I'm SOOO mad right now!!

[FreshTressa]

Okay, ya'll know I've got some flaky brothers and sisters, but this one takes the cake.

My first sister found out that one of my mom's favorite old time singers was going to be in town this weekend, so she calls me up and asks if I thought it would be a good idea if we take Mom. I say GREAT!!! So she calls mom and mom says yes so she buys 3 tickets.

Now, first sister, mother and I all live in the same town. Other sister lives about 2 and a half hours away and we probably only see her about 3 times a year.

Later that day, other sister calls Mom and asks what she is doing that weekend. Mom tells her about the concert and she says she would like to go. So then other sister calls first sister and asks if she can get another ticket. First sister says sure, I'll try, and if they have one do you want me to get it?? Yes says other sister.
So, today, First sister tries and calls several times and finally gets a ticket next to us.

She calls other sister to give her the good news and other sister says, "oh, I don't think I want to go now", no explanation, nothing. And she is not even going to pay for the extra ticket. Now, I would have exploded, but first sister is very nice and diplomatic.


Should I get involved?? Should I call other sister and tell her what a crappy thing I think it was that she did? Right now I feel like writing her off. I don't want to deal with people like that. Her daughter, my niece, has the lead in a play at the local theater in february. The tickets are almost $30. I don't know whether to go now or not. I mean, it is not my niece that is being rude and unreasonable.

Any advice?

 

[TLinden16]

Families can be so tough sometimes. I'm from a large family, and I tend to think with families, you have to bite your tongue and overlook things to keep the peace. So many families squabble over silly things, and over time, don't even remember what the heck got them stopping talking to each other in the first place.

In the scheme of things, $30 isn't a whole heck of a lot of money. Since you didn't buy the ticket, it's really the other's sister's decision to get the ticket. I'd just remember this in the future, get the money up front next time, or tell her to make her own arrangements for the future.

And don't miss the niece's play. It's not her fault. Go and show your support for your niece. You'd be losing out on a wonderful opportunity to see your niece doing something that I assume she enjoys doing (or else she wouldn't be doing it).

Karen

 

[wdwoldtimer]

Give the ticket to someone the three of you know and whose company you enjoy. Go to the concert and have fun. Then go to your niece's play and have fun there.

Forget your other sister's action...life's too short. Besides, that's nothing compared to my whacked out sister.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Chalk it up to lesson learned and get the money first for this sister!
If I were you I would NOT get in the middle of flaky, it only ends up making you crazy.

 

[wilderness01]

I agree with everyone else. Don't get involved. If your other sister is not that upset or not upset enough to stand up to the other sister than let it go. Just buyer beware it you are ever the buyer of an item for the welcher sister......get the $ up front.

Don't take it out on your niece. She can't help it her mother is a whack a doo!

 

[MICKEY88]

I agree with everyone else...

life's too short to make trouble where you don't need to,,and don't punish your niece for her mother's behaviour....

go to both events and have agreat time...

 

[Disney Doll]

If you have no liability in paying for the 2nd sister's ticket, then I would say stay uninvolved. I would also go to my niece's play...she can't help who her mohter is.

I also wouldn't ever front any money for the 2nd sister to do anyhting...ever. If you guys plan another oputing like this, don't buy her ticket till you have cash in hand. If that creates a problem, very matter-of-factly say"Well, last time we bought you a ticket, you decided after the fact not to go and 1st sister got stuck with the ticket and you didn't reimburse her. I don't want to take that chance."

I have a kooky SIL like this, and I just always handle her very matter-of-factly, and shift the responsibility for her actions onto her, where it belongs. I'm a big believer in personal responsibility.