can eat supper foods for breakfast. After I came home from Japan I can eat just about anything in the morning. Are you rushed or It's not your thing? That's a great goal - eating it. It does make a difference.

Okay - thanks for clarifying your tracking. I was getting a tad motherly.

Hee hee. I know. It sounded really bad yesterday. Probably because circumstances made me pretty much skip lunch! I also had a 70 cal wee piece of chocolate as well as my pt of beer and popcorn, so I was probably at more like 1100 which is much better.

And I am the opposite. I will eat breakfast foods for any meal!


Today is laundry day. Whee!!

 

[3DisneyKids]

Hi all--only have a moment to post. So will try to answer as many questions as I can.

The funk...not really a big deal...just feeling Liz right now. And needing my house back. I will be in good shape tomorrow.

The sibs...One brother in NYC, one brother upstate NY, one sister in our hometown (about half-way between NYC and the other brother upstate), and one sister in FL. And I am in Maine.

The marathon next week...will report details on that tomorrow.

Tip O' the Day...BABY STEPS. Trying to do it all at once is a recipe for failure. Most of us have been successful at least once before. We know what it feels like to be "ON." So we think about that time when we were "on" and say, "I used to eat perfectly, and track everything, and work-out 5 days a week, and do all of my water....so that is what I am going to do again."

But you can't go from 0 --> 100 in one day. Even if you know exactly what to do, and even if you did it "all" once upon a time. Start with ONE thing. Like water. For one week, just drink a minimum of 64 ozs. each day. Don't worry about food or exercise or tracking. Just water. Then the next week, track your food. Again, don't worry about eating good/bad...just get in the habit of tracking. Week three you can focus on eating the RIGHT food, and then by the next week you can SLOWLY add exercise. Don't start out with 5-6 times per week if you have not been in a regular exercise pattern. Start with 3 x 30. Or something else manageable.

You know me, I am an exercise queen. But think about when I started this. The ONLY thing I did at first was to start running with c25k. No weights, no cross-training, nothing else. After I was used to running a few times a week every week, THEN I added strength. And after that, THEN I added cross-training. I didn't just wake up and start exercising 60-120 minutes a day. And I am willing to bet that LisaV, LisaPR, and Nancy will all say the same thing.

Have loved reading everyone's stories! The PIG! Lisa! Too much.

Ok, hopefully will be on tonight to *really* catch up.

 

[3DisneyKids]

Don't forget yummy.

I swear one day that cuteness is going to push me to be a vegetarian.

Just do it! I am so glad I did. And today marks 18 years of being meat-free.

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

( OK so here is the thing... I would rather read than EXERCISE! )

You were thinking of Edward while exercising, weren't you!

But it was only 4 of us (DH, me & 2 of the kids, who, at that point would only count as 1/2 person total

Agreed!

Okay, sorry I have been so MIA. I had some trouble finding the wagon to jump back on it.

I was wondering...

So i've only been on weight watchers for 3 days and already i'm shocked by the amount of mindless eating and calories i have been ingesting. :scared1!!!

Easy to do. I'm glad you are finding the program "doable."

OKay day one of detox SUCKS!!!

Um, yep!

SO I got a BONUS tonight!
Grandma came home with Sam to get some clean clothes because she wanted to spend another night with her! And they BOYS WHINED that they wanted to go to! SO Grandma said get your stuff! I have NO KIDS and STEPH IS IN BED SLEEPING! YAY WHOO Breaking Dawn Here I come!

HAVE A GREAT NIGHT! YOu know what would top this off would be some wine!

Ohh, you did get a gift. A bonus.

Nancy - is it wrong that I like the smell of manure? It is, isn't it? It smells fresh to me.

SO wrong!

Just popping in to say good night. Seriously, I have never been so looking forward to a Monday before. I need my routine back. I will miss the kids when they go back to school, I always do. But still. I need my normal life and schedule.

OMG EriKa - this is EXACTLY how I feel.

Liz. You've been with me all day. In a funk with you.

Me too. Trying to push back my desire to not even post here, cause maybe Liz will read alittle lalala drama and get alittle amusement.

I leave for WDW in 3 weeks. Just in time to derail the wagon again...

