I'm just amazed that parents don't care what their kids listen to...

[Pigeon]

I completely respect your right to do this...but do you honestly think your daughter doesn't hear "objectionable" songs? Either by listening to a friend's ipod, or the radio, or in the car going to the movies (if you aren't driving ) Or maybe your point is not that she can't hear it, but you don't want to support the music by allowing her to buy it?

I have been known to change the radio station in the car when I do not like the lyrics, but I will discuss with my dd why I don't think it's appropriate.

We try very hard not to spend discretionary money on things we don't want to support. Lady Gaga would be one of those things, as would many misogynistic rap "singers."

I know my dd hears things I don't like--she wouldn't be asking for those songs if she hadn't heard them somewhere. But she's not listening to them endlessly, either.

 

[lillygator]

the forbidden fruit is what they are listening to at friend's houses, on the bus, etc.

 

[jamimb]

I completely respect your right to do this...but do you honestly think your daughter doesn't hear "objectionable" songs? Either by listening to a friend's ipod, or the radio, or in the car going to the movies (if you aren't driving ) Or maybe your point is not that she can't hear it, but you don't want to support the music by allowing her to buy it?

I have been known to change the radio station in the car when I do not like the lyrics, but I will discuss with my dd why I don't think it's appropriate.

I am fully aware that there are going to be some instances where she will be exposed to things I do not wish her to be exposed to but that certainly does not mean I will give her permission to listen to or watch things that I deem inappropriate.

 

[MickeyCrazedMom]

When I was in high school I listened to 2 Live Crew, Too Short and Kid Rock when he was a rapper. Yodlin in the Valley anyone? You don't get much raunchier than that and I turned out pretty good. I don't think my mom really knew how bad it was but it was more of a "don't play it in my house" kind of thing. She is the one that took me to see Grease 2 and I didn't understand any of it until I was an adult. Saw Madonnas Like A Virgin tour in 6th grade and survived.

I probably wouldn't buy any cd for another child without checking with parents first. But my kids listen to most music. Not 2 live crew because I am not quite ready for those discussions yet , but they listen to Nickelback. The lyrics go right over their heads, they just like to sing about rockstars. I would actually prefer that they listen to the music with me so that when the comments or questions do come, I am there to respond.

Full disclosure though - I do censor movies and video games still. There is something about the visual that I worry more about.

 

[Silent1CB]

My poor DH was a senior in high school and his step-dad would not allow him to watch "Love Boat". Something about too many unmarried people hooking up. That's what everything in the late 70's & early 80's was all about.

 

[FergieTCat]

I guess my parents lucked out because I liked (and still do) Barry Manilow.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I remember my friend's mom wouldn't let her listen to Rod Stewart's Tonight's the Night when we were little kids. I had no idea why, then. Now when I think of the lyrics, I understand. Really, though, we sang the words without even thinking about what they meant.

 

[CandyMandy]

I got a pretty penny selling the three never opened records in the past month.

As the sister of the owner of a major collectible record firm, I'm a little skeptical, since unopened copies of that record are readily available and can be found relatively cheap. Because it was the 2nd largest selling album in history, it was manufactured in massive volumes, so there's still a large inventory of new old stock "virgin" (unopened) copies, which can commonly be found at vintage vinyl dealers. According to my brother, the increased demand that followed Jackson's death faded pretty quickly.

 

[lillygator]

As the sister of the owner of a major collectible record firm, I'm a little skeptical, since unopened copies of that record are readily available and can be found relatively cheap. Because it was the 2nd largest selling album in history, it was manufactured in massive volumes, so there's still a large inventory of new old stock "virgin" (unopened) copies, which can commonly be found at vintage vinyl dealers. According to my brother, the increased demand that followed Jackson's death faded pretty quickly.

ebay always has a few idiots....I've been subject to falling for it myself.

 

[luvmyfam444]

guess op is not coming back!

Nope I'm here - trying to catch up - sorry - I had a life to live today

 

[luvmyfam444]

the forbidden fruit is what they are listening to at friend's houses, on the bus, etc.

Nope not if they don't ride the bus & their friends moms are like me - then they aren't exposed at someone elses house since they don't have it in the house either.

At school maybe - I know there's at least one teacher that plays a local rock station in her class (dd doesn't have her) & I know they had music for a while in P.E. that kids brought in - but they had to be approved by teacher - so yes one or two L.G. songs could have been approved but that's about it

 

[luvmyfam444]

This thread finally inspired me to watch a few Lady Gaga videos on YouTube. Of course I had heard of her before, but never listened to or watched her videos. I was ready to be non-impressed, but....

WOW!!! She's AMAZING! I especially love the YouTube video of her singing on the Ellen show.

you should watch telephone - it'll leave you speechless

 

[locolala]

I was lucky, my parents never censored what I watched or listened to. We'd have discussions about what I saw or heard, and we'd talk about why it was inappropriate for certain situations, etc. Does that make sense? They knew I'd be exposed to violence, foul language, and sexuality, but that way, they'd be able to talk to me about what I'd seen, answer questions, and make sure that I understood that there's a stark difference between fantasy and the real world. I watched scary movies from a pretty young age, and I still don't like them much!

 

[luvmyfam444]

you really showed the mom the lyrics? was it printed in the cd or did you run home and print them off?

have they RSVP'ed to your DD's party already?

Yes- I ran right home & printed them off - no wait I forgot - I just used her computer instead to print them out and this matters why??

It doesn't really matter if she RSVP'd or not - since it has nothing to do with the b'day child - it was another child that gave the CD as the gift to the b'day child - and that child never did RSVP to the party - the mom called her to ask if she was coming.

Any more ridiculous questions you'd like to ask?

 

[luvmyfam444]

I read where there were a few on here that said they have a problem with music that has explicit lyrics - I guess that's the difference for me. I think most of the songs I looked at by L.G. are explicit. I dunno - guess I'm just clueless - but using the B word & talking about having his vertical stick are pretty explicit. Of course she may not get the vertical stick thing - but she sure does what the B word means.

I absolutely disagree that music or any other media (books included) don't influence you.

and YEP we censor EVERYTHING at our house.

 

[lillygator]

Yes- I ran right home & printed them off - no wait I forgot - I just used her computer instead to print them out and this matters why??

It doesn't really matter if she RSVP'd or not - since it has nothing to do with the b'day child - it was another child that gave the CD as the gift to the b'day child - and that child never did RSVP to the party - the mom called her to ask if she was coming.

Any more ridiculous questions you'd like to ask?

sure!!!
I guess I was confused as to who gave the gift, who it was for and who is coming to your party.
as for the lyrics - sure it matters, if they were printed then I would think you showed them there, if not then I would think you are really over the top. YOU said you showed them to her, I was just asking how....sorry you feel it was a riduculous question.

 

[SOnotLayuh]

I may have been THE most clueless kid ever, but I'm just now learning what some of my favorite songs were about !!! Holy crap! I don't think kids understand Lady Gaga's really explicit stuff... and most of what she sings about is readily available EVERYWHERE on tv and the radio in other songs. Kids are being forced to grow up a lot faster these days... but parents worrying about what is horrible now is exactly how parents felt when Madonna came out. I am scared to know what will be happening in pop culture in 20 years!

 

[akcire]

As the sister of the owner of a major collectible record firm, I'm a little skeptical, since unopened copies of that record are readily available and can be found relatively cheap. Because it was the 2nd largest selling album in history, it was manufactured in massive volumes, so there's still a large inventory of new old stock "virgin" (unopened) copies, which can commonly be found at vintage vinyl dealers. According to my brother, the increased demand that followed Jackson's death faded pretty quickly.

Hey now--I am not talking retirement money. I think the money I got for the 3 of them would just about get me a one day one park disney ticket; however this is a great improvement over the $1 I tried to sell them at in a garage sale (not even one offer).

The funniest part was my parents didn't object to the lyrics they had no idea what the lyrics were--they just objected to modern music. It was classical and opera only in my parents house.

 

[lillygator]

and YEP we censor EVERYTHING at our house.

 

[allison443]

Nope not if they don't ride the bus & their friends moms are like me - then they aren't exposed at someone elses house since they don't have it in the house either.

At school maybe - I know there's at least one teacher that plays a local rock station in her class (dd doesn't have her) & I know they had music for a while in P.E. that kids brought in - but they had to be approved by teacher - so yes one or two L.G. songs could have been approved but that's about it

You're saying your dd won't be exposed to objectionable things, but wasn't the whole point of your post that your dd was exposed to Lady Gaga when she went to her friend's party and the other girls were singing the lyrics at the top of their lungs? And if all her friends' moms are like you and don't allow this music, how did all these girls know the songs?

What happened after you pointed out the lyrics to the other mom-did she turn off the cd? Did you allow your dd to stay at the party or was this at the end of the party, in which case they'd already listened to the cd.

I actually don't think it's wrong to censor what our kids listen to/what we buy for them, but I think it is better to be aware of what is our there and discuss why it's objectionable. I really think it is impossible to totally shelter them from things, unless they are under house arrest