In need of advice

[polyfan]

I will try to make this short- someone asked me what my husband does- I responded he is an engineering technician. Well, another coworker was around and was very quick to start talking about how she had a friend that actually went to school to be an engineer and got a degree and so on. I couldn't figure out what the point was since it sounded like she was trying to make a point. Well, I found out she told someone else that I was lying because all she heard was engineer. So she thinks I am telling that my husband is an engineer when he is not. That is not what I said, she only heard the word engineer. Now I feel awkward, be cause I really didn't lie, but she is thinking that I did and telling others. I don't know how to correct the situation since I don't want to break my other friends confidence. Should I just let it go?

 

[Serena]

Here's what you do. Be totally cool. When someone mentions this to you, and someone will have to, you say something about how you never said that and someone was eavesdropping and is misinformed and apparently spreading lies.


They will stew in their own juices and most likely no one will take what they say at face value again.

It may take a couple days, maybe a week, but don't worry about it.

And if no one brings it up, maybe you can carefully mention it in front of a couple people.

It'll serve them right.

I had something similar happen to me when I got married rather quickly. A rumor was spread around that I had to get married, that I was pregnant. I just let it spread and spread, several months later I overheard more rumors about how the other person lied too much. lol

 

[Boots]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

 

[DocRafiki]

If X= the lady who says you lied
and Y = the friend who told you what she said...

The best scenario would have been for Y to correct X right away (if she knew what really happened). If you're close to Y and Y is worried about breaking X's confidence, then suggest to Y that she correct X herself. If she doesn't, I would be inclined to do it myself. I wouldn't want X telling everyone that I was lying about that, and I wouldn't want X to dislike me for being someone I'm not, causing unnecessary tension at work.

If you let it go on, X is going to spread it to more and more people. And there's no reason to turn people against her any more than there is to have people turned against you. If that's really what she heard, then I can't blame her for setting the record straight. No way would I let a vet tech get away with claiming they're a vet. It's an insult to the profession, not to mention that anyone who would lie about something like that has some serious ego issues and isn't to be trusted.

But, that's an outsider's view. I would have to know more about the dynamics among the three of you, how much this really bothers you, and how big a deal she's going to make this.

 

[polyfan]

well, I couldnt take it so I asked the person I was actually talking to what she heard me tell her my husband did. She replied "he's an engineering tech right? What a relief. At least I know that if X goes back to her to say I lied it won't matter because the person heard exactly what I said, not what X thinks I said. I guess I should just forget about setting X straight. Opinions?

 

[preshi]

tell her to mind her own.....

I am so sick of nosy people.