In Search of my Body...Not The One I ate...#3 "Crowning Goddesses As We Go"

[3DisneyKids]

Happy Monday!

So yesterday was less than fun and basically I hate my in-laws. All of them. No purple pant suit this year, but they did give me cookies! Yes. A box of cookies. She put them in a little basket and wrapped them up in a new dish towel. And that was it from my MIL/FIL. And of course they know that I have been working on my weight. Idiots.

What was FAR worse, though, was poor Kel. Today is her 6th birthday, btw. So in Maine, it is fairly common for many people to have "snow sticks" in their yards. It is like this tall measuring stick thing that you stick in the ground so that you can see how much snow there is out there. THIS is what they gave Kelly! And yes, that was her WHOLE gift from them. At 6. Do you understand my hatred?

I have to say, though, I was so so proud of her. She totally handled it appropriately. And only when we got in the car headed for home did she start to cry. That poor baby.

And listen, yes--I KNOW that it is not all about gifts and material possessions, etc. I get the whole giving thing. And the fact that the real gifts in life aren't tangible and can't be wrapped...blah, blah, blah. But she is 6 and it is her birthday.

And the reality is that if I thought that this gift (or what they gave me for that matter) came from the heart and had some thought and care into it, then I would be totally fine. I don't give a rip how much a person does or doesn't spend on a gift as long as there is some genuine thought and care into choosing the gift. But these were thoughtless and inappropriate.

I am actually getting all steamed up all over again, so I am going to walk away for a bit. I have more to say about my week-end, but I am seething yet again about this. So...more later.

 

[DISNEY4XMAS]

Hey gang..

Back from the game... It was awesome... the Giants won and we had great seats... 14 rows up in the endzone... I'll post pictures tomorrow... I promise...

Right now, I am getting a cup of tea and then off to bed... I am exhausted...

OK -food for the day:
B - JC cereal, banana and milk
L - sausage and peppers w/ 1/2 the roll at the game
D - Quiznos turkey sandwich

S - cup of tea and an apple..

Not my best day, but it could have been worse...

Talk to you all tomorrow and Go GIANTS!!!!

Paula

OH a FOOTBALL GAME how cool! I think I may get stephen tickets next year for the Patriots and Miami game! We are BIG Dolphins Fans... Our son is even named after one of the former player (sadly he plays for the cowboys now!) Zac Thomas!

Happy Monday!

So yesterday was less than fun and basically I hate my in-laws. All of them. No purple pant suit this year, but they did give me cookies! Yes. A box of cookies. She put them in a little basket and wrapped them up in a new dish towel. And that was it from my MIL/FIL. And of course they know that I have been working on my weight. Idiots.

What was FAR worse, though, was poor Kel. Today is her 6th birthday, btw. So in Maine, it is fairly common for many people to have "snow sticks" in their yards. It is like this tall measuring stick thing that you stick in the ground so that you can see how much snow there is out there. THIS is what they gave Kelly! And yes, that was her WHOLE gift from them. At 6. Do you understand my hatred?

I have to say, though, I was so so proud of her. She totally handled it appropriately. And only when we got in the car headed for home did she start to cry. That poor baby.

And listen, yes--I KNOW that it is not all about gifts and material possessions, etc. I get the whole giving thing. And the fact that the real gifts in life aren't tangible and can't be wrapped...blah, blah, blah. But she is 6 and it is her birthday.

And the reality is that if I thought that this gift (or what they gave me for that matter) came from the heart and had some thought and care into it, then I would be totally fine. I don't give a rip how much a person does or doesn't spend on a gift as long as there is some genuine thought and care into choosing the gift. But these were thoughtless and inappropriate.

I am actually getting all steamed up all over again, so I am going to walk away for a bit. I have more to say about my week-end, but I am seething yet again about this. So...more later.

I so totally get this and sadly... my uncle is the same way! hasn't a clue on how to buy stuff for people! I got a FArt machine one year for Christmas! I was 28 years old! And to top that off he may buy for 1 of my three kids and not the other two! Then lets see my dad gives me all these free lennox crap that he gets for ordering stuff! SO YA I TOTALLY GET IT!

