I'm Worried Update: He Called And Apologized

[dcgrumpy]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
It's not as if I've said I love him or I'm going to marry him or anything.

no, that will be next weeks drama

 

[Bojangles]

There is nothing wrong with a single mom dating. This man sounds really nice.

Do you kids live with you? How many kids do you have? I thought I read before that you were all living with a different boyfriend that was a barber or something. Maybe I have you confused with someone else I probably do there are so many people posting here it's hard to keep up sometimes

 

[honeywolf7]

Look, I've got my kids...I've put them first in my life (in case anyone's wondering not that it's your business, but they were with their father this past weekend and I'm not exactly going to risk their safety by driving up to Northern Virginia in this weather to get them even though it's Jessica's birthday today.) I'm going to school and doing well. I've got a part-time job that pays well. WTH is wrong with my dating someone and caring about him and having him care about me?
Bojangles, I broke up with the other guy because I realized that I loved him as a friend but wasn't in love with him but I made sure I could provide for my kids before I did so. I also didn't start dating TJ until after I had left. Oh, and BTW I have two children.

 

[Bojangles]

We're stuck home today because of the snow/ice, too. I would not want to be out driving either. Sorry you missed your child's birthday, though.

You work part time and go to school? That sounds like a lot of work. What kind of job do you have? Is it one where they let you study while you're there?

 

[honeywolf7]

I'm a church secretary, and yes, they do let me study while I work if there's not too much work to be done (at times, there's a lot to be done and at other times there's nothing to be done.)

 

[Toby'sFriend]

but they were with their father this past weekend and I'm not exactly going to risk their safety by driving up to Northern Virginia in this weather to get them even though it's Jessica's birthday today.)

Hey! You learned how to drive?

Congrats!

 

[honeywolf7]

Yes, I did...that was another thing that I made sure I accomplished before I moved out with my kids. I knew that I'd need to be able to get places on my own.

 

[kdibattista]

no, that will be next weeks drama

 

[Bojangles]

WTG, Honeywolf. Are you graduating soon?

 

[honeywolf7]

I'll be graduating in May of 2005. Then I'll be looking for a job in the Criminal Justice field. I may go back to Law school later on.

 

[Poohnatic]

Becki,

I wouldn't freak out because he doesn't call you the moment he gets to work. He DOES NOT know what he'll be walking into when he gets there.

I also think it sounds strange that he has to know where you are and that you have to call to check in on him. You just got out of a relationship and yet you're already treating this guy like he's a life partner. Too much, too soon.

Finally, you won't tell him how you feel, yet you'll tell 60,000 virtual strangers.

Suzanne

 

[ryanpatricksmom]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
We've known each other a lot longer than two weeks (granted we started as friends and we only met in person in December, but we have known each other for five months now.) My kids are by far my top priority (which is why he hasn't met them yet), but there's nothing wrong with a single mother dating. It's not as if I've said I love him or I'm going to marry him or anything.

OMG! LOL! I first read that as you met in prison.

As far as not saying that you're going to marry him...good strategy. It's always a good idea to let the guy weigh on that subject!

 

[Beckysc]

How did you guys meet?

 

[honeywolf7]

I was actually on a message board talking about Criminal Justice and he sent me a message. Then we started talking on Yahoo Messenger.
As far as not telling him how I feel, I don't want him to think I'm too easy to get.
Finally, he doesn't exactly call to "check up on me." He calls because he wants to talk to me. He called to check up on me the night after I'd been in the ER.

 

[CajunDixie]

(especially if he was originally from Florida

So people from FL do not know how to drive? Sorry but where you are from makes no difference when it comes to driving on snow and ice. If that was the case then our county officers would rarely have any accidents to go to around here. Its more about common sense and not rushing.

My nephew was born in Germany......does that mean he's going to want to drive on the wrong side of the road?

 

[Tiggeroo]

sorry hw. I just don't understand. I've worked gone to school and had kids. I had no spare time. When I wasn't working I was studying. When I was home I was typing a paper, folding laundry, etc. In between all this I was doing the usual mom stuff. I had kids in sports, and a dd who did dance. They needed rides to friends, cupcakes for school, help on a school project, etc. When they were little I just wanted to sit with them, read them a story, play with playdough, etc. I can't imagine trying to date. And I would have had to date somebody for several years, and know he was the one before I moved my kids into the same home as him. (really since I need to be a rollmodel I would need marriage).

Also, he's the one who definitely wants to get married again and wants to have more children. The very first question he asked me when we met was whether I want more kids. So, it's not really me who's rushing things.

This and the phone calls send of a million red flags. It shouts of too much too soon, of being desperate. Every guy knows most women want to get married have kids. They don't need to ask this on the first date, unless they are trying to progress things too fast. It's almost worst then a guy saying he loves someone to get her to sleep with him. I would never call a short term boyfriend to say I'm worried because he didn't call, and it's icy out. I can't imagine checking web site to see. Even if I was worried I wouldn't do this. I would see it as an impulse that needs to be repressed.

 

[honeywolf7]

Cajundixie, it's not that he just was born there. He grew up (and most importantly learned to drive) there and has only lived here for four years.

 

[mickeyfan1]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
Cajundixie, it's not that he just was born there. He grew up (and most importantly learned to drive) there and has only lived here for four years.

Huh???? Becki, you have got to be kidding. If this man is a sworn deputy, and drives a county car, he has gone to driving school, he knows how to drive in ice and snow a lot better than most people. Not that his abilities will keep someone else from running into him, but come on, your statement is very biased.

 

[JerseyJanice]

My goodness! Reading this thread, I'm thinking wow, someone posts a simple vent about her boyfriend, and it turns into the Spanish Inquisition.

I'm glad that you heard from him, and all is well.

And f.y.i., Becki, you don't have to answer every reply you get on a thread. It's obvious there are many "questions" posted here where actual answers weren't expected.

 

[honeywolf7]

Thank you, JerseyJanice.
He doesn't mind that I worried about his driving in ice and snow because he's from Florida, so why should anyone else?