Kat! You go off the wagon every time you leave town. Mabye you should stay home.

I thought I wanted pigs once until I had to wrestle one to the ground on the main street of my town after it tried to escape from the truck it was in on the way to the butchers. It is a story for another day, for sure.... Suffice it to say that we do NOT have pigs.

Pigs. Someone say pigs. Did you see my pictures last year Lisa?

Erika, are you still doing the HM in A WEEK???!!!! I am so excited for everyone going. Oh and that was the other thing that I wanted to say, all of you who want that Princess tiara medal, you DO NOT have to run these races. You can walk. There are many who do the full and half marathons this way. There are pacing requirements but you can do this!!! Yes you can. Give it some thought anyway, that tiara medal is very enticing. If I didn't have the CMM full a short month later, I would be there too!!!!!

Walk! Awesome. I can walk!

Amiee and Paula - missed your posts and now I can't remember what I wanted to say. I keep doing this. I'll remember.

Gotta put lunch on the table. Be back later.

 

[Dizneydawn]

Hi all...

I need advice and i may end up beating the crap out of Chad if I can't get him to listen.

Here goes...

Carsyn weighed herself and has decided she wants to make some drastic changes to her life. She is tired of hating her body (Lord do I get that) and wants to take back control.

We approached this together all day yesterday and today...really wanting to get a positive outlook on the future and on her plan. Both from the excersize standpoint and food.

Carsyn weighs roughly 175. She is 5'4 and built with tons of muscle. Her biggest problem is that she over eats. Always has. No joke at 2, climbed out of her crib to get Cheerios down at 3am. Chad and I fought about this since she was little. His menatality has always been...she needs to excersize more.

That is such cr@p it makes me want to spit. She used to be in gymnastics 12 hours a week, dance hours a week and soccer at times for 10 hours a week. Many times all three sports were at the same time but most of the year dance and gymnastics were year round. She always had a belly...always was soft. He would be home at nights...I would be gone to work...and he would let her graze...give her huge helpings at dinner.

As someone who was overweight...I sure did not want the same thing for my daughter. When she hit JR high, she started gaining more..7th grade probably about 135..8th 145...now in 10th...175. Yes she has dropped dance and gymnastics...but truthfully...I know her weight played a part in that. She also dropped soccer this year for HS because she was so out of shape. Not just because she was not as fit....but the extra pounds she was carrying was killing her. You could see it on the field this summer. She was out of breath before everyone else, she was always running behind.

I knew me pushing the subject was just going to make it worse, I offered WW which she wanted to quit, took her to see her physician for advice...but bottom line...nothing I can do will change her until she wants to change.

Today was tough love day for me with her. She wants to go to Florida with Jodi and her kids again in less than 2 months. She wants to be in better shape and healthier. She is 15 now and done getting taller. So here is what I said.

We talked about realistic weight loss goals and what that would entail. Both eating better and excersizing. She said she wanted to go to the Y for 45 minutes cardio and 30 minutes strength training. Beautiful...she has a plan for that.

Now...what about diet...and I do not mean to lose weight...I mean for a life long commtment to your body. I said what is your game plan. She said..."It is stupid to think I am going to watch what I eat...no one my age does that and Dad says if I just excersize more I do not have to."

I lost it...I was calm...but I was as in your face as I have ever been with her about food choices and I used some of you as examples.

I said..."let me tell you something...I don't give a sh!t if you are 15 or 40 or 3...if you have diabetes...you do not get to say...it is not fair...I am not going to take care of it because no one my age has to. Tough cr@p. You are 15, you are anywhere form 40-50 pounds overweight and this is where you are at because of your choices. Your Dad has never been overweight so listening to someone who is not a health expert and someone who has never had a weight problem is not the best choice in my opinion. Would you listen to a foot doctor if you needed your kitchen built or heart surgery?"

"Erika is a vegetarian who eats the right foods...but she still gained weight because she was not excersizing and eating too much of the right foods...overeating is overeating and I don't care if it grass."

"Liz lost weight through WW because she kept track of points and what she was eating to know when to stop and the amount she had been. Now she is throwing more excersize in the mix...but the majority of her 70 pound loss is do to watching the intake."

