If I invited my daughter's boyfriend to WDW

[JanetRose]

it would be the right thing for me to pay for his passes and meals, wouldn't it? They would spend part of the time with her uncle and probably two days with me at WDW. They are both 21 years old and in college.

 

[Buckalew11]

I would do as much as I could.

 

[Swimnoid]

When we had DD's BF come with us he paid for his pass but we paid for most of his meals. We stayed at FW in a cabin so we did a lot of meals there. He went with us several times and sometimes his mom would send some money to cover his meals.

 

[MomofKatie]

I would say yes, if you asked him to come, you should cover his costs (minus spending $, of course). If he asked to come, he should pay for his expenses himself.

 

[coles1mom]

You invite, You pay.

Judi

 

[DisneyMomOK]

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[Laugh O. Grams]

You invite, You pay.

Judi

I agree.

I remember back in college, I was invited to go to NC to my girlfriend's aunt and uncle's house for Thanksgiving with her parents. I accepted and went along on the trip. We drove all together and stayed in a 3 bedroom villa for 5 nights. Upon returning home, my girlfriend's dad said to me, "Thanks for coming. We loved having you. BTW, your portion of the room and gas is $$$." I was like "Huh?!?", but I went ahead and paid anyway...whatever. I always felt it rude and in poor taste...

I would say that if you're going to invite someone and expect them to pay for their share, you should make that extremely clear from the very beginning.

 

[Beth76]

I don't think you have to pay, but you have to be clear on what you're paying and not paying.

I went skiing with my boyfriend's family in HS and they paid for the condo and the gas (we drove) and most meals. I paid my lift ticket, ski rental and ski instruction. I even paid for dinner one night.

 

[lucyanna girl]

When we take any of Sarah's friends with us I always pay everything except their spending money. It does get expensive but I feel if we invite them it is my responsibility.

Penny

 

[Daxx]

You invite, You pay.

Judi

ITA. See if he asks if he can join in. Then, you can say something like "We're going on XYZ date. If you can swing the cost for airfare, hotel, passes, etc., then you're more than welcome to join us". That way, he knows what's expected of him. You could pick up a meal here or there if you wanted to.

 

[eclectics]

When we take any of Sarah's friends with us I always pay everything except their spending money. It does get expensive but I feel if we invite them it is my responsibility.

Penny

I agree. If you invite someone, then they are your guest. If they graciously offer to chip in, then it's your choice whether or not to take them up on it.

 

[antmaril]

We took our son's girlfriend with us to WDW last August (they were both 20 at the time and in college) and we paid for everything. We invited her and it was our treat. She brought money for souvenirs. I booked our trip during Free Dining and it really saved us some $$$$.

 

[damo]

If we are doing that, I usually give them the passes for a birthday or Christmas before we go and then they don't seem to feel so badly about being treated with the other stuff.

 

[bballmom56]

We invited DD23's bf of 4 1/2 years and DS18's gf of 2 years to go to Key West with us as a graduation gift for all of them. We were covering airfare, hotel, meals, etc. Dontcha know after buying all the plane tix DD and bf break up about 2 months before the trip. At least it was Jet Blue and I was able to get a full credit for his seat. Then about 2 1/2 months after the trip, DS's gf dumps him saying he never took her anywhere or did anything special for her (She had never even been on a plane before!). Oh well, I would do it again anyway! So I guess the answer is yes, if you invite, you pay unless a different agreement is made in advance