I'm confused.

[shellybellypolo]

Okay, so I have this friend, we will call him Guy. Now Guy and I have known each other our whole lives but never really talked. Guy is one year younger than me. Guy and I were recently in last years school play together, and towards the end of August Guy and I started hanging out more. I have started to like Guy more and more, but the closer we got the less likely that we could ever date. We're now so close we're like brother and sister, and Guy has a girlfriend he's only known for a good two and a half weeks. Now as I'm typing this, I am understand myself a little more on this. For Christmas, Guy got me, my brother, my mom, and his grandmother something (Guy's parents are no longer with him ). He got my brother a beta fish, my mother a day at a spa, and his grandmother Phantom of the Opera tickets. Now here's the tripper. This is what Guy got me:

• 3 pairs of real diamond earrings
• He's taking me to NYC. We're going to go to a wax museum, go to Central Park and get portraits done, go to a restraunt, and he said he will buy me anything I want.

And he's not even getting his girlfriend anything. He said he wants to, but he doesn't know what to get her, and if he's getting her anything, it's something small from Hot Topic. He's not even getting his sister anything. And he's spending all this money on me? Does anyone see anything a little odd about this? I feel so horrible about it. He's always there for me, he's willing to get anything for me, and the other night he was like, "Idunno, you're like my dream girl. Blonde hair, really pretty eyes, skinny, (something else I'd rather not mention), strong, but it'd be awkward, y'know?"

Help?

 

[EeyoreFan1]

In my opinion, you need to put the awkwardness aside. If the two of you feel the same way (more than friends) about each other, then I say go for it. Yea, it may or may not affect your relationship as friends, but I would take the risk.

ETA: Also, his girlfriend is going to probably get hurt/upset over you two hanging, and him getting you nice gifts, and not her. So I don't know if those two are going to stick, but again, I don't really know the two.

 

[shellybellypolo]

Yeah, the girlfriend is new. And she knows that we're really close. I don't know if she knows about the New York thing though.

That's how I feel. I want to go for it, but I don't know. I know stuff about him that only him and his grandmother know, so if we were to break up it might be a little odd. But I'd want to take the chance.

Thanks so much for the advice

 

[Tinkerbell424]

In my opinion, you need to put the awkwardness aside. If the two of you feel the same way (more than friends) about each other, then I say go for it. Yea, it may or may not affect your relationship as friends, but I would take the risk.

ETA: Also, his girlfriend is going to probably get hurt/upset over you two hanging, and him getting you nice gifts, and not her. So I don't know if those two are going to stick, but again, I don't really know the two.

ITA.

Take the risk and tell him how you feel. I just did that last night, but I did it through text message (lame, I know) but when he left my best friend who had a crush on me got upset because he likes me and I like this guy...so I texted him and told him, but he hasnt been able to find his phone for 2 days, so I dont think he ever got it. But I felt this big burden sorta lift off of me when I sent the text message. Do it, life is about taking chances and risks.

 

[imabrat]

I guess I'm the only one a little freaked out. He has a girlfriend yet he's all over you? This doesn't sound like the case, but "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you".

Besides, WHERE?! is he getting all that money from? Insane!

 

[Babyjustrun]

Gonna say he's not so serious about the girlfriend.

But he's not getting his sister anything? that's weird..

My boyfriend spent way too much on my gift, we've been going out a month and it irks me. I love it, but it's really toooo much.

 

[crazytp93]

Hm lets see Blondie xD

I think that he might like you, but say if you went out, and it didn't work out, he thinks he might lose you as a friend.

And as for him getting you those things, irdk. I guess he's really just never met someone like you.

Or maybe he really just wants to be friends with you and nothing else?

Oh and my last theory is that he's using his gf to make you jealous, but from the like, 10-15 minutes I was in chat last night with him & you, I didn't really get that.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

I was in a very similar situation.
I was best friends with this guy up at school. We were best friends like right away once we first met. We got along so well, and he kept telling me that he he'd do anything for me and he wants to anything to make me happy.
Soon I started falling for him, and we talked about it, and he told me he liked me, I told him I liked him, and now we're a couple.

It's gonna be kinda awkward because you two are such good friends already, but you'll both get past it. If he's telling you you're his dream girl, that's a huuuge sign that he wants to be more than your friend. That's what my boyfriend was telling me before we were together.

Good luck with it!

 

[shellybellypolo]

I guess I'm the only one a little freaked out. He has a girlfriend yet he's all over you? This doesn't sound like the case, but "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you".

Besides, WHERE?! is he getting all that money from? Insane!

Because of the fact that he lost his parents, he gets their income money.
And I know about the whole cheat thing, that scares me a little too.

Gonna say he's not so serious about the girlfriend.

But he's not getting his sister anything? that's weird..

My boyfriend spent way too much on my gift, we've been going out a month and it irks me. I love it, but it's really toooo much.

I know! I told him to spend money on her and not get me anything big. He isn't listening to me.

Thanks for all the tips you guys. I think I'm gonna take a chance and tell him, but I don't know how or when. I'm gonna see how the relationship with his girlfriend works out first, and then tell him. I'm pretty good friends with the girl, which also scares me because of the whole "Friends don't go out with other friends exes" ordeal. But we've only just become friends because of him, so I don't know if it would still apply?

 

[Walt's_Dream]

Wooooo Hoooooo! Good if you like someone no matter how close give it a shot you never know you could wind up married with that person with 3 kids (lol 1 set of twins ). Ok I am back to serious you should really try it. I am a guy and I pretty much had the same problem except I wasnt able to get the person I liked all that stuff but I was insanly in love with her k: I would have done anything for her. Now I am liking her again and she isn't sure if she likes me and she won't admit it because she has a boyfriend man I cannot wait for the to come when they break up I mean sure if she is upset I am not the kind of person who the second someone breaks up with the person I ask that person out don't get me wrong (trust me my friend did that with this girl after I broke up with her, man do I ever regret breaking up with her but back on subject he got slapped him dead on the face I LOL'D so hard i could not breathe). But hey anything is worth a shot to me you 2 sound like a good couple.
~Walt