"Kat has recently gained some back and will tell you that she stopped tracking. She still played hockey...still excersized...but she stopped being accountable to herself with tracking and she knew the results immediatley."

"Paula is moving more now...but she knows if she doesn't see her Jenny Craig representative that she will need to do something else to be accountable because when you are not the scale will show you."

"So what makes you think that you are so special that God is going to make it easier for you than on any of us?"

"If you are going to do this...then do it...but don't do it half @ssed and then whine to me your clothes don't fit and you need a new wardrobe again. Because input is the only way to measure your need to know how much your output should be. You can have a burger or part of a candy bar...but account for it in your daily calories. Youknow the school menu..we will look up what is on for everyday..we can plan meals...so you will know what you can have...and we will adjust accordinly on days you want to have a treat."

Her comeback at first was...when do I have time...I said...if it is important...you will make the time...if it is not important you wont. Your choice.

Then Chad calls...I walk away to talk to him about Carsyn...hoping for support...and again..he in his wisdom and eductaed brain...explains to me that only lazy people gain weight..that if everyone just moved more than no one would need to diet. That she can eat whatever...just excersize more to loose what she ate. I said...great theory...but she is already overweight...so how can she work off extra on top of extra without making a change to her diet. Again...when have you had 50 pounds to loose? He just keeps saying...you have her do what you want when you have her...when she is with me if she chooses to use my way...she can.

UGHHHHH....I need some advice on how to deal with him..but how to help her deal with reality and him as well.

He just gives her excuses on what we all want to hear. that you can eat whatever...whenever...just move a bit more and it won't matter. Unless you are an Olympic trainer or a fit nut...that is not reality for most of us. And if you are a foodie..and turn to food...it is all about amount...no different than someone with a gambling problem or alcoholism..addiction is addiction...what put you over normal use is amount.

Sorry for rant but it has been taking up my day today and needed to vent....is there any thread on here for teens wnating to loose weight...maybe Carsyn should start one...

 

[HockeyKat]

Me too. Trying to push back my desire to not even post here, cause maybe Liz will read alittle lalala drama and get alittle amusement.



Kat! You go off the wagon every time you leave town. Mabye you should stay home.

Yup, same here on the posting. Trying to keep it light, you know?

And yes, I know. But this trip has been planned for a while. I did this same thing last year and managed to keep it to just the week away so hopefully this year can be the same...


Today I made fire chili, currently simmering in the crock pot. 2300 cals in the whole recipe, and it makes about 20 cups or so, so it will make good lunches. Nice and filling and super spicy.

 

[3DisneyKids]

Will do a full post later, just logging my exercise...

I had an awesome awesome 5-miler today! Just loved it. I think this is my new favorite distance. Feels just right. And my pace (for Amy, LisaPR, and Nancy)--was at about 10:12! (Guess who got a Garmin for Christmas? )

Ok, gotta run (but not that way! )

xoxo

 

[adsrtw]

Hey guys,

Just popping in for a moment. I hope everybody is having a great Sunday. Got a great book in last night and today (ok, ok, it was 2). Lord I am such an addict. Be back soon, gotta run to Target.

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Sorry for rant but it has been taking up my day today and needed to vent....is there any thread on here for teens wnating to loose weight...maybe Carsyn should start one...

This has been a HUGE hot topic in my life for a long time now. Because I've spent practically my entire adult life weighing, measuring, losing, gaining....and, yes, complaining....I really began to worry about what message I was sending my kids - and most importantly my daughter.

I understand your frustration. And you are right on many levels. No one can truly control what is consumed except you. (or her, as the case may be!) And at 15, I'm sure she has become painfully aware of her body. And the bigger *deal* you make out of it, the more *issue* she will have with it. It's a very, very slippery slope here. You want her to be healthy....and IMHO, that should be the ONLY angle you should take on this. She's indicated that she wants to be healthier when she goes to Florida...you can help her, but you can't force her.