 

[SeptemberGirl]

Steph - Have a great day off!

Paula - So glad you had a good time at the game!

Erika - Ok, well, I hate them, too. It's so ridiculous. Btw, I am in a hating everyone mood, so if you want to rant for an half hour, call me. Meanwhile, HAPPY BIRTHDAY KELLY!!!!

 

[AKASnowWhite]

I promise, I am not always this chipper, little miss susie sunshine first thing in the morning... I am tired this morning and for some reason starving... off to get breakfast..

I think it was all that fresh air you got yesterday at the football game. It's gone to your head and made you a little loopy!

And the reality is that if I thought that this gift (or what they gave me for that matter) came from the heart and had some thought and care into it, then I would be totally fine. I don't give a rip how much a person does or doesn't spend on a gift as long as there is some genuine thought and care into choosing the gift. But these were thoughtless and inappropriate.

I am SO sorry. These people have no clue what so ever! NO gift would have been a much better choice than...a SNOW STICK? 'Cause that there's a gift that just screams "we're thinking about you" Just give her a CARD next time, would ya?

Are they insane? I mean really. Seriously. Are they starting to get a bit senile? Or have they always been so....???...can't even imagine what Christmas is going to bring...maybe you want to suggest that they SKIP the gifts and make a donation to charity in your name instead.


I went for my run this a.m. It was a HUGE mental battle for me today...but I did it. 4.75 miles...then abs and stretching. Just had my snack and am tracking my points. I'll post food later - have to get to the grocery store today, then (yeah, can you see it comin'?) sew. I'm really close to being done - thank GOD because the play is this weekend, and the first dress rehersal is Wednesday!

 

[goofyfan-12]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KELLY!!!!!

Why is it that some people just don't get it??? I have an aunt who is the same way and she still doesn't get it... I mean she alienated her grandchildren while they were growing up to the point where they think my parents were more like grandparents to them and is now mad because they won't spend any time with her. Umm... maybe if you hadn't ignored them while they were growing up, they would have built a relationship with you then and by extension, they would actually want to spend time with you now.... just a thought...

Man, how I wish I could change people... Guess I'll have to stick to changing myself...

Paula

 

[lisaviolet]

Kat - beautiful. Your hair looks fantastic.

Hi everyone,

Well, I was checking in on my BL thread. I definitely overate this weekend. So yummy - Korean barbeque and Indian. Oh how I love them both.

Well, learned many things. One - it's okay. I feel no guilt about it. I decided years ago that I wouldn't feel that with food.

But two - and most importantly - I felt physically gross. I haven't overeaten like that in a while and it felt foreign and gross. So good lesson. It will happen again. This is life afterall but as I really become more and more conscious I will remember how much I hate the physical feeling of it.

Learning - yep - learning every single day.

 

[lisaviolet]

So yesterday I'm up at my parents and I'm laughing outloud about this thread.

I'm in the washroom and suddenly I hear Liz say "Lyz is so cute I want to put her in a basket!!!!" And started to crack up like an insane woman. So thanks for adding to my mental condition.

Also, we were watching the Giants game Paula and I was thinking about you.

Nancy - your goat story was cracking me up. And I'm sure Steph has some good breeding ones of her own - well animals I mean. Oh how I love a goat - aaah Indian, Korean and West Indian on an island and I would be so fine.

See I'm off the thread and you all infiltrate.

 

[lisaviolet]

Hey venting Liz - so want pictures of that outfit last night.

Erika - I understood every word about it's not about the price etc of gifts - it's about did you give it any thought? Did you think about the personality/life of the person you're giving it to? Ie. I could get a diamond ring, be grateful for a present, but it would feel hollow/without thought because I don't wear much/don't really enjoy jewellery. And a loved one didn't see that. They didn't see me.

