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[chisnpeke]

This is a disgusting thread.
So, basically anyone you feel doesn't fit into that stereotypical "ugly" physique is just fishing for compliments? Sorry to break it to some of you, but sly narcissism isn't the only reason people put themselves down. Events in people's lives effect their self-esteem. I know that after I was sexually abused I thought I was hideous and dirty, and nobody seemed to be able to break through my opinion of myself. Now, I don't find myself unattractive anymore, but I didn't look much different then. I'm skinny, but curvaceous in the right places. I have a really nice face and my hair can be good when I want it to be. I still thought nobody would want me after that. I cried to my friends, begging them to see what I was feeling, but they all just gave exasperated sighs towards my inability to see their side. Let me tell you...didn't help my resolve one bit. Just made me feel like I had one more flaw.

I learned never to get upset from stuff like that because I know it's psychological. Most of the time it doesn't make sense. Most of the time the people who criticize themselves in that way are beautiful people. Why should I judge them though for feeling low about themselves?

I'm so sorry you went through that. I couldn't imagine.

I also can tell the difference between fishing and really just low self esteem.

Again, I'm really sorry that happened to you.

 

[disneydance]

I'm guilty of saying those things and all
But its truly how I feel
I guess I was just informed to days ago by a VERY respected individual in my life I have very low self asteem...
Overall it kinda is the sad truth
But I normally dont tell people those details
The last 3 months have been nothing but easy for me and I think that may be the partial reason why I do
I shouldnt even be here currently as I attempted something at the starting of those 3 months...
That I should of never done

 

[CrazyChik]

Okay, I have really low self esteem but I wouldn't say I fish.
I genuinely don't think I'm very attractive, if you watch me closely you'd probably notice my aversion to mirrors. I'm not however going to sit there and whine to my friends about how hideous I feel in the hope that they might say ohmygosh haz you're so pretty. I just don't comment on it.
As for the weight I've been known to make passing comments after buying yet more food in the canteen like 'I feel like a pie/cow'. My usual response to it is 'you are' so it's not really a pick me up xD I have issues with food, in the way that I can't eat in moderation even when I'm not hungry. The fact that I eat so much makes me feel really fat even though in reality I know I'm not. I'm super short (5ft) as well and well short people can't carry weight. So sometimes I do actually appreciate a little reminder that I'm not obese.
I think that like a previous poster said sometimes fishing is a way of expressing sincere insecurities. Other times it's plain annoying.

 

[Smiley.Socks]

Okay. I'm not going to say I agree and that I HATE HATE HATE it when people say they're fat or ugly or whatever. 'Cause I do it sometimes. It only annoys me when people do it delibritley (sp?) for attention or for good comments. I will admit that sometimes I have fat days where I'm just like "Ugh El! Look at your hair!" or "El! Sort your face out!" or whatever. But I only ever say it to myself. I've never said I think I'm ugly to my friends, or even on here.. I don't think so anyway.
I think it's lovely when people say that you're gorgeous, and obviously it gives you a confidence boost. Maybe some people just need that on this on particular day.
So.. don't blame people if they need a confidence boost. Give them compliments! I bet all of you are pretty happy when someone says you're pretty or funny, right?
Everyone has down days.. and sometimes all they need is a compliment.
And for everyone who thinks they're fat (ME INCLUDED!!) ..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=89GB7z_Ogt0

 

[DisneyPirate]

I agree it can be annoying at times BUT I think sometimes people aren't fishin' for compliments...just stating facts and are sick of pretending that they feel happy and all is well with the world. Or other times they can be just testing the waters to see if they really are as invisible as they seem..

Ok bit of a rant there..sorry lol

Often I can't tell the difference between fishing and stating. I wouldn't like to take the chance that I percieved that someone was fishin' when they actually feel really bad -shrugs-. I try not to let it annoy me either way.

 

[TinkRockz106]

I totally agree with you! Like when ever i am with my friend marguerite all she does is brag that she is too fat or too ugly when she is just the same like everone else!

 

[CrazyChik]

I totally agree with you! Like when ever i am with my friend marguerite all she does is brag that she is too fat or too ugly when she is just the same like everone else!

I don't think she's going to brag about that

 

[3mtn-kate]

i have days where i really just don't feel like i look good so i'll be like "ugh i just didin't try today..." or something like that you know? but i'm not fishing for compliments.

if my friends decide to compliment me when i say that then fine, but if it's not how i feel then it doesn't really matter. same goes with feeling fat. i FEEL fat sometimes

i know i'm not actually fat but if i feel fat then, well thats my problem. i'm not fishing for compliments or anything, it's just how i feel.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I think everyone who fishes actually have some level of low self-esteem. Obviously or they wouldn't need approval & acceptance of everyone.

 

[life of the party]

I'm guilty of saying those things and all
But its truly how I feel
I guess I was just informed to days ago by a VERY respected individual in my life I have very low self asteem...
Overall it kinda is the sad truth
But I normally dont tell people those details
The last 3 months have been nothing but easy for me and I think that may be the partial reason why I do
I shouldnt even be here currently as I attempted something at the starting of those 3 months...
That I should of never done

I think everyone who fishes actually have some level of low self-esteem. Obviously or they wouldn't need approval & acceptance of everyone.