I'm just amazed that parents don't care what their kids listen to...

[Mickey's Minion]

I also text my kids during school hours to pass on pick up info to them. I need my very own bad parent thread.

Hi, I am a bad parent too

I had a car full of 7th grade boys (12 and 13) and they asked me to put on their favorite radio station. No problem. I am part of a bad parent's club and all the boys don't have any censoring going on it their lives.
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A song came on and one of the kids commented "oh my favorite" with the others agreeing. They were listening to "Birthday Sex" by Jerimih

Ok, I will admit I was taken aback a bit when one of the 13 year olds asked what a g-spot was

Commence the absolute horror that a 13 year old would ask about a g-spot>>>>

 

[NHdisneylover]

Hi, I am a bad parent too

I had a carfull of 7th grade boys (12 and 13) and they asked me to put on their favorite radio station. No problem. I am part of a bad parent's club and all the boys don't have any censoring going on it their lives.

A song came on and one of the kids commented "oh my favorite" with the others agreeing. They were listening to "Birthday Sex"

Ok, I will admit I was taken aback a bit when one of the 13 year olds asked what a g-spot was

Commence the absolute horror that a 13 year old would ask about a g-spot>>>>

oooo oooo oooo are we going to have a new bad parents club on the DIS??!!!???! I'll join. I rarely make it through a week on here without finding out that something I do makes me a bad parent

My DS was asking what cremaing was when he was 8 thanks to a line in Grease Lightning (I never listend all that closely but he had a sing along DVD. His teachers still go on about how extremly polite and kind he always is--he certainly did not pick up the attitude towards girls that the song protrays--at least not yet).

 

[Liberty Belle]

Hi, I am a bad parent too

I had a car full of 7th grade boys (12 and 13) and they asked me to put on their favorite radio station. No problem. I am part of a bad parent's club and all the boys don't have any censoring going on it their lives.
s
A song came on and one of the kids commented "oh my favorite" with the others agreeing. They were listening to "Birthday Sex" by Jerimih

Ok, I will admit I was taken aback a bit when one of the 13 year olds asked what a g-spot was

So, to the title of this thread "I'm just amazed that parents don't care what their kids listen to... You would be amazed at our rather large bad parent club.

Funny thing, our kids are considered "the good kids" in school. We have had 12 and 13 year olds busted for pot, drinking, having sex, etc and whether it is a coincidence or not, all of them are from extremely strict parents, rules about movies, music, texting, etc. I don't know if they are rebelling, but I do know that our kids are always talking about the losers in school and how stupid their choices are (they point out the ones that they know are drinking or doing drugs when we pass by), all the while listening to Birthday sex or Lady GaGa.

Commence the absolute horror that a 13 year old would ask about a g-spot>>>>

That's worse than when my ten year old asked me about o.s. (and his dad was out of town).

 

[Mickey's Minion]

oooo oooo oooo are we going to have a new bad parents club on the DIS??!!!???! I'll join. I rarely make it through a week on here without finding out that something I do makes me a bad parent

Funny thing, our kids are considered "the good kids" in school.

We have had 12 and 13 year olds busted for pot, drinking, smoking, having sex, etc and whether it is a coincidence or not, all of them are from extremely strict parents, rules about movies, music, texting, etc.

I don't know if they are rebelling against their limitations or not. But I do know that our kids are always talking about the losers in school and how stupid their choices are (they point out the ones that they know are drinking or doing drugs when we pass by), all the while listening to Birthday sex or Lady GaGa.

So, in response to the title of this thread "I'm just amazed that parents don't care what their kids listen to...", I myself am amazed to what extent some parents care not only about what their kids are listening to, but also how bothered they get by what other kids are listening to.

To each their own parenting style. If you don't want your kid listening to something, I will respect that. But those parents also need to respect our "bad parenting club."

 

[jodifla]

YOu could be right - but I wanted the mom to see the lyrics right then -not let the kids listen to it for the the rest of the night 'cause she hadn't gotten around to checking it out herself. This way she probably put an end to that CD right away.

I have never said Lady Gaga wasn't taleted - I've watched a couple interviews she's done (GMA or Today show) I knew she was supposed to go to someplace like Julliard but in my book just because she's a great composer, piano player, etc doesn't mean I condone her music

Uh, really? I think 12 is old enough for Lady Gaga. I think kids at that age don't listen to the words, they listen to the beat. I can barely understand Lady Gaga's music.

And I'd be pretty offended if someone tried to coerce me from turning off the music in my own home by handing me the lyrics sheet.

 

[Anne34]

Thanks for not flaming me

Just curious - would any of you give it as a b'day present to a 12 yo?