We pick one name in our family for years now. They probably perceived I suggested it because of buying so much, so overwhelming. I didn't. I just felt like I was receiving all these presents that had little heart/thought in them. It felt so hollow. And it was making me sad to feel like the care wasn't there. And that has nothing to do with price at all. It's to do with heart.

When Jean and I were together we wouldn't even buy each other a birthday or Christmas present unless we had the feeling like there was something we saw that was "oh that's so Lisa or so Jean". Ie coming naturally from the heart not because of obligation.

 

[lisaviolet]

Happy Birthday Kelly

Have a wonderful day Erika.

 

[lisaviolet]

Hey,

Don't know if this is playing down there. Probably is, of course. I'm thinking outloud again. Toronto girl. Love this song and for the last month or so I've been thinking about this thread when listening to it. (Lyrics are off a tad on this YT post but oh well)

It says it all. Just like Paula said - we will all get there at some point. And of course "there" is so much more than weight.

I am so incredibly grateful. I personally have been pushing through so many blocks that I never thought I could move. As are all of us.

I am very saddened, and tired physically and emotionally and probably from death, by my friend's marriage. In that she has had to face so much. We all need to know at every single minute how beautiful we are. Everyone of us.

Thanks so much,

Lisa

Here is the link -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xiFuIPBizW4

 

[HockeyKat]

Lisa, you've touched on one of the reasons I hate the holidays. It all just seems so superficial and hollow. My in-law clan holiday turns into a who can outdo whom fest, since my BIL is very well-off and uses the occasion to lavish gifts on his not-well-off parents (which, I do understand), but it makes D try and keep up with the Joneses (which, ironically, we already are).

So, the net result is that my in-laws spend too much money that they don't have on us, rather than keeping it which is what they should do, and then mine feels bad because we can't keep up, etc. Fun times. I wish we could go to name in a hat but that never seems to work.

And this year, it is even worse because we are giving all of them a family fiasco of a WDW vacation (BIL is paying for tickets and food and we are kicking in 300 DVC points) yet I imagine we will still have to get stuff. Sigh.

And my family, is even worse because I barely even know my brother, so we exchange a bunch of hollow crap that was either previously requested, or turns into gift cards. I hate gift cards* as I think they totally go against the spirit of gift giving.

*Except in the case of, say, a new grad that is furnishing a house, or giving something to someone not a loved one like a teacher, pet-sitter, etc.

Okay, rant over.

 

[SeptemberGirl]

I love when we all jump on the bandwagon of haters! HAH! No, really, this is what friends are for - to hate the people who you hate but can't because they have to be in your life.

I did the Biggest Loser DVD I bought months ago and never did. It was okay. I probably need to do a little more intensity though. Like level 2 or 3. I wussed out. I really don't like anyone today, but a least I moved, right?

Oh, Saturday night. Okay, so this is a weird outfit, but I loved it. It was fun to wear. It's a dark wash jean, white tank top, and sleeveless vest. This is not the best picture of me, but you can see the outfit. Here you go:

 

[goofyfan-12]

It is not a weird outfit at all.... I some something similar on Victoria Beckham... she has her share of strange outfits (high heeled boots without actual heels...), but that wasn't one of them...

you look fabulous... (as always... )

Goof

Lisa - you are starting to wander into the deep end of the philosophy with me.... love that....

 

[lisaviolet]

Hey! Hey! Hey! I think I'm obsessed with Fat Albert. Don't ask. Not enough sleep.

Paula - want pics please and thank you. Nine rows? Geez I should go back and reread. Was it nine?

Kat - Rant away.

 

[lisaviolet]

:

My God Liz. This so makes me smile. You look fantastic. I keep sighing when seeing your pics. It's like there is so much to say and then I just want to take it in.

I love the outfit.

And your hair looks great. I like it. It's a tad lighter red, not from summer shade but from at the beginning of your weight loss journey.

I felt like I wanted to run to your salon. Really.

And I'm sorry - "not the best picture"- WTH? Where are you getting that?