Healthy food choices. Healthy exercise choices. Heathly life choices. Not just your choices, nor her choices, but family choices. While the boys may currently be fit and thin....that doesn't necessarily mean they are making healthy choices. Just because one may be able to "afford" the calories in a bacon double cheeseburger, large fries and a coke...doesn't mean those are healthy foods for them....or anyone. True quality foods give you lots per portion. It's all about chosing which ones are right...and leaving behind the ones that are not. No one wants to be singled out as "the fat kid"...so really - this should be about over-all family health, not any one single person's weight.


The best tool anyone could ever have for anything that we set out to do in life is knowledge. Give them the information they need. You can't make every decision for them, but you can keep providing info. And while you cannot control what they eat when they are not with you, you CAN control what groceries are put in your cabinets. Forget the crap. Ditch the junk food...which, trust me, I know is challenging...especially with teens...if they want it? Let them buy it themselves....with their money.

You are following the WW plan....so why not consider involving the family...read labels. Figure out what a serving size is supposed to be. Measuring out 1 cup of your favorite breakfast cereal in a bowl can be a real eye opener. We all may think we are eating "a serving" but the reality is, dishes, bowls, cups...are all bigger now than they were a generation ago. What LOOKS like a "bowl of cereal" may well be 2 bowls.

Look at a food pyramid together. How many items from each category should each member of your family be eating on a daily basis. It's different based on age, gender...and what exactly IS a "serving of bread"? You all may well find that one slice of your favorite bread is really 2 servings.

There's a new series of books out there now called "Eat this, Not that" which are kind of neat to read (not sure I'd go right out and buy it, but you could go to the bookstore and read them...)...tells you what your better of 2 options is, and why. Again - it's knowledge.

Ask yourself why are you reaching for a snack. And be truthful with yourself and share it with your family. Are you really truly hungry? Are your taste buds telling you they "want" something? Are you bored, lonely, happy, sad? Letting those around you know why you *thought* you wanted a snack, but realized you weren't hungry, just "_________" will help them to realize that perhaps they may be eating for non-fuel purposes as well. Again...another tool to make them aware of why they do the things they do.

And exercise. Regularly. Find something you like and just do it. The example you set, and success you achieve will speak many more volumes than any words you or anyone else will offer.

Good luck....

 

[SeptemberGirl]

I am reading. Every word. But you know, write what you want, including stuff like "Liz needs to get OVER it already!"

I dyed my hair and started a new skin care routine. I am not dealing in other ways, though, those are my good moves.

Dawn, you can't do a thing. Seriously. You can only do it for yourself and hope she follows. But the best advice in the world means nothing until you're ready to hear it. So do it for yourself.

Thank you, for the mentions, the shout outs. Thank you.

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

I am reading. Every word. But you know, write what you want, including stuff like "Liz needs to get OVER it already!"

What I WANT to say, it I am heartbroken for my new best friend. I am bummed out major and posting nonsense on this thread makes me sad. But none of that crap matters in the end. If nonsense helps you, then I will be the queen of nonense.

Speaking of nonense, isn't this the beginning of a new year. It's the 4th. I haven't exercised once. NOT ONE TIME.

I dyed my hair and started a new skin care routine. I am not dealing in other ways, though, those are my good moves.

Are we going to get a picture? OR at least a color. Lets bet. I'm guessing, Platinum Blond. Oh and what's the skincare routine. You know I'm a product *****.

Dawn - Nancy is on the money with Carsyn. Not much you can do but lead by example. Chad is an idiot and he isn't going to change. Espically since you want him too. I feel Carsyns pain. Well we all do. It would be awesome if she made the connection now and not still trying when she's *gasp* in her 30's.

Kat! Chili recipe.

 

[3DisneyKids]

OMG, thank God for Nancy...cause this is what I was gonna write. But I am way hammered and can't. Word.

 

[3DisneyKids]

And Liz and Kat, too.

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Speaking of nonense, isn't this the beginning of a new year. It's the 4th. I haven't exercised once. NOT ONE TIME.




Are we going to get a picture? OR at least a color. Lets bet. I'm guessing, Platinum Blond.

Or Jet Black....I'm going with that...

Liz - we do miss you terribly
Kat! Chili recipe.