Yes - her videos are a WHOLE other story - just watched telephone a few mins ago - I was strictly thinking of lyrics

And yes her songs are SOOO catchy -shes great at what she does

Yes I would. I have a 12 year old (but she is the youngest of 3) and really don't have a problem with Lady Ga Ga.


ETA: I would probably give an I-tunes card, because most people don't buy CD's since you usually only like a couple songs and it seems like a waste.

 

[greenmyvalley]

When I was 9 or 10, I would sing along to Christina Aguilera's "Genie in a Bottle" without a clue what it meant. I only figured out "You're licking your lips and blowing kisses my way / But that don't mean I'm gonna give it away" through a closer listen during a nostalgia-fest several years later. As a kid I liked how pop music sounded and enjoyed the undertones of things I couldn't quite understand, but I don't think I was harmed in the process.

Ah yes, I have an awkward experience of my own to share. The summer after my first year of college, my dad was driving us to the beach when "Lovegame" by Lady Gaga came on the radio. My dad asked for clarification on the lyrics! It was enough to make an 18-year-old blush. I enjoy LG most in the comfort of being surrounded by youth that "get" it.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Funny thing, our kids are considered "the good kids" in school.

We have had 12 and 13 year olds busted for pot, drinking, smoking, having sex, etc and whether it is a coincidence or not, all of them are from extremely strict parents, rules about movies, music, texting, etc.

I don't know if they are rebelling against their limitations or not. But I do know that our kids are always talking about the losers in school and how stupid their choices are (they point out the ones that they know are drinking or doing drugs when we pass by), all the while listening to Birthday sex or Lady GaGa.

So, in response to the title of this thread "I'm just amazed that parents don't care what their kids listen to...", I myself am amazed to what extent some parents care not only about what their kids are listening to, but also how bothered they get by what other kids are listening to.

To each their own parenting style. If you don't want your kid listening to something, I will respect that. But those parents also need to respect our "bad parenting club."

yeah, mine are "the good kids" too I was rasied the same way and was always the "goody two shoes" in my circle of friends I don't know if it is just natural disposition or not having any reason to rebel much but I do remember that the kids who got into lost of trouble during freshman year in the dorms were all kids who had been very sheltered growing up. (OP I am not saying you are sheltering your DD all that much by not liking Lady Gaga--just making a very general comment as that is where my mind went after the otehr comment, sorry to veer off course).

 

[Mickey's Minion]

yeah, mine are "the good kids" too I was rasied the same way and was always the "goody two shoes" in my circle of friends I don't know if it is just natural disposition or not having any reason to rebel much but I do remember that the kids who got into lost of trouble during freshman year in the dorms were all kids who had been very sheltered growing up. (OP I am not saying you are sheltering your DD all that much by not liking Lady Gaga--just making a very general comment as that is where my mind went after the otehr comment, sorry to veer off course).

Yes, I definitely didn't want to imply that the OP or anybody else here is sheltering their children too much and because of that, their kids are going to become delinquents.

As I said, it might very well be coincidence, but in our rather affluent (so no excuses of kids not having opportunities), the kids that are doing the drugs and sex are the ones that come from the very strict parents.

 

[Happy Mom2]

Growing up I was never allowed to listen to anything but country music, and this was in the 70's and 80's. I never understood my parents logic since country music is all about drinking, cheating, lying, and stealing. I used to have a small radio that I kept under my bed and would listen to other music really low after my parents went to bed.

I make a point of exposing my kids (4 and 2) to all types of music. This includes country, rock, heavy metal, pop, kids music, gospel, contemporary Christian, blues, jazz, even opera. We listen to it ALL! It is VERY important to me that I pass on my love of music to my children. So far so good. Chances are if ever meet my daughter she is singing a tune, and is making up her own words!

 

[clutter]

Ok, true story that should put me in the bad parents club.

When dd12 (who loves GaGa) was around 9 or so, I picked her up at after school care (I know, bad parent, but I'm a single one, so I gotta work!) and she was singing a song. I think the real name, or line, was something like "Loosen up my buttons babe," but the kids were singing "you put my butt in pain."

And yes, in spite of listening to trampy music and being in daycare, I have one of the straightest-laced kids around. I find myself secretly cheering her on if she does something a little on the wild side!!!

 

[Vixen]

Hi, I am a bad parent too

I had a car full of 7th grade boys (12 and 13) and they asked me to put on their favorite radio station. No problem. I am part of a bad parent's club and all the boys don't have any censoring going on it their lives.
s
A song came on and one of the kids commented "oh my favorite" with the others agreeing. They were listening to "Birthday Sex" by Jerimih

Ok, I will admit I was taken aback a bit when one of the 13 year olds asked what a g-spot was

Commence the absolute horror that a 13 year old would ask about a g-spot>>>>

I don't have kids yet.. but i bet you anything i'll be part of the "Bad Parents" club!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Just a vent - no need to be flamed here...

