Immigration question

[donnajon]

My sister's ex just (American) has been living in the middle east and has remarried to a foreigner. He and my sister have a 5 year old together. The ex just asked my sister for her birthday and their daughter's SSN for immigration purposes. Is there any reason he would need his ex-wife's birthdate for his new wife to come here? She doesn't trust him and doesn't know why he would need this information. She has full custody of their daughter who barely will talk to her father.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I wouldn't think so.

She may want to contact INS to check.

Could be that for whatever reason they are trying to make sure his new marriage is legit. I am not sure what her SSN has to do with that though.

I would be skeptical.

 

[ILUVMYBRIT]

I think the only reason you need any info about the former spouse is just to prove that they are just that .....a former spouse. I dont see what a social security number is needed for. I wouldnt give it too him unless he gave more details as to the reason exactly why he needs it.

 

[Beth76]

I have no idea, but she could have him send her any form that needs her information and she can send it directly to the immigration office. I too would be suspicious of that.

 

[georgia4now]

My sister's ex just (American) has been living in the middle east and has remarried to a foreigner. He and my sister have a 5 year old together. The ex just asked my sister for her birthday and their daughter's SSN for immigration purposes. Is there any reason he would need his ex-wife's birthdate for his new wife to come here? She doesn't trust him and doesn't know why he would need this information. She has full custody of their daughter who barely will talk to her father.

They may need proof of the divorce, but SSN and birthdates sounds like he's trying to sneak someone in, or get credit in someone's name. Sounds strange.

My advice would be for your sister to have her EX mail the paperwork and she can fill out the sensitive info and send it in for him. If he refuses, there may be something up.

Good luck, and be careful!!!

 

[Minnie824]

I would not give him any information....you never know, what if he tried to get fake information for his new wife, saying she was your sister, then they could take the child. I would triple check everything before giving any information. Although, I'm kindof a skeptical person too, but you never know.

 

[MareQ]

I wouldn't give him any info!

Also does the man seriously not remember his own ex-wifes birthday??

 

[mickeyfan2]

Me thinks he is going to try to pass the new wife off as his old wife to get her into the country sooner.

 

[NMAmy]

I've always been able to prove divorce by showing my divorce papers. You wouldn't need the SSN for that, I wouldn't think. I wouldn't trust him, either.

I've been divorced for quite awhile and still remember my ex's birthdate and SSN. He was in the military when we were married and I was always having to recite his SSN. It's ingrained in my memory. In fact, it's easier for me to remember than my own.

 

[Chicago526]

Also does the man seriously not remember his own ex-wifes birthday??

Must be why he's an "ex" in the first place!

 

[CheshireVal]

DH and I just went through the immigration process (he's an Aussie). We had to fill out a mountain of forms that wanted all kinds of information. I had to list both my parents' names and SS#s for some reason.

I don't know for sure that the INS (or whatever they're called these days) would need much information about an ex, but I wouldn't doubt it, either!

 

[LadyyRedd]

It's likely legit. I've had to deal with an immigration situation and can speak with some experience (not the same situation as your sister). He's a citizen who is trying to obtain a green card/visa for a non-citizen relative. He will need his immediate relatives information (children and possibly parents) and also have to prove divorce to show that his current marriage is legit. There's probably a lot more info he'll have to provide than you would ever think they would want or need.

www.uscis.gov can help her out. If the information she needs isn't on there, there are phone numbers that she can call to find out the answer to her questions.

Kimya

 

[donnajon]

Thanks everyone. I knew we could get some help here. He went to Iraq when he was in the reserves three years ago (she believes now that he arranged to have himself sent - no one else in his company had to go. He works with computers). He left in December and they had never had an arguement in their 4 year marriage. On Valentines day he sent her flowers telling her he loved her and a few days later she accidentally opened an e-mail and found out he had been having an affair! He has very little if any contact with their daughter - very bright child - smarter than the average 5 year old. She wont talk to him. Sister is just really suspicious of him. He has no clue about kids - he sent their DD dental floss and ACT rinse for Easter! What kind of a moron sends that to a five year old.

 

[arminnie]

He has no clue about kids - he sent their DD dental floss and ACT rinse for Easter! What kind of a moron sends that to a five year old.

"What moron send dental floss and ACT rinse to a 5 year old?" - that would be a great tag. But I hope you don't get it. He is a moron.

 

[Caradana]

I bet he got that stuff for free from his dentist. Seriously!!!

I bet it's legit. I do think that they probably do an exhaustive check of not only legal immigrants but the citizens who sponsor them - at least I hope that they do.