Gee...didn't see THAT comin' did we Really though...please share

Did I ever tell you that I have this computer softwear where I can input a recipe and it gives me the nutrional breakdown per serving? Haven't used it in AGES however...guess it's time to dust it off and put it back to good use!

 

[AKASnowWhite]

OMG, thank God for Nancy...cause this is what I was gonna write. But I am way hammered and can't. Word.

I haven't started....yet...

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Gee...didn't see THAT comin' did we Really though...please share

Are you calling me predictible?

Did I ever tell you that I have this computer softwear where I can input a recipe and it gives me the nutrional breakdown per serving? Haven't used it in AGES however...guess it's time to dust it off and put it back to good use!

Nancy - hmmm, that's interesting.

So I am watching Alf and uploading photos to Walgreens. $.10 per pic.

 

[SeptemberGirl]

What I WANT to say, it I am heartbroken for my new best friend. I am bummed out major and posting nonsense on this thread makes me sad. But none of that crap matters in the end. If nonsense helps you, then I will be the queen of nonense.

Speaking of nonense, isn't this the beginning of a new year. It's the 4th. I haven't exercised once. NOT ONE TIME.


It ALL helps. And I will be okay, soon. I swear. I'm just stuck in a moment and I can't get out. Song lyric. Prize to whoever gets it without googling.

Are we going to get a picture? OR at least a color. Lets bet. I'm guessing, Platinum Blond. Oh and what's the skincare routine. You know I'm a product *****.

Dawn - Nancy is on the money with Carsyn. Not much you can do but lead by example. Chad is an idiot and he isn't going to change. Espically since you want him too. I feel Carsyns pain. Well we all do. It would be awesome if she made the connection now and not still trying when she's *gasp* in her 30's.

Kat! Chili recipe.

The hair color is L'Oreal Feria #67. Rich Auburn. The skin care is Neutrogena's 14 day Skin Rescue. I thought it was time for a new start, both face and hair. Weight is UP so I might as well look good in those sweatpants.

I'm liking the skin care, btw.

I'm planning on breaking up with food tomorrow. Not starving, just not in love anymore. I've been Bella, gorging on Edward's return. Now, I have to realize he's going to be around, so maybe I could see my other friends, water and exercise, too. (I'm at the end of New Moon, can you tell?)

Oh, Emily wanted to know why Mickey was so sad. I told her he lost a friend. She wanted details. Oh, my. How do I explain that Bob died?

Also, she was on Nick's computer and announced she had a shoe problem. He found her on the Cole Hahn website. Good taste, for a four year old.

Okay, pictures. Let me try to post.
Before....

After!

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Darn you and your "no google".

The hair color is L'Oreal Feria #67. Rich Auburn. The skin care is Neutrogena's 14 day Skin Rescue. I thought it was time for a new start, both face and hair. Weight is UP so I might as well look good in those sweatpants.

The hair. ha-cha-cha-cha! Looks great! Firery.

In other news, I'm really focusing on skin care and products right now too. Could be the new year too.

I'm liking the skin care, btw.

I'm planning on breaking up with food tomorrow. Not starving, just not in love anymore. I've been Bella, gorging on Edward's return. Now, I have to realize he's going to be around, so maybe I could see my other friends, water and exercise, too. (I'm at the end of New Moon, can you tell?)

So, I love you for so many reasons. This paragraph made total sense to me!

Oh, Emily wanted to know why Mickey was so sad. I told her he lost a friend. She wanted details. Oh, my. How do I explain that Bob died?

I'm sorry. She shouldn't know why Mickey is Sad. My signatures are turned off, so I don't really need it anymore.

Also, she was on Nick's computer and announced she had a shoe problem. He found her on the Cole Hahn website. Good taste, for a four year old.

HI Lar IOUS! I guess it's in her DNA!

Twilight, I am still dreaming about this book. And I'm done reading. Last night I had trouble sleeping cause I worked in the nursery at church this morning. I couldn't be late. Needed to get up on time. Tossed and turned all night. And I was in and out of reality. I kept thinking, "it's ok, cause I can survive without "human" blood." (Is noone else dreaming in vampire? Cause I've mentioned it a FEW times and not one of you has validated me!)