DD went to her gf's b'day party tonight - the b'day girl got Lady Gaga's CD as a present. When I walked in they were blaring it & singing it @ the top of their lungs. At 12!!
The mom of dd's friend didn't have a clue who Lady Gaga was & thus had no idea that the songs were bad - so I took the lyrics & showed her.

I'm just wonder if the mom of the kid who gave the gift is just clueless too or just doesn't care? The child (who I've never met before tonight) is invited to dd's party next week - it'll be interesting to see if we get the same present or not - I'm afraid it may end up in the trash during the party.

I don't think I'm really on top of things (hip or whatever the terminology is nowadays) but L.G is on tv ALL the time - maybe they don't watch tv

Well you would hate our house because none of my children are even close to being 12 and they all listen to Lady GaGa. I don't see the big deal. She has catchy songs and the kids have no idea what she is singing about. If you brought me the lyric sheet like that I probably would have laughed it off but thought you were being a bit much.
Did your DD know the songs? If so then I wouldn't worry so much about her actually getting a CD since she will hear it in other places.

 

[locolala]

Add me to the bad parents club already.. my daughter loves it when I play Lady Gaga, she'll wake up and start dancing. She even likes Metallica and Offspring already! In fact, I'm gonna buy her those Rock a baby CDs and start getting her into metal early, I'd rather have her listen to that than rap.. rap "artists" these days have no talent. My cat could perform better than them.

 

[ReneeA]

Well you would hate our house because none of my children are even close to being 12 and they all listen to Lady GaGa. I don't see the big deal. She has catchy songs and the kids have no idea what she is singing about. If you brought me the lyric sheet like that I probably would have laughed it off but thought you were being a bit much.
Did your DD know the songs? If so then I wouldn't worry so much about her actually getting a CD since she will hear it in other places.

This.

My kids love pop music, and most other types of music, too. I listened to all kinds of music growing up - including lots that I'm sure other parents wanted to ban.

I would have let you know in no uncertain terms that I was okay with what my kids were listening to in MY home, and if you weren't...then go home to listen to music you find acceptable.

 

[Ohiodislover]

I don't ban any music either. Instead I treat my kids like they have the common sense, and morals that DH and I have helped them develop. We listen to most every type of music, and discuss the "less than wholesome" lyrics, and topics. We can also admire the talent and perseverance of the artist, and the guts it takes to make it in the music business.

I am always quite amazed at my 11 Y.O. She censors herself--LOVES Lady Gaga, and sings the music constantly, but rarely watches the videos. She says they are just a little too freaky for her. She also loves Keesha, but will turn off certain songs because they are a little too over the top for her liking

 

[cheerful chickadee]

I think 12 is an acceptable age to listen to Lady Gaga, most kids in the tweens don't pay attention to the lyrics or what they mean, they just like the catchy chorus and beats.

I don't think parents don't care what their kids listen to or that they don't know what they listen to, they realize their kids will have their own taste in clothes, music, etc. We were all kids & teenagers once, we all went through phases of identifying with different music and fads, I for one would have hated my parents to censor me (within reason of course). How would we know what we like if we don't hear what's out there?

I have a 13 y.o. ds and I pretty much let him listen to whatever he wants, he has a LOT of music on his ipod...Kanye West, Kid Cudi, Jay-Z, Michael Jackson, Mos Def, The White Stripes, Alicia Keys, Ne-Yo, he even has a song or two by N.W.A. on his ipod (joining the bad parent club as we speak). When he was younger if he liked a song he heard on the radio or from one of DH or my cd collection that was "questionable" we'd try to get him the edited/clean version of it for him. I also have a 2.5 yr old DD and she likes a lot of the music I listen to, she LOVES paparazzi by Lady Gaga and Beat it by Michael Jackson, she dances and sings to both.

 

[harleyquinn]

Did anyone catch TMZ the other day? They were filming Hugh Jackman, I think, and his daughter (6 or so) and her friends were having a party. They were walking down the street with Hugh in the front of about 7 or 8 little girls and the TMZ guy starts asking Hugh something and all the little girls started singing Paparazzi. It was too cute!

 

[luvmy3]

Thanks for not flaming me

Just curious - would any of you give it as a b'day present to a 12 yo?

Yes - her videos are a WHOLE other story - just watched telephone a few mins ago - I was strictly thinking of lyrics

And yes her songs are SOOO catchy -shes great at what she does

My 12 year old listens to LG on the radio and has some of her songs on her ipod. However I would not purchase her CD for any other child, I know some parents may not be as liberal as I am when it comes to music.

 

[lillygator]

you really showed the mom the lyrics? was it printed in the cd or did you run home and print them off?

have they RSVP'ed to your DD's party already?