I'm about to cry

[MandiC]

I'm so sorry Cancer just sucks. I would wait to cancel. Check into when is the latest you can cancel/change flights/ect.

If he does pass before your scheduled trip it might be nice to get away and distract everyone.
If he doesn't pass before the trip he might *want* you guys to do something fun for your family.

Cancer is so different for each individual. My husband's aunt was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in early June (didn't even suspect it until Memorial day weekend) and given 2 months. It was already in her liver, kidneys, bones/spine, stomach, lungs and of course reproductive organs. Between Easter and Memorial day she lost TONS of weight (she looked perfectly fine at Easter), and June/July/August she looked skeletal. She actually gained weight in September...yes here we are 4 months later and she is still here and doing pretty well considering. She is still considered terminal and we know her time is short but we are enjoying and thankful for the extra time...but I know if someone had planned a family vacation she would want us to still go (and actually one of our close family members is on vacation right now). The chances that he will pass within days or during your trip are pretty slim considering. This is just one thing that can be so different depending on the family though.

 

[Vernie822]

Donna- my thoughts are with you and your family. I just lost my uncle to stage 4 cancer two months ago. He was given his diagnosis, it was also in his neck and liver and he was given a few months to a year. He died within a month. Everyone's body is different and so is everyone's situation. Most of all cherish the days you have left and always keep hoping for one more.

Disney will be there when the time is right. Who knows maybe canceling for now, and trying again in a few months or a year, would allow you to enjoy time with your family knowing you can take a break from reality and just enjoy your time together. I hope for the best for you and your family. It's tough but enjoy each moment you have!

 

[Disneymom2kiddos]

Thank you MandiC and Vernie822. My FIL looks pretty bad right now. It's almost as if he's changed just since the diagnosis, and he knows he is terminal. We are just going to wait and see. My DH wants to keep the reservations, and still go if his Dad passes before we leave. He says we are going to need the distraction. I don't know about that, but we'll figure it out. Thanks you guys.

 

[MaryLovesPoohBear]

Disneymom,

We didn't plan our trip until after their deaths, but we went right after my Dad died.

Both of my parents passed in 2011. Mom in May. Dad in Nov.

After Dad passed, we scheduled a Disney trip in January 2012. In fact, we used some insurance money from Dad to pay for the trip.

The whole trip we were saying things like, "Dad would have loved seeing us do this." Or, " Oh my gosh, Dad would have loved this meal."

Only once, during our trip did I lose it.

It was a great diversion. After months (almost a year) of hospitals, doctors and funerals, we were able to focus on family, fun and food.

Oh, and Mom died of lung cancer. From diagnosis to death was only 2 1/2 weeks. She was given 2 - 3 months. You just never know.

 

[DisneyParkLover]

I'm so sorry! I would ask DH what he wants. And ask yourselves if you would be okay if something happened while you were gone. For some people, they feel like it's easier for them to pass when their loved ones aren't there. My grandmother was like this. I sat and sat by her bedside, and the one evening I gave myself a break was when she went. At first I was upset I wasn't with her, but I truly believe she didn't want me to be there to see that and I am glad my last memories of her are not of her passing. But I know others would never forgive themselves of they were away when it happened. I don't think either way is wrong - just what is best for your family.

 

[happymommy]

I have to agree about just waiting to cancel. Your family may need this distraction, and if you have kids you all may need to just have some happy times.

I'd just wait and see.

 

[Empress Becky B]

Thinking of you and hoping the news has improved.

 

[Marsheliz]

I wouldn't count your FIL out just yet... My mom
Was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in January of 2012 and she died April of 2013. We had longer than we expected and even took her on a trip with us to Disney!

Hugs from South Carolina!

 

[Disneymom2kiddos]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. They gave my FIL a new different round of chemo last week, and he seems to be handling it ok, he's up and moving at least. My DH said we'll wait to make the decision the closer it gets. I could just reschedule personally. He is hopeful he will make it past the holidays. Nobody wants that memory. So, I guess we're just gonna hope for that right now.