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Lisa- we draw names too - on both sides of the family. Again - mostly because there is only so much *stuff* that any one person needs! It gets absolutely ridiculous. And when I think about the vast majority of the people in this world who are living with little to nothing to their name it makes me ILL to think of all the gluttony and waste we are participating in here.

My family has started the tradition of giving $$$ to a charity each year. Each family has a jar on the kitchen counter to throw spare change into. Then at the end of the year, we count up the cash and as a family (as in my parents, siblings, us) vote on one charity to get it all. Last year it was Heifer International. As a family, we gave something like $1200.

That has to be one of the BEST things we've ever done. For the past 2 years, Seth has had a big birthday party in the summer, inviting all his friends - and their "change". They get to put suggestions in for a charity for our family to consider....last year his friends brought almost $200 in change. (of course, none of my nieces or nephews did the same, but hey - we can't ALL be perfect, right? )

Still - my family holds on to the "name drawning" tradition as well - because it really forces us to spend time thinking about that one person that maybe we don't see very often....makes us stay "connected".

(I won't get into the whole family dynamic right now...because like you guys- mine is NOT all rosey. It's ugly. When I was younger, I used to wonder if I was switched at birth and ended up with the wrong family. Now, I'm really worried that I WASN'T switched and I actually AM related to these crazies!

I hate gift cards* as I think they totally go against the spirit of gift giving.

Totally agreed. I think the Snow Stick shows as much thought as most gift cards....just sayin'

IOkay, so this is a weird outfit, but I loved it. It was fun to wear. It's a dark wash jean, white tank top, and sleeveless vest.

You know what that outfit made me think of? The Desperate Housewives episode (a long time ago now...) where Lynette was out for drinks with her whack job boss after work - she had on a vest like that - went to the ladies room, took off her shirt, put the vest back on and was this totally sexy woman dancing on top of the bar!

umm...so did you dance on any tables?

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Hi all. Busy day. Must actually work.

Liz - look awesome! Hot momma.

EriKa - ohh, that is horrible. I agree 100%. You inlaws are idiots.
Happy Birthday Kelly! Did you make some awesome cake I'll have to see?

Christmas - yes it is full of trading money. I'm tired of it. I do like getting gift cards, but I don't like giving them. I'd like to say it's for the kids, but so many people don't have kids that it just leaves them out of the fun. It's gotten out of hand.

Kat - again. LOVING your hair.

Paula - glad you had fun at the game. Your joke about the earth on it's axis, or something like that, I think I butchered it, HI LAR IOUS! and it was classic Paula.

Nancy - glad you had fun in Bawston. Childless.

Lisa - overeating, oh my, yes, so good at the time.

Steph - certified breeder. Is that why you exercise so much?

 

[HockeyKat]

I agree with Lisa. Liz, you look fantastic. I am green. You and E and Lyz in Dec are going blow me away. I am going to be the fat outdated ugly chick. It is my own fault, though, I should have stuck to the wagon and I wouldn't feel like a big nasty blimp.

However, I am down 8 lbs as of yesterday from my all time post-ex-friend-weekend high. 8lbs in 12 days isn't bad but I know it was all water weight.


And, this is going to sound very strange... but in June/July I went on the generic version of my birth control. I didn't think much of it at the time, but in early Oct I was searching for it online and found some forums where people were complaining that it was causing them to be really hungry and depressed.

I thought, well, maybe the next time I fill my prescription I will see how much more it costs to go back to the name brand... since it was only $6 (due to my COBRA delay I have no active prescription coverage at the moment), I said, what the hey.

So I started that pack 3 weeks ago. And I am not hungry anymore. I am satisfied with 800-900 calories and have even forgotten to eat once or twice. Hmm.


HAPPY BIRTHDAY KELLY!!!

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

You and E and Lyz in Dec are going blow me away. I am going to be the fat outdated ugly chick. It is my own fault, though, I should have stuck to the wagon and I wouldn't feel like a big nasty blimp. [/B]

No Kat, this will be me. Remember I haven't even really lost any weight. I'm still coming.

 

[HockeyKat]

Yeah, Lyz, but you are super cute. I'm not.