I'm debating whether to apply to a reality dating show. Waste of time or a real chance of finding "the right one"?

[Buzz Rules]

Waste of time. Stupid idea if you want to retain any semblance of privacy in the future. Great way to end up with every one of your coworkers talking smack about you behind your back forever. And every job you apply for in the future, your dating escapades from reality TV will end up in the interview or might even prevent you from getting hired at all.

I totally understand that. It just sorta feels like though if I don't do a dating show, my chances at finding a wonderful, normal, and down to earth woman where I live is even less. I live in the Hudson Valley not NYC. It's very hard to meet great single women around here. I sometimes wonder if someone wore a sign in a park saying "nice guy looking for a nice single lady to date", after the weird looks and laughs, would a nice lady actually go up to the guy and agree to give them a chance? Obviously the example is a joke but the feeling of trying to find love using a dating website feels like the success rate would just be about the same. I'm not afraid to put myself out there for a genuine chance at finding a real lifetime partner (smartly and safely of course). I'm not old (I'm under 35 but above 28) but it's starting to feel like the "nice guys finish last" phrase might hold some merit. Sometimes I think you all (Disboarders) would be better wingmen/wingwomen than my real world friends in helping @Buzz Rules find a genuine chance of finding love.

 

[sarahann77]

For some of the shows, just being in the network helps folks to connect even if they're just contestants. If they are an already established show and you've seen others that you wouldn't mind getting to know. I'd say go for it. I know some past hosts are starting up a new show but haven't shared the concepts but would think it would be a great show with them being connected.

Some shows just seem fun so worth a try even if it wasn't a love connection event.
Definitely consider what public information is out there or could get out there and you're okay with it before going.

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

Best way to hook up with a good person is by being introduced.

 

[disneychrista]

Best way to hook up with a good person is by being introduced.

Thank you Captain Obvious.

 

[AppleDumpling]

I would never do it. Just can’t imagine trying to get to know someone with intrusive cameras in my face. I think you have to be a certain personality, and also have to be willing to relocate or deal with a long-distance relationship. Have you tried dating apps to meet someone in your area? I know many couples of your generation who met that way.

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

Thank you Captain Obvious.

You are welcome and also welcome to my ignore list. It's a great feature for mustard seed posters elimination. People come in for comraderies and share the delights of same interests. Not for ridicule.
Reading your past posts reveal a warmer heart and a sense of humor would do you some good.

 

[disneychick0412]

If you want to you should go for it. Just knowing that they can edit you however they want. Try not to drink too much and keep your wits about you. Even if you don't end up with the "lead" (I'm thinking Bachelor/Bachelorette type shows), you never know who you might meet through it. Some of those people that don't end up with the lead end up making connections they never would have and find love that way. I watch those types of shows and say, the odds of finding a group of friends is more likely than ending up in love, but that's still worth it for some. Also, some don't end up back in their day jobs, if they are outgoing, and the audience likes them. They end up with social media and sponsorship deals, which if you have the personality for it and want to get away from the 9-5 grind could be fun. Just keep in mind the down sides. Let us know!!

 

[tvguy]

They don't have a very good track record with relationships. A friend was on "Five Guys a Week" and that went nowhere. Then she discovered love, with a guy from her church. So after going to an extreme, she found love right under her nose.

 

[nancipants]

Have you tried dating apps?

 

[Allison]

It just sorta feels like though if I don't do a dating show, my chances at finding a wonderful, normal, and down to earth woman where I live is even less.

That isn't the woman you are going to find on reality tv.

 

[disneychrista]

You are welcome and also welcome to my ignore list. It's a great feature for mustard seed posters elimination. People come in for comraderies and share the delights of same interests. Not for ridicule.
Reading your past posts reveal a warmer heart and a sense of humor would do you some good.

Seriously though, telling someone who has struggled in the finding someone that they need to be introduced to someone is like telling someone that is hungry that they just need to learn to cook. The solution is not as easy as it first appears.

 

[EllieJedi]

I totally understand that. It just sorta feels like though if I don't do a dating show, my chances at finding a wonderful, normal, and down to earth woman where I live is even less. I live in the Hudson Valley not NYC. It's very hard to meet great single women around here. I sometimes wonder if someone wore a sign in a park saying "nice guy looking for a nice single lady to date", after the weird looks and laughs, would a nice lady actually go up to the guy and agree to give them a chance? Obviously the example is a joke but the feeling of trying to find love using a dating website feels like the success rate would just be about the same. I'm not afraid to put myself out there for a genuine chance at finding a real lifetime partner (smartly and safely of course). I'm not old (I'm under 35 but above 28) but it's starting to feel like the "nice guys finish last" phrase might hold some merit. Sometimes I think you all (Disboarders) would be better wingmen/wingwomen than my real world friends in helping @Buzz Rules find a genuine chance of finding love.

Have you attended any of the Disney related events in Orlando, either Dis related or like D23? I think this might be a better way to meet someone you might have more in common with. Or same thing with soccer fan events. Find a more organic way to meet a woman you are likely to have things in common with, I think would yield a better outcome than a reality dating show. Just my .02 cents.

 

[DisneyHardin]

I would say your chance of finding "the one" are pretty slim, but it would probably still be lots of fun.

 

[Lumpy1106]

Best way to hook up with a good person is by being introduced.

Actually, I would say the best way to meet a good person is to BE a good person, and be yourself. When I first started dating DW we had one rule; don't give up your interests or your friends. If it works out, great, otherwise, not meant to be. Face it - when you first date someone you are NOT being yourself. You dress nicer, spend money on things you wouldn't spend money on, take interest in things you aren't interested in - it's a facade, just like these dating shows. IMHO, that's why you almost never see these reality show relationships succeed.

 

[cabanafrau]

I think you might be better off getting involved in volunteer opportunities in your area that appeal to your interests or causes you feel compelled to give service to. Odds are if you meet someone volunteering at the same place they share an interest with you, or someone with a caring nature wanting to make a better community. If nothing else you're likely to make some new friends.

 

[Dead2009]

Honestly? It's a waste of your time. Sure you get to have a little bit of "fun" with whoever on the show for the cameras but at the end of the day, they pick who the girl eventually goes out with. Very rarely do these televised relationships last.

 

[VandVsmama]

I totally understand that. It just sorta feels like though if I don't do a dating show, my chances at finding a wonderful, normal, and down to earth woman where I live is even less. I live in the Hudson Valley not NYC. It's very hard to meet great single women around here. I sometimes wonder if someone wore a sign in a park saying "nice guy looking for a nice single lady to date", after the weird looks and laughs, would a nice lady actually go up to the guy and agree to give them a chance? Obviously the example is a joke but the feeling of trying to find love using a dating website feels like the success rate would just be about the same. I'm not afraid to put myself out there for a genuine chance at finding a real lifetime partner (smartly and safely of course). I'm not old (I'm under 35 but above 28) but it's starting to feel like the "nice guys finish last" phrase might hold some merit. Sometimes I think you all (Disboarders) would be better wingmen/wingwomen than my real world friends in helping @Buzz Rules find a genuine chance of finding love.

Consider this as food for thought:
Out of ALL of the reality TV dating shows you've seen, how many of those people remain happily coupled years and years later? The couple usually separates within a few months or if it was a marriage thing, within a couple of years of getting together.

If one of my friends came to me with this idea, I'd tell him/her that it's the dumbest thing I've ever heard of and only somebody really really desperate (or looking for their 15 min of fame) would entertain such an idea..

 

[disneychrista]

If one of my friends came to me with this idea, I'd tell him/her that it's the dumbest thing I've ever heard of and only somebody really really desperate (or looking for their 15 min of fame) would entertain such an idea..

I do agree that majority of people who go on these shows have ulterior motives besides finding "love" to go on the show.

 

[Buzz Rules]

I have been thinking about this alot this week. I'm still 50/50 on it.

 

[disneychrista]

I have been thinking about this alot this week. I'm still 50/50 on it.

Have you attempted any of the dating apps or any other means of finding a partner? If you haven't pick one. Try it out. See how it goes. Just be warned that they are full of fake/scam profiles. Just be cautious.

I just tried again for the umpteenth time and actually have meet someone very different than I normally end up going out with. We've gone out a couple times and have plans to have plans for